Our Scottish / Boho / Forest / Castle Wedding (2018)

Hi Girls (and guys).

I have really been enjoying reading all your planning threads. They are a great source of inspiration!

We are still in the really early stages of planning (as you will find out soon). But I was thinking that it would be nice to have a place to write down the process that we are going through in planning one of the most important days of our life. It will also be fun to read through after our wedding.

 

 

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  • A LITTLE BIT ABOUT US

    I’m an architect by day and a Travel Blogger / Vlogger by night. My dad is English and my mum is German. I was born in Munich, grew up in Paris where I was educated in an International School, studied at the Mackintosh School of Architecture in Glasgow and am currently rediscovering my family roots in London. I am Trilingual (fluent in English, French and German) and have a basic understanding of Spanish. My parents got divorced when I was 6 and we subsequently moved in with my Scottish step-dad in Paris. I love to spend money and often make decisions based on what my heart/gut tells me. I am 27 years old, turning 28 in September.

    Mr M is a marine engineer/surveyor. He was born and grew up in Stranraer, a small town in the South of Scotland. He loves history and would really rather be an archaeologist. He doesn't speak any other language but English. His parents have been together since they were teenagers. He is a self-confessed hermit / prefers to avoid people. But when he is with his friends he really relaxes. He is so funny, which I love about him. He is stereotypically Scottish and prefers to hoard his money. The upcoming year is going to be painful :P He is 30 years old -  old man ;) 

    So really we couldn't be any more different, but somehow it works. I feel I can completely be myself with him. We both love to travel. It combines my interest in cultures and architecture with his interest in history.

  • HOW WE MET

    My fiancee and I actually met online on a website called Plenty of Fish. I had broken up with my ex of five years and decided it was time to meet new people. So I decided to give online dating a go. The algorithm of POF kept suggesting Mr M, so I sent him a message. 

    We agreed to meet at Glasgow's Library. I was in the middle of writing my last dissertation for my architectural degree, so I did not have a lot of time on my hands. We had lunch together at the library's cantine. We got on immediately and had a lot to talk about. There was definitely a connection. At the end of our date, we exchanged phone numbers.

    After that, things got a little hectic / crazy at university and I wasn't in touch with him for over 2 months. Mr M says whilst he called his mum directly after our date to tell her how well it went, he soon forgot about me when I never got back in contact. So he couldn't quite remember who I was when I finally did text him. Nonetheless, we agreed to meet up again and visited three different parks in Glasgow. We hit it off and have been together ever since.

  • Katherine66Katherine66 Posts: 1,234

    Hi dandelion ive just married my pof guy!   ive enjoyed reading this so far, whens the wedding?

    How long have you been together ? So many questions tell us more!!  

     

    My thread is when the moon shines over the cow shed and report is cow shed july,  ours was just over two weeks ago now.  

     

     

     

     

  • AND THEN...

    At this point, Mr M lived in Helensburgh, whilst I lived in the South of London. By working over time Mr M was able to take Fridays off and so soon he started spending Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays at my flat. This went on for a year and a half.

    In 2013 the economy of Scotland was still down in the dumps and there weren't many jobs for architects in Glasgow. So I really had no choice but to move down to London. Whilst I was offered a job almost immediately, it wasn't so easy for Mr M. And so we spent a whole year apart. I lived in London and he was still back up in Scotland. At the start, Mr M would come down every second weekend by train. Soon he bit the bullet and went back to sea. This meant he could spend the two full weeks he was off work down with me in London. We always saw this as a temporary solution and he kept his eye out for job opportunities in London. After one year he finally got a job offer from an insurance company and was able to move down to London.






    We have now lived together in a small flat with a garden in North East London for three years. We have a very large aquarium and my five Goldfish (Blacky, Little Lemon, Big Red, Clementine and Jaffa). On Weekends we head out into the countryside and explore the local areas that surround London. Most of our spare money and time is spent on travelling. We couldn’t live without it!






  • Katherine66 wrote (see post):

    Hi dandelion ive just married my pof guy!   ive enjoyed reading this so far, whens the wedding?

    How long have you been together ? So many questions tell us more!!  

     

    My thread is when the moon shines over the cow shed and report is cow shed july,  ours was just over two weeks ago now.  

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    Hi Katherine. Thank you for popping over to my little corner. I will definitely check out your thread. And congratulations!

    It is nice to meet a fellow POF couple :) It just proves that online dating does work. Mr M generally wants us to keep the way we met a secret. And we tend to tell people we met at the library. But this is why I always encourage collegeues and friends to try online dating.

    In total we have been together for five and a half years. We are planing to have the wedding in Augyst / September 2018. So in one year, Yikes

     

     

  • TALKING ABOUT OUR FUTURE

    Mr M and I started talking about our future pretty early on in our relationship. Sometimes men do this but I always felt he was being sincere. We are both planners and so we would set ourselves goals to achieve. I mentioned to him within the first year of our relationship, that I would probably expect a proposal after we had been together for five years. 

    My mum got married at 28 and she had me in the same year. So this always felt like a bit of a deadline. I really want to be pregnant with our first baby before 30.

    After three years we started planning our future ( wedding / buying a house / having kids) more intentionally. He started asking me what type of engagement rings I like, what ring he could use to size my finger.

    I still needed to pass the last part of my architectural degree. This involved studying whilst working full time. The course costs a good chunk of money but my office was willing to pay for it if I agreed to stay for another three years. Mr M and I are hoping to buy a house soon and so we will need to move away from London (we are currently thinking about moving to Yorkshire). But until I pass my degree we are stuck in the horrendously expensive capital, unable to move forward with our lives.

    So a year ago we set ourselves a target of three years. In 2019, we wanted to get/be married, buy/have bought a car and start trying to have a baby. This meant we had a goal to work towards and save money for.

  • THE PRE-PROPOSAL...

    A couple of months ago Mr M started acting odd. He was nervous, antsy, easily stressed, easily annoyed. He started hiding his phone. And he became obsessed with money. So I thought there might be a chance he is planning to propose pretty soon.

    But part of me was worried. This is exactly how my ex acted before we broke up. He was cheating on me at the time.

    And then two weeks ago Mr M and I had a pretty big tiff (about money). Mr M is a bit on the stingy side (even his mum and sister say so). It is something I have gotten used to and simply accept about him. He is much better with money than I am and I can learn a lot from him. But that day Mr M was being incredibly unreasonable. To calm me down he told me there was something stressing him out that he couldn't tell me about. This did nothing to calm my nerves. It got me so worried I started to cry. 

    Mr M stormed off into our bedroom and came back with a little blue box. Suddenly it clicked. Oh no, what had I done, I had ruined it for myself!  As Mr M got down on one knee and told me he meant to do this on our upcoming trip in Japan (in six weeks time), I panicked. I put my hand on the box, stopped him from opening it and told him I wanted him to do it the way he had originally planned.

    He was devastated and cried (something he never does). He had been planning this proposal for two years. Everyone he told about the proposal was really excited and astonished at his effort. At this point, Mr M is still incredibly upset that he won't be able to surprise me (not in the way he wanted). But as I keep telling him, I don't know what the ring looks like, I do not know what day he will be proposing or how he will be doing it. Nonetheless, he doesn't want me to tell anyone. 

    Since he told me about the proposal, however, Mr M has been far less stressed and nervous. I finally understood why he was so worried out about money. We had originally set a budget for the ring, but he went and bought something far more expensive. This left a serious dent in his savings. A dent Mr M isn't comfortable with but that in itself isn't that worrying.

    We decided to have a mini celebration to erase the bitter taste of our tiff and took a trip to Colchester. We visited Flatford and Beth Chatto's garden. On our drive there both of us got really excited about our upcoming wedding. We discussed dates and settled on August / September 2018. With the upcoming, we aren't sure what the future holds. My grandparents are also starting to show their age and it would be nice to have them present at our wedding.

    Over the excitement of the "pre-proposal", I completely forgot I was meant to visit my grandmother. Who of course was terribly upset. So Mr M ended up telling my parents and sister about his plans to propose to me. However, they do not know that I know and Mr M wants to keep it that way. Ever since Mr M told my mum and sister, they have been texting him every day, to ask questions both about the upcoming proposal and the wedding. I have a feeling they have already started making plans without me ;)

    At this point, there are four weeks to go. It goes without saying I am terribly excited and cannot wait for the count-down to be over.

  • Katherine66Katherine66 Posts: 1,234

    Omg that pre proposal !!    Oh i dont know what to say its just sweet and awful ar the same time, i do things like that at yule( im pagan) and my family get so mad at me i cant let them have secrets!!   

    I know what you meant about the phone thing im  divorced to and my ex got very touchy about phone and computer!   Hed been having an affair for two years before i found out.  

     

    Anyway looking forward to more. 

  • Katherine66 wrote (see post):

    Omg that pre proposal !!    Oh i dont know what to say its just sweet and awful ar the same time, i do things like that at yule( im pagan) and my family get so mad at me i cant let them have secrets!!   

    I know what you meant about the phone thing im  divorced to and my ex got very touchy about phone and computer!   Hed been having an affair for two years before i found out.  

    Anyway looking forward to more. 

    I am like you. I am the worst when it comes to secrets. I hate being surprised. Although this one time I really wanted to be.

    He didn't do that bad up until that point. It is so odd how similar the signs of proposing and cheating can be.

    The reason he was hiding his phone was because he had pictures of the ring on it. 

    Looking forward to adding a nice paragraph about the actual proposal in 6 weeks time after our holiday to Japan.

  • THE WEDDING BUDGET

    MrM doesn't want me to start planning the wedding until we are officially engaged. I promised to do my best not too and lasted 5 days. Last weekend he even let me buy a couple of wedding magazines.

    I am trying not to do too much at this point, but am starting to get anxious about certain things.

    One of those is the amount of money we are going to need to spend. We had always budgeted to spend around 13 000 - 14 000£. Now this seems like a lot of money to me.But then online I read that the average budget for a wedding in the UK is 20 000£. Wow was I shocked! Thankfully I came across this forum and realised that people create beautiful weddings for as little as 3000£. This re-assured me that our budget was indeed realistic.

    Of course, any money that we don't spend on the wedding will go towards buying a house. So we want to save money whether we can. I hope that my mum (who is an excellent seamstress) will agree to make my wedding dress. We also do not want to spend too much on the wedding cake. And where ever I can I would like to use my DIY skills.

    However, we also want to take this wedding seriously. This will hopefully be a once in a lifetime thing. So we want the day to be special. I do not want to look back a couple of years down the line wishing we had spent more money on our wedding.

    We always imagined that we would get married in a castle or a manor house. And those do not come cheap. But we are hoping to keep the wedding relatively small, with 31 adults and 4 children at the ceremony and up to 60 people at the reception. 

    Most of MrM's friends and family members cannot afford to travel, so we are planning a wedding in Scotland. My family lives all over Europe and my friends all over the world. But they are used to travelling further afield. Plus I always wanted to get married in Scotland anyway.

    Other than that the photographer is really important to me. I would also like to invest in a videographer. Afterall, it is the photographs and films that last a lifetime. I want them to be of good quality and something I enjoy looking at, years down the line.

     

    So here is our budget as it stands at the moment:

     

    Venue, Ceremony - 500

    Venue (reception) -3200

     

    Wedding Breakfast (including food, service, flatware, stemware, china, etc.) - 1000

    Beverage during Wedding Breakfast )including corkage) -250

    Evening Buffet (including food, service, flatware, stemware, china, etc.) - 790

    Bartending/Beverage (including service, alcohol, glassware, etc.) -950

    Cake/Dessert - 170

     

    Marriage License -70

    Officiant - 420

     

    Photographer - 1190

    Videographer - 1190

     

    Flowers - 560

    Other Decor - 300

    Rentals (chairs, tables, linens) -140

     

    Website - 20

    Homemade Invitations (including RSVP cards) - 30

    Homemade Place Settings / Menus -30

    Homemade Order of the day -20

    Postage - 60

     

    Wedding Dress made by mum - 500

    Bride accessories - 150

    Lingerie - 50

    Hair and makeup (just me) - 100

    Bridesmaids (3) - 225

    Wedding Bands - 400

    Groom Kilt - 150

    Groom Accessories - 95

    Best Man - 80

     

    Piper - 150

    Ceilidh /DJ -550

    DIY Photobooth - 150

    Transportation - 450

    Gifts, favors, extra fees, etc. - 100

     

    Emergency fund - 140

     

  • VegasLouVegasLou Posts: 821

    Ooh I'm really enjoying your planning thread so far. Well done for stopping him proposing, he's obviously put a lot of time and thought into it and I'm sure the proposal will be just perfect when it happens. Japan is in my list of places to visit, how exciting. 

  • Katherine66Katherine66 Posts: 1,234

    Just looking at your finances, seems you have thought of everything!

     

     Of course peoples priorities are different i spent £16000 with most on dress and veil £2000+,   food 1200 venue decs/ hire stuff 1600 and flowers £1600.  Cake 450. Car 450. Dj 450,  mens hire £300,  bridesmaids dresses 700 for 3.  Shoes £350 for 3 pairs.

     

      Our venue was free and we had to supply everything bar toilets the lot !  Luxury toilet block £550 for hire !!  

     

    We married in church ao another £824 for all the bells service fees banns choir etc

    Lingerie - pair of knickers £30.  

    I think its the little stuff  that starts to add up, i made my own napkins and half my own favours but bought lots of decorations, keys mini tamborines wedding crackers ribbon favour bags  tags all sorts.   I will bet you will go over budget by about half again, this happens with a lot if projects so beware!!  

     

     

     

  • britbirdbritbird Posts: 1,453 New bride

    Welcome!  Loving your thread so far.  Can't wait to hear more.  

  • Katherine66 wrote (see post):

    Just looking at your finances, seems you have thought of everything!

     

     Of course peoples priorities are different i spent £16000 with most on dress and veil £2000+,   food 1200 venue decs/ hire stuff 1600 and flowers £1600.  Cake 450. Car 450. Dj 450,  mens hire £300,  bridesmaids dresses 700 for 3.  Shoes £350 for 3 pairs.

     

      Our venue was free and we had to supply everything bar toilets the lot !  Luxury toilet block £550 for hire !!  

     

    We married in church ao another £824 for all the bells service fees banns choir etc

    Lingerie - pair of knickers £30.  

    I think its the little stuff  that starts to add up, i made my own napkins and half my own favours but bought lots of decorations, keys mini tamborines wedding crackers ribbon favour bags  tags all sorts.   I will bet you will go over budget by about half again, this happens with a lot if projects so beware!!  

     

    Thank you, Katherine, for the really clear break down of how much you spent on your own beautiful wedding. I am aware that my budget for certain things is a bit tight. Especially flowers I think. As you said the little things add up too. And we might very well end up going over budget. I am going to try to stick as much as possible to the plan. And hopefully, if we overspend in certain areas we can cut costs in others. I just need to keep reminding myself of our goal to get a house lol

  • VegasLou wrote (see post):

    Ooh I'm really enjoying your planning thread so far. Well done for stopping him proposing, he's obviously put a lot of time and thought into it and I'm sure the proposal will be just perfect when it happens. Japan is in my list of places to visit, how exciting. 

    Thank you VegasLou for popping over into my thread. So glad you are enjoying it so far. I must admit, knowing that he is going to propose but having to wait has me on tender hooks. But I am glad that I did stop him. This 

    This will be our second time in Japan. Next, to history, Japanese culture is one of MrM's biggest passions. You should definitely go if you get a chance.

  • britbird wrote (see post):

    Welcome!  Loving your thread so far.  Can't wait to hear more.  

    Cheers Britbird. Happy to hear that you are enjoying my thread. Loads more to come.

  • RESEARCHING WEDDING VENUES

     

    So the other thing that has me slightly worried is booking a venue. We were originally planning to be engaged for two years or so. But because of the current political unrest (my family lives in Europe) and because my grandparents aren't doing too well at the moment, we have decided to get married in a year. 

    I have heard that wedding venues get booked out quickly. Especially the beautiful ones that offer packages at a reasonable price. Furthermore, MrM and I are planning to get married in one of the busiest seasons - August or September. Whilst I wouldn't mind an October, November or December wedding, MrM would prefer a summer wedding.

    So although MrM doesn't want me to start planning until we get back from Japan, I have started to create a shortlist. The intention is to go visit our favourite venues (that also meet our budget) in October and November. We would then need to pick and book one ideally before 2018 rolls around.

    Ideally, we are looking for a place that isn't too far from Stranraer or Glasgow. Although MrM isn't keen on Ayrshire. I was, therefore, thinking Argyll and Bute or Perthshire. We are looking for a historic place with nice gardens. MrM is keen on a castle or manor, but I like rustic barns too. 

    I have fallen in love with the look of the ballrooms at Glen Tanar and Blair Castle. I particularly like the vaulted timber ceiling and the grand fireplace. But both those venues are on the expensive side and slightly out of our budget (10373£ and 8573£).

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    I tend to be very organised and love my excel lists. I have created one specifically for the venues, that breaks down what each venue offers and at what price.I then contacted the various venues by email to find out more about their pricing structure.

    Based on their pricing structure (including food), these are the venues that are currently in the running and that I am considering having us visit:

    Brig o' Doon House - 7572£

    Dalhousie Castle - 3920£

    Scone Palace  - 7472£

    Rowallan Castle - 7736£

    Fingask Castle - 7533£

    Comlogan Castle  - 6572£

    Plane Castle - 5990£

    Knockderry House  - 6847£

    Balinakill - 6658£

    Cornhill House Hotel - 3981£

    Culcreuch - 7540£

    Pollok House -7725£

    Ardoch - 7088£

    Gunsgreen House - 7763£

    Cameron House - 5886£

    Crear Barn - 7318£

    Bachilton Barn - 7011£

    Mar Hall Golf and Spa - 7330£

    Another place that remains a back-up is the House of an Art Lover in Glasgow (5310£). This was one of my grandad's favourite restaurants. My grandad passed away four years ago. And so House of an Art Lover holds precious memories for me and my family. When I was a teenager I told my parents that this is where I wanted to get married one day. However, a friend of mine had her wedding there and ever since the thought of having my wedding at the House of an Art Lover hasn't been as special to me. MrM knows this, but my family might try and convince us to pick HoaAL anyway.

    Some of these venues are currently outside of the budget I set. However, I am thinking that by negotiating on the price and by saving money elsewhere, I could perhaps make them work.

  • WEDDING THEME - INITIAL IDEAS

    I have always wanted to have a Scottish wedding with kilts and to my surprise, MrM has agreed to where one. So our wedding theme will definitely include some tartan here and there. However, we do not want to go full-blown Scottish.

    I am keen not to have what I would personally perceive as a "tacky" wedding. We want to keep things elegant and traditional.

    Taking inspiration from the timber ballrooms I have fallen in love with, my first hunch is to go with a woodsy / boho vibe. I would like to incorporate tree trunks, lots of candles, wild flowers, ivy, eucalyptus, moss and branches. In terms of colours, I am thinking dark green, blue and white.

    In terms of colours, I am thinking of sticking mainly to dark green, blue and white.

    For my flowers, I imagine that they will include thistles, white roses, baby breath and a lot of greenery. I am hoping to make the table centre pieces myself by sourcing flowers from a local nursery.

    I have created a Pinterest account to start gathering ideas:

    https://www.pinterest.co.uk/mungallwedding/

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  • WEDDING DRESS - INITIAL IDEAS

    As mentioned previously I am planning to ask my mum to make my dress.

    I don't know if she will say yes (it is a huge task with a lot of pressure) but I have always liked the idea. In fact, I would like to get our family involved as much as I possibly can.

    My mum is an amazing seamstress. She used to make her own clothes and created my sister's gown for her school ball. I am more than confident that she can do it, if she accepts the challenge.

    I am not going to get her started immediately (I want to lose another three stone before the wedding). Instead, I am planning to go wedding dress shopping with her and my bridesmaids, in order to get some inspiration and to find out what type of dress would suit my figure best.

    I am pretty short (5ft2) with small breasts and a large bum. MrM loves my bum, but I have to disagree. I don't necessarily want to place too much emphasis on it. When I am at my ideal weight, I have a pretty slim waistline, which I would like to accentuate.

    About ten years ago now my dentist showed us her beautiful lace wedding dress. It showed just about the right amount of skin and was so feminine and elegant. Then my neighbour wore a lace dress to her wedding. And I have been obsessed with this idea ever since. I also like the idea of showing a bit of my back.

    The casual boho wedding dress is simply a dream come true! Trend-worthy lace off-the-shoulder sleeves pair with a deep sweetheart neckline.

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    And for the bottom of the dress, I am currently thinking a full a-line skirt, either made of tulle or with several layers to add volume. I am a little surprised with myself, but I do think I want quite a princessy dress. They just look better in pictures. And it is a special occasion after all.

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    I am also playing with the idea of incorporating a hint of blue. Although part of me thinks this might be too much.

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    It will be a careful balancing act between not doing too much and ending up "kitsch" vs having the wow factor. Of course, a lot will depend on how my dress inspiration shopping goes beforehand. At the moment I really like the look of the Essence of Australia dresses.

    Finally, I need to find a way to incorporate the tartan. MrM wants me to wear a little bit of tartan at least for part of the day. As a symbol that I am now his lol. I am thinking a bespoke made throw for the ceremony or a shall to wrap myself in at the end of the evening reception.

     

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  • WEDDING CAKE - INITIAL IDEAS

    I had never really thought about the wedding cake before. I don't think it is particularly important to either MrM or me. We certainly don't want to spend a huge amount of money on it (thinking of spending about 250£). If need me I would even consider making it myself or getting someone in the family to make it for us.

    My gran is a dab hand at transitional wedding cakes (the ones with raisins and icing that last an eternity). I believe she was the one who made my parents cake 28 years ago. They kept the top tier for my christening, and I always fancied that idea. However, MrM is not 

    However, MrM is not a fan of raisins. So we are probably looking at a more modern sponge cake, perhaps with various flavors. Because we are only going to have 60 people at the reception, it won't be that big either.

    So I had a look on pinterest and quickly realised I was a fan of naked or half-naked cakes. This also works for our woodsy / boho theme.

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    I found a company that lets you order the cake online (liggyscakes.co.uk). Their cakes sort of meet our budget. However before we make any decisions, I would like to speak to some local suppliers. Not only am I keen on supporting small businesses, I also think the logistics might be easier.

  • MoggleMoggle Posts: 556

    Loving all of your initial ideas DandelionBlue, looking forward to reading more about your planning!

     

  • Moggle wrote (see post):

    Loving all of your initial ideas DandelionBlue, looking forward to reading more about your planning!

     

    Thank you Moggle. I cannot wait to get into properly planning the wedding, booking things and buying bits and pieces. But that will need to wait until we are back from Japan in October

  • MrsSpag2BMrsSpag2B Posts: 479 New bride

    Yay, your wedding is going to be so near to mine!  I'm getting married on the 8th of September next year!  I can't wait to see how your actual proposal turns out!!!!!!!!!

  • MrsSpag2B wrote (see post):

    Yay, your wedding is going to be so near to mine!  I'm getting married on the 8th of September next year!  I can't wait to see how your actual proposal turns out!!!!!!!!!

    Oh that is so exciting! Do you have a planning thread I can read to see how you are getting on? 

    Of course we will need to see if the venue we chose has availability in September. That is what I am most anxious about at the moment.

    I can't wait until he proposes. I am counting down each day to my final exam / holiday / proposal

  • FLOWERS -  INITIAL IDEAS

    Although I have not set a big budget for my wedding flowers, the more I think about it, the more I realise that they will play a big part in the decoration of our venue. So I am probably going to buy flowers and leaves from a local wholesaler or triangle nursery and then create some or all of the floral arrangements myself. Have any of you got any experience with this? I will need to figure out how far in advance I can do this. I might even buy a couple of flowers (head to Camden market on the wedding)  and create a couple of bouquets

    My colleague told me she goes to flower arranging classes on the weekend. I might join her for a session. It could also be a fun activity for my hen do. I am also thinking of heading to Camden market on a weekend, to buy some flowers to find out how difficult it would be for me to this myself.

    At the moment I have set a budget of 560£ for flowers. Ideally, I would like to get/make:

    - 1 x cascade style or shield shape bridal bouquet

    - 1 x Bridal flower crown

    - 1 x Tossing bouquet

    - 3 x Bridesmaid bouquets

    - 3 x flowers for bridesmaids hair

    - 5 x Buttonholes 

    - 2 x corsages for flower girls

    - 2 x corsages for MOTB AND MOTG

    - 1 x bouquet for signing table

    - Aisle decoration (probably baby breath)

    - 1 x table runner for head table

    - 8 x mason jar centrepieces 

    - Flowers for cake

    So that is quite a lot of flowers for the amount of money I am planning to spend and I might end up having to increase my budget.

    In term of colours, I think I will mainly stick to white, blue/purple and green. Perhaps I will add a pop of magenta or dusty pink here and there. I need to play around with it. I would like the flower arrangements to have a wild/rustic/untamed feel and look.

    I am planning to use quite a bit of foliage, including ivy, eucalyptus and fern. And in terms of flowers, at the moment I am thinking of using roses, thistles, astilbes, gentiana, baby breath, veronica, ammi  majus, limonium, Hypercum Berries, Waxflower

     

    Here are a couple of pictures of flower arrangements that have peaked my interest

     

    Wild Flower - Bouquet - like the idea of thistles as a nod towards scottish heritage

    Autumn bouquet recipe + