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Our August wedding in a vineyard - August 2018.

I have been thinking of starting a planning thread for a while. But I didn't want to start until I had the venue booked. :) Now the venue and official things are booked it seemed a good time to start. 

I have really enjoyed reading everyone else's threads.  :) Hopefully mine won't bore people. ๐Ÿ˜‚

 

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  • MrsMannMrsMann Posts: 757 New bride

    Ohhhh a new thread!  Can't wait to hear all about it Fiona!

  • MrsW-22MrsW-22 Posts: 353 New bride

    How we met.

    I met my OH (I'll call him D) about 4 and a half years ago. We are both massive geeks and met through mutual friends at a gaming evening, which we used to go to once a month to play all sorts of random and unusual board games. (Though there was always a game of cards against humanity playing.). We stopped going after a while because work got in the way.

    We hit it off straight away but only as friends. I was dating someone at the time and he was a bit of a ladies man. Not someone I ever thought I would end up dating. Fast forward several months and my current relationship started to break down and eventually end due to the fact that he didn't understand that some people get emotional from time to time and it is uncontrollable. 

    D and I had grown closer and I counted him amongst my closest friends. We have very similar silly sense of humour which helped. He was my rock through the break up, eventually one thing led to another and we ended up out on our first date. Where things spiralled and everytime the waitress ended up coming to our table she was singing the mission impossible theme tune. A hilarious story for us. :) but doesn't seem to come across well when telling others. ๐Ÿ˜

    We knew two months in that we loved each other, but due to his past he was a bit wary of commitment. Everything was easy, I really am marrying my best friend. Eventually and I still don't know why, his attitude changed and next thing I know we are living together and I spend family events with his family, even when he isn't there. It's all been gradual but smooth and easy. I couldn't be happier.  

  • MrsW-22MrsW-22 Posts: 353 New bride

    The proposal.

    So as I mentioned before D was afraid of commitment when we started dating, I distinctly remember him telling me I would never meet his family and that was that. I didn't mind as I was just enjoying being with someone I could have fun with, and who wouldn't yell at me for crying. Eventually one day he turned round and said we were off to his mums birthday dinner. I didn't question it and just went along, met his entire family in one go. 

    Things spiralled from that point from it not being serious to him casually discussing us having kids  (again completely out of the blue). I never pressured him with anything though I knew I wanted to be with him forever. ๐Ÿ˜Š fast forward another year (so 2 years of dating) the subject of marriage came up. I jokingly said I would propose on the leap year this year.  I should have known by now not to make silly jokes with him that he will deliberately take seriously. 

    Many jokes followed and lots of half joke proposals. It happened that we were in Portugal for leap year this year. Visiting D's dad (tickets and dates arranged by him so completely accidental). I didn't expect anything to happen.  

    I spent most of the 29th of Feb joking around with D and doing lots of D will you.... do x for me. 

    That evening we were out to dinner with D and his dad. D starts to tell his dad all about our joking around and that today was the day I should propose. I got quite embarrassed, and was still clueless. D turns to me and asks "can we agree you aren't actually going to ask me?" I replied I would not (never had been planning it and he knew that). He then said... well can I ask? Got down on one knee and proposed there and then. I can't remember exactly what was said but I did come out with the brilliant line of "oh my god you are actually doing it".

    I did cry. His dad was a little shocked to be present but as D explained as he lives in Portugal he never gets to share in the good news in person.  So he wanted to share it with his dad.

    It was a lovely evening and netted us free drinks from the restaurant staff who had witness the whole thing and had clapped. I got quite embarrassed and did go quite red, but secretly loved the whole thing. โ™กโ™ก

  • Lovely story. Can't wait to read some more xx

  • MrsW-22MrsW-22 Posts: 353 New bride

    The ring.  

    As I mentioned before D's dad had brought us the tickets to Portugal to see him as an Xmas gift.  Unknown to us part of that Xmas gift included a weekend away in other parts of Portugal so we could see more than just to touristy area. 

    So D had to sneak the ring box into our luggage before we flew, out again before I unpacked and then back into a second set luggage to go away for the weekend, then out again. He hid it under mattresses and everything to avoid me finding it. 

