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2019 brides!

Hello All,

I wanted to get a thread going for 2019 brides - I'm sure there are lots of you out there...I can't be the only one to be planning this far in advance *blushing*

We've booked our venue and registrar! 24th August 2019 :)

The unusual thing is....we're not 'officially' engaged - although some say you don't need a ring/proposal to be engaged. Our parents know and have been to view the venue. The only other people that know are 2 of our friends who are already married (we loved the band they had at their wedding but couldn't ask for their contact details without giving the game away!) and some of my OH's work colleagues, because he drunkenly let it slip at his work's Christmas party! tut tut haha

I know my OH has the ring and will be proposing at some point this year, but I've said I'm in no rush for the proposal because I want to lose a bit of weight before he 'pops the question' and I'm actually enjoying planning it in secret - it takes away a bit of the pressure of wedding planning I guess!

We'll book a few of the important things over the next couple of months, but then I'm hoping we can relax a bit after that and take things at a slower pace.

We met with a photographer at the weekend and instantly felt at ease with him and both love his work. I've looked at so many other photographers in the area but we kept coming back to him because he provides a second shooter and an assistant all day and stays 2 hours after the first dance to take pictures of the evening reception. We're just waiting on a contract from him and then we'll pay the deposit to get him booked.

I've been emailing the band our friends had at their wedding - they seem fab! They do 4.5 hours (3x 1hour sets and DJ in between) as well as providing all the lighting for the dancefloor area. I'm slightly nervous about booking the band so early, especially since they are only semi-professional - but they have played at our venue many times, have won a couple of awards and we loved them at our friends' wedding! We have a quote from them but its about £200 more than our friend's paid for them last year (and their wedding was further away so their travel costs would've been higher). Do you think I can haggle with a band?

I'd like to hear from other brides (or grooms!) planning a 2019 wedding!

Happy planning x

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  • britbirdbritbird Posts: 1,453 New bride

    Ha, the above is a bit like me.  We are not officially engaged,  No one knows, apart from our family jeweller as we have already got the ring.  We haven't booked anything yet though, and are probably not likely to for a little while as we are just about to move and spend an inordinate amount of money on a new house so venue deposits etc will have to take a back burner.  We are definitely 2019 though, and possibly even August.  I have seen a venue I love, but we haven't visited it yet :-)  

  • MrsStobe4MrsStobe4 Posts: 282

    Two years isn't that far in advance really, I suspect it's probably about average nowadays with the expense of weddings!

    In regards to the band, you might be able to get them down but don't forget that the cost will naturally increase with inflation, every supplier will increase their prices year on year so don't be disappointed if you don't manage to get a deal!

    Good luck with the rest of your planning!

  • Ambam19Ambam19 Posts: 562 New bride

    I'm 2019 bride too ๐Ÿ˜Š

    My fiancé thinks I'm mad for arranging stuff already but we're getting married in Santorini so I want to be organised

  • Hello! How exciting, finally a thread for us 2019 Brides 

    I was starting to think I'm a little too enthusiastic too soon hehe 

    We are getting married in January 2019 but haven't booked a thing so far and have only seen one venue which was totally out of budget eek!

  • Kelly224Kelly224 Posts: 960 New bride

    I'm a late 2018 bride but just a recommendation, it's never too early to book your venue! We did ours last week so nearly 2 years in advance and we asked what Sunday's were available in November or December 2018 and out of a choice of 10 possible dates only 4 were still available!  So people do book really far in advance!

  • MrsStobe4 wrote (see post):

    Two years isn't that far in advance really, I suspect it's probably about average nowadays with the expense of weddings!

    In regards to the band, you might be able to get them down but don't forget that the cost will naturally increase with inflation, every supplier will increase their prices year on year so don't be disappointed if you don't manage to get a deal!

    Good luck with the rest of your planning!

     

    Yeah I realised I was looking at the wrong column on our friends' planning spreadsheet! I was looking at their estimated cost, not what they actually paid.

    The band offered us a £50 discount! I'm chuffed with that :) I just need to sign their contract and pay the deposit!

