New Forest Barn Wedding - May 2018
I am officially addicted to this forum and thought it was about time I started writing my own planning thread - I think it's a lovely idea to document the planning process and now that we have (fingers crossed) chosen a venue i thought it was about time i started writing!
How We Met
I met my H2B (I shall ref to him as 'A') at work in 2013. When i first met him i found him so unfriendly and almost scary on my first day. A joint friend who used to work with us (joined the company later than me) once told me she found him scary when she first met him, looking back we both laugh about it! I think actually now i know him i realise he was just shy and he has always been the type of person to go to work, and actually do work - others in the office seemed more approachable and friendly because they were happier to talk rather than work!
Initally I said i thought he was unfriendly and he thought i was loud and annoying = perfect match obviously haha! As the months went by we used to chat quite a bit outside work via Facebook, not tonnes at once but nearly every night, which at the time i didnt really notice but after dating for a while we were laughing at old messages and it was literally every night. We also used to see each other now and again on nights out. I guess over time I realised i liked him, but i never had any idea really whether he did like me or was just being friendly. He wasn't overly flirty or anything, that is probably why i liked him, I always disliked guys who pushed you to make a decision on whether you liked them etc. too quickly!
Anyway we chatted for a couple of months and then one night out we just kissed on a night out- i was very drunk and cannot remember all the night (tut tut). Which is unsual for me as usually i am a lightweight but never get massively drunk! My brother was out that night and he said he had to remove me from being wheeled away by a stranger in the shopping trolley - yes that drunk!
After that we just started seeing each other most days, we weren't sure whether it was frowned upon to date a colleague, we even sat next to each other in the office - awkward! So we continued as 'normal' and never said a word to anyone at work. Neither of us really asked each other out, it kind of just happened.
My boss actually knew first, A told her one day and she was fine with it. We didn't tell anyone else for ages after that. At the work Christmas party (6 months into our relationship) we decided to just tell everyone - i was so relieved, everyone knew anyway (we live in a small city and work in an office full of gossips!) and were happy for us!
For the past 6 months I have been working somewhere different, which was definitely the right decision for us - working together was hard, we were too close for it to work long term and we found it difficult to not discuss work at home all the time. Since then it's lovely to come home and hear about different days and then move on with other things at home and enjoy the evening etc.