    I love my ring, and I'm so happy with the choice he made. ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Šโ™กโ™ก

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  • MrsLMTMrsLMT Posts: 3,830

    Aww, lovely proposal and gorgeous ring X 

  • MrsW-22MrsW-22 Posts: 353 New bride
    FutureMrsThomas wrote (see post):

    Aww, lovely proposal and gorgeous ring X 

    Thank you! :) 

  • MrsW-22MrsW-22 Posts: 353 New bride

    The Date

    We discussed the date at length quite soon after getting engaged. We started off going through various months and discounting them for varying reason. For example Janunary too cold. We discounted most of the months this way and ended up with nothing concrete. We could come up for a reason to discount every month. 

    We then decided to venue hunt for budgets to come up with a more solid date. So going through the venue brochures we quickly realised a weekday wedding was by far cheaper than a weekend. Also that a non summer wedding was also cheaper. So this left us with only being able to book school holidays. 3 of my bridal party are still in school, and two attend private school on Saturdays. We decided the safest times to book (due to shifting holidays and different schools timetables) was either August or April easter holiday. We initially settled on April as this was the cheaper option in the first few venues we saw. However as you might have guessed, after picking our venue the price for a wedding on a Wednesday is the same all year round... so we picked a summer wedding instead. :) 

  • MrsW-22MrsW-22 Posts: 353 New bride

    The hunt for a venue begins....

    When we first started venue hunting I went on to hitched and must have sent away for around 50+ brochures. The only things D and I knew we didn't want was a church wedding. We also knew we wanted to have wedding and reception in the same place. Finally we wanted the wedding local to where we lived (surrey) as D has two elderly relatives and one is wheelchair bound so we didn't want them to have far to travel. That wasn't a concern for my family as they would already be travelling from further distances. 

    With hitched the only details you supply is name, email, date and number of guests. This is then passed on to venues who email you back with the brochures.

    Considering this fact we had a couple of awful/hilarious replies. One began "dear Fiona, we are so sorry for your loss, we can only imagine what you must be going through at this time." What worries me is a) the venue hire was around 16,000 and b) what sort of event that involves a loss did they think I was planning in two years time. The second awful/hilarious response was "Dear Fiona, congratulations on your daughters engagement, you must be so happy". Needless to say we deleted these emails straight away as the initial replies didn't bode well. 

    After narrowing these venues down we were left with about 10 options. 1 which I was in love with and was convinced would be our venue. We booked a date to see it and I was looking at the pictures regularly and showing everyone how beautiful it was. 

  • Loving your report so far and your ring is gorgeous! Can't wait to read more xx

  • Yay so glad you decided to start a thread! Can't wait to hear all about your venue hunt as you are in the same area as me! 

  • Yay! Another August 2018 bride! 

    Loving the thread, such a sweet proposal and a gorgeous ring!

    Definitely staying tuned to hear about your venue ๐Ÿ˜Š

  • MrsW-22MrsW-22 Posts: 353 New bride

    @ruthie1979 thank you. I'm so happy with it, though after a couple of wedding fairs j have realised I need to custom make a wedding band to fit. ๐Ÿ˜

    @DrD-to-be thank you! I have been reading all of yours through as well! Particularly the recent posts about suppliers.  :D

    @Mrs-Farquhar-to-be yay! I can't belive it's now less than two years away. Time really does fly by. It only seems like yesterday we got engaged and people were telling us two years to wait is too long!

     

  • MrsLMTMrsLMT Posts: 3,830

    Looking forward to hearing about your venue search! 

  • MrsW-22MrsW-22 Posts: 353 New bride

    Venue 1 - Cain Manor 

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    It was this room that I fell in love with. I love the beams, the window.  Everything about it. 

    This is the reception room.

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  • MrsW-22MrsW-22 Posts: 353 New bride

    Venue 1 continued 

    We turned up with no expectations, but a list of questions from looking at various magazines, and forums. The venue is in the middle of nowhere, with a long drive up to it. This was our first concern due to elderly guests and wheelchair.  And lack of accommodation it seemed close by. 