  • Rekss101 wrote (see post):

    Hello! How exciting, finally a thread for us 2019 Brides 

    I was starting to think I'm a little too enthusiastic too soon hehe 

    We are getting married in January 2019 but haven't booked a thing so far and have only seen one venue which was totally out of budget eek!

    Congratulations! It's so exciting isn't it?! :) we've been discussing our wedding since August last year and actually planning it since September! Now we're into 2017 I thought it was about time we had a thread on here!

    I'd echo what Kelly said - try to be as prepared as possible and start searching for a venue now. Particulary since you're planning for January 2019. It's not that far away really!! We knew we wanted the August bank holiday Saturday so made sure we booked our venue early (we booked ours at the end of November last year)

  • Yup! June 2019...... narrowing down venues ATM 

  • San1969San1969 Posts: 577

    I'm a 2019 bride too! We haven't booked anything yet though as I I'm in the process of moving the contents of my house into his, bit of a nightmare . So the real planning will start in March.  This will be second time round for both of us and I'm looking forward to planning it together as he is keen to be really involved, unlike my first wedding where I made all the decisions! 

  • March 2019 bride here! Viewing a venue on Friday but we already know we want the place so we just want to go and see the logistics of the place really, and find out any hidden charges! Doing it in two years so that we can save up enough and make sure we get as much as we want for the day, although we're both happy to save in some areas so we can spend in others. I'll be doing my own make up and my entire outfit should hopefully be less than £300, staying all in the same venue to cut down on transport, going to DIY our decorations and centrepieces and stuff. Looking forward to organising it all to be honest! 

  • GettinWifed wrote (see post):

    March 2019 bride here! Viewing a venue on Friday but we already know we want the place so we just want to go and see the logistics of the place really, and find out any hidden charges! Doing it in two years so that we can save up enough and make sure we get as much as we want for the day, although we're both happy to save in some areas so we can spend in others. I'll be doing my own make up and my entire outfit should hopefully be less than £300, staying all in the same venue to cut down on transport, going to DIY our decorations and centrepieces and stuff. Looking forward to organising it all to be honest! 

    Congrats! You sound very organised already! How did the venue viewing go?

  • We've finally chosen our venue, deposit going down next week! Eeeeeeeeek! 

  • JoanneSJoanneS Posts: 41

    I'm a 2019 bride, engaged at Christmas, venue already chosen! Finding the venue was easy, but now I'm really struggling with what date to pick!
    Our venue so far only has a handful of dates booked for 2019 so I really can have whatever date I want, I thought this would help but it's done the opposite!
    I've had my heart set on Mauritius for honeymoon, but when it's nice in Mauritius, it's not so nice here from what I've found online. 25/27 degrees just isn't hot enough, and I kind of want to avoid the humidity because who wants to spend the honeymoon looking like a total frizz hair ball?!?

  • JoanneS, could you go for your honeymoon later? or do you have your heart set on going straight away?

  • SammykateSammykate Posts: 3,298

    I've delayed my honeymoon 3/4 months for the same reason- the weather doesn't align for both! We wanted a summer wedding but the Orlando and Caribbean in the summer is a no-no. I'm really really glad we've done it this way as it gives me something big to look forward to after the wedding, and to fill the planning gap in my life. We are having a little minimoon to Majorca for 4 nights straight after the wedding as well.

  • JoanneSJoanneS Posts: 41
    Gradette wrote (see post):

    JoanneS, could you go for your honeymoon later? or do you have your heart set on going straight away?

     

     

    Would love to, but h2b has his heart set on flying straight after. I mentioned how about a mini-moon, I love the idea of Iceland for 4/5 days, but he didn't seem too keen. May have to do some subtle hints and try convince him!

    Sammykate, what month are you going? I just love the idea of Mauritius! Would be good to have something to look forward to, even after the wedding as I've heard it's quite a bump back to earth with nothing to look forward to once it's all over!

  • We are doing NYC so not so dependent on weather, and doing a 'relaxing' minimoon in the Lakes once we are back before h2b goes back to work

    Id go with not so subtle hints haha! say this is the plan lol

  • SammykateSammykate Posts: 3,298
    JoanneS wrote (see post):
    Gradette wrote (see post):

    JoanneS, could you go for your honeymoon later? or do you have your heart set on going straight away?

     

     

    Would love to, but h2b has his heart set on flying straight after. I mentioned how about a mini-moon, I love the idea of Iceland for 4/5 days, but he didn't seem too keen. May have to do some subtle hints and try convince him!

    Sammykate, what month are you going? I just love the idea of Mauritius! Would be good to have something to look forward to, even after the wedding as I've heard it's quite a bump back to earth with nothing to look forward to once it's all over!

    I'm getting married in June and doing the Honeymoon in October! Just tell him he gets 2 holidays instead of 1 if you have a minimoon and honeymoon haha. It's funny, I also wanted to fly somewhere straight after the wedding even if it was just a minimoon, but my H2B isn't bothered at all and I'm convinced he would happily go back to work the day after! Men are so weird.

  • JoanneSJoanneS Posts: 41

    I might go down the 'but we'll have two holidays this way', how can anyone say no to that?

    I'm dying to get the venue booked, I really want a May/June wedding, warm but not too warm. I went to a wedding last Aug, and it was so unbearably hot, I don't know how the bride coped in her big dress!

     

  • MissD2016 wrote (see post):
    GettinWifed wrote (see post):

    March 2019 bride here! Viewing a venue on Friday but we already know we want the place so we just want to go and see the logistics of the place really, and find out any hidden charges! Doing it in two years so that we can save up enough and make sure we get as much as we want for the day, although we're both happy to save in some areas so we can spend in others. I'll be doing my own make up and my entire outfit should hopefully be less than £300, staying all in the same venue to cut down on transport, going to DIY our decorations and centrepieces and stuff. Looking forward to organising it all to be honest! 

    Congrats! You sound very organised already! How did the venue viewing go?

    Really well! Signed the contract and paid the deposit today ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

  • GettinWifed wrote (see post):
    MissD2016 wrote (see post):
    GettinWifed wrote (see post):

    March 2019 bride here! Viewing a venue on Friday but we already know we want the place so we just want to go and see the logistics of the place really, and find out any hidden charges! Doing it in two years so that we can save up enough and make sure we get as much as we want for the day, although we're both happy to save in some areas so we can spend in others. I'll be doing my own make up and my entire outfit should hopefully be less than £300, staying all in the same venue to cut down on transport, going to DIY our decorations and centrepieces and stuff. Looking forward to organising it all to be honest! 

    Congrats! You sound very organised already! How did the venue viewing go?

    Really well! Signed the contract and paid the deposit today ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

    Fantastic! Congrats :) was the price what you wanted/expected?

    Our venue was more expensive than we thought it would be. £100 per person and then ceremony room hire (which we would only spend 30 minutes in anyway!) - BUT we booked back in October/November so they were more willing to do a deal. We got £500 off the ceremony room hire, £250 behind the bar, 2 bedrooms for us the night before, free giant garden games, free popcorn machine and free candy cart. I was chuffed with that :)

    My aim is to ask for a discount/offer on every single aspect of our day. Even if they say no, at least we've asked! Already got a discount on the venue, photographer, band/DJ and potential videographers (haven't booked videographer yet but they've offered £200 off - although still ridiculously expensive so I'm having a hard time trying to convince MrD!)

  • Where are your venues? I love that I'm not the only one mega prepared! 

    Weve booked venue, starlit curtain& tablecloths, LOVE letters and VR racing machine and have provisional bookings with photographer, pianist, photo booth & florist 

  • Gradette wrote (see post):

    Where are your venues? I love that I'm not the only one mega prepared! 

    Weve booked venue, starlit curtain& tablecloths, LOVE letters and VR racing machine and have provisional bookings with photographer, pianist, photo booth & florist 

    Mine is Fanhams Hall in Ware (Hertfordshire). Originally I had ruled it out because I didn't like the pictures of the long gallery online - but once we went to view it my opinion changed completely! For a while it was a toss-up between a venue in the New Forest (Rhinefield House) and Fanhams, but Fanhams won hands down in the end because I didn't get a good vibe from the wedding co-ordinator at Rhinefield and their price of bedrooms is ridiculous (£210 per night and only 15 rooms were allowed to stay for only 1 night - everyone else would have to stay for 2 nights!). The only offer they would give us was free chair covers (usually £2.50 per chair!) but when you're paying £150 per person that's just not good enough! I was bummed at the time because the outside of the venue and the drive up to it is like a fairytale, but I'm 100% sure we made the right decision with Fanhams - and our co-ordinator Ellie is so lovely!

     

  • JoanneSJoanneS Posts: 41

    MissD2016; that's fantastic haggling, I need to remember to be cheeky to see what we can get off!
    I just always feel too cheeky asking  

    Any tips on how to do it, or just go for it and see what they say?

  • JoanneS wrote (see post):

    MissD2016; that's fantastic haggling, I need to remember to be cheeky to see what we can get off!
    I just always feel too cheeky asking  

    Any tips on how to do it, or just go for it and see what they say?

    I've just been going for it and see what they say. I've only done it by email so far because I would probably get sheepish in person, but our photographer said he would prefer to discuss money in person and he mentioned it at the end of our meeting and offered us £100 off without me having to say anything. Although I did tell him I had been looking at his facebook/website since September last year and wish I had contacted him before he put his prices up in January (he put his price up by £200) - I think that helped.

    I've just been super nice and enthusiastic - saying things like 'I've had my heart set on your [enter service here] since I started researching last year and we really want to make the budget work because we're so impressed with you/your service/website etc'.

    The photobooth company we want are playing hardball at the moment so I've looked at their package and tried ways of taking things out of the package to see if they will reduce the price or include an extra hour for free etc.

    With the venue I just compared their package to other venues we had seen - and may've exaggerated on what the other venues had offered us! I told them another venue had offered us both a room the night before, and also a room for both sets of parents on the night of the wedding - they gave me and MrD 2 separate rooms for the night before, but couldn't give our parents rooms on the night so instead offered us £250 behind the bar, which is actually better value than the cost of 2 bedrooms!

    With the band and videographers I got a quote from them and then told them what our budget was that I thought I could get away with. e.g - if the band's quote was £1500, I told them our budget was £1300 and asked if they could do anything to bring their price down closer to our budget (just an example, I can't remember the exact price of our band but they weren't that expensive). The band only offered a £50 discount because that's what they offer if you book them at a wedding fair, but we knew we really wanted them so decided it was worth it.

    The videographers are ridiculously expensive, which is why we haven't booked them yet - I told them our budget was £1000 less than they had quoted (so you can imagine how expensive they are!!!) and they offered £200 off because ours is a 'smaller' wedding - I didn't think our 120 people guestlist was small, but apparently it is by their standards!

  • Sounds like you're great at the haggling! 

  • Gradette wrote (see post):

    Sounds like you're great at the haggling! 

    Thanks - the worst they can say is no!

  • We're having ours at The Bond Company in Birmingham. The cost was what I expected considering the prices of other venues in the area but it includes full use of the entire site for 12 hours, staffing, decorations, wedding coordinator and the venue is exactly the kind of place we wanted. So I'm really pleased. 

    Plus there's space for a bouncey castle so that helped. 

  • Bouncy Castle - Im jealous. 

     

    Were getting married on newcastle quayside with the bridges in the background :)

  • GettinWifed wrote (see post):

    We're having ours at The Bond Company in Birmingham. The cost was what I expected considering the prices of other venues in the area but it includes full use of the entire site for 12 hours, staffing, decorations, wedding coordinator and the venue is exactly the kind of place we wanted. So I'm really pleased. 

    Plus there's space for a bouncey castle so that helped. 

    I've just had a nosey at your venue's website! It looks great and really unique compared to most  of the venues near me (in a good way!) The bouncy castle is a fab idea! Your guests will love it :)

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