    We arrived at the venue and the coordinator we met was really lovely and really chatty. She showed us around and the venue really is as gorgeous as it looks in the pictures. There were several rooms on site for family. It was so easy to picture a wedding there. We then sat down and discussed pricing etc. I had gone through their brochures and done a rough costing myself, which came to around 8000. We were quoted 12000. This venue was already at the top end of our budget, and that pushed it way over. :(

    There were a few other large negatives as well which meant we wouldn't have considered the extra money.  

    1) the floor in the ceremony room creaked as you walked down it. Not something I would want for my wedding day. 

    2) You had to take a certain number of rooms, and all those rooms were the most expensive ones (prices around 236 for the night). 

    3) There was a lot of restrictions, for example to be allowed a DJ you could only use thiers, but that was an extra £600, sweetie cart... had to be theirs £300 extra, want a carpet for the aisle that's an extra £150. The list went on and on. 

    4) as we were leaving the coordinator got very pushy about trying to get us to pay the deposit and book. I didn't appreciate that attitude as we had already discussed that we were only shopping so we knew our exact budget, and stated that we were not intending to book anything for definite for several months. (This was April and we booked our venue this month, after saving the money we needed). She even went so far as to tell me to take out a credit card or make parents give us money. Very very pushy. 

     

    We left a bit deflated and having to start again as we had both decided that this was the one. It definitly was a learning curve though. That made us more cautious in the rest of our venue searches. 

     

     

  • MrsLMTMrsLMT Posts: 3,830

    Wow gorgeous venue. How pushy was the coordinator! Very rude. 

  • Jenni8Jenni8 Posts: 3,202

    Oh wow you went to Cain Manor - I am another Surrey bride but my wedding is in Hampshire. I ooo'd and aahh'd about Cain Manor for ages but based on their only quote calculator thing it was already over budget so we didn't tempt ourselves by going there. It really is stunning though. I just don't know how anyone ever affords it when there are other equally stunning venues for cheaper if you look hard enough!

    I thought that I had already commented on your thread as I remember thinking that our rings are not too dissimilar!

    Looking forward to more!

  • Looking forward to reading all about your venue search - shame Cain Manor didn't work out because it really is stunning but I'm sure there is somewhere even better waiting for you! I also love your ring - really unique but also a classic. He did well! x

  • MrsW-22MrsW-22 Posts: 353 New bride

    So real life has taken over and I have neglected my thread for a while. In fact everything wedding has sort of ground to a halt with the run up to Christmas being so busy for those of us in retail. I think I have redone my rotas so many times I already feel like the Christmas Grinch. 

    Still time to pick up on a rare day off with no xmas planning to do!!

    @FutureMrsThomas she was rather rude. I'm glad to say we haven't encountered anyone like her again. 

    @Jenni8 it was a gorgeous venue, it was the hidden extras that you don't find out about till you get there that made it out of our price range. I don't regret visiting though. After the squeaky floor thing it put me off which meant that I could stop thinking about it as thinking he venue I really wanted.  

    @Littlespice I was so chuffed with my ring he really did do well. :) it's also not overly big which I really wanted.  

  • MrsW-22MrsW-22 Posts: 353 New bride

    Venue number 2

    Morden Hall.

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  • MrsW-22MrsW-22 Posts: 353 New bride

    Morden hall continued..

    We walked in to Morden hall and were greeted by a lovely lady who pretty much runs everything. The venue is new by wedding standards and so was very good value. I loved the ceremony room and I also loved the fact that there was a whole separate room for the ceremony and the wedding breakfast, so there would be no stood around whilst the rooms were changed around. 

    The venue was pretty much a blank canvas in terms of colour and what we would like to do. There were very few restrictions in terms of allowing sweet tables etc. We were very happy. We realised the cost of price between April  (our original date) and August was £300. 

    There was one thing about morden hall that really stuck with me, the staircase that I would walk down to enter the ceremony room.

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    It got stuck in my head and I loved it. D liked the venue as well,  but he thinks with his head more than I do. I wanted the venue but he wanted us to look around rather than jump to the next one we liked. 

    After we viewed the venue there was a bit of a mess up. The day after we viewed the venue prices changed and went up, remember it was a new venue, well they decided to change their prices in line with other venues. They offered us 10 days to book at the old price. However we couldn't have afforded to in time. Luckily the price increase was only an extra £500 so within budget for us. 

  • MrsW-22MrsW-22 Posts: 353 New bride

    Venue no.3 - Nonsuch Mansion

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  • MrsW-22MrsW-22 Posts: 353 New bride

    Venue no.3 cont...


    We went to see nonsuch on a day when there was a photo shoot. Unfortunately that meant we turned up and the doors were all locked and we didn't have anyone there to greet us. It also meant the venue was a bit of a mess inside as well. 

    The rooms were beautiful and we liked the look of the gardens.  However neither of us were very taken by the venue it just wasn't quite what we wanted. The rooms felt a bit too small for our guest list. We also didn't like the fact that we would have to have 1 table in a doorway for the wedding breakfast, considering the size of our guest list. It also ended up being just outside of our price range.

    After this venue I ended up doing more venue hunting as nothing was jumping out at us, and D still wanted us to look at other venues before booking Morden. That's when I came across the 4th and final venue that D and I would view. 

  • MrsW-22MrsW-22 Posts: 353 New bride

    Our Venue - Denbies Wine vineyard

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  • MrsW-22MrsW-22 Posts: 353 New bride

    Our Venue cont...

    Denbies is closer to us than some of the other venues we saw. Which would mean some of his family would be able to stay home rather than needing hotels. :)

    It's cheaper than any of the other venues that we saw, and a bargin when it includes

    * Ceremony and reception venue hire. 10am till midnight.  

    * drinks for drinks reception, and dinner. 

    * Canapés, 3 course meal, and evening buffet for 93 guests. 

    * Wine tasting for 80 adults.

    * Wine "train" tour of the vineyard for all the guests. 

    * All hire for tables, linens, etc and easel hire if we require it. 

    We really like the wedding coordinator when we met her and she had ideas for us that we hadn't even considered and was so enthusiastic with some of our plans that it was infectious. 

    We fell in love with the place when we arrived there, we have even taken his family along for dinner there and we had a lovely meal there. 

    The venue allows us complete flexibility with all our wacky plans and ideas of things that we want. It is a perfect almost blank canvas wedding venue as aside from caters we have free reign to do as we wish with the venue. 

    There is a lovely bed and breakfast on site just behind the venue. We met the owner and she was really nice as well. She showed us the conservatory are where we can have breakfast on day of and day after the wedding. She will allow us to book the entire b and b for the price of the bridal room, until guests choose to book and pay for the other rooms themselves (this includes up until the day of the wedding.). 

    So the date is set and venue and registar are booked.  29th August 2018. 

  • MrsW-22MrsW-22 Posts: 353 New bride

    Colour schemes

    D has been really involved with the wedding from day 1, which I love because I don't want him to feel it isn't his day! He had a colour scheme picked out ages ago. We both agreed in no purple of any shade as both our brother are married, and both had purple colour schemes! 

    D wanted Dark red and Dark orange colours, which I agreed with on the condition or adding copper colours as well as I wanted some metallics and some sparkle :) 

     

    So we are looking at something a little like this.

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    :)

  • MrsW-22MrsW-22 Posts: 353 New bride

    A selection of so many pintrest pins!!!

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     Pintrest is so addictive for wedding ideas! I keep seeing so many pretty things on there! Most of which I could never achieve/afford with my limited schedule!

  • Jenni8Jenni8 Posts: 3,202

    Aww I drove past Denbies once and googled it that day to see if they did wine tasting days only to find they did weddings!  Such an interesting choice and glad to hear it works with your budget and requirements!

  • Lexi90Lexi90 Posts: 971

    That Vineyard is gorgeous - great choice. It looks beautiful yet unique for a wedding venue. 

    Love your colour scheme too, will look great with with the overall look. 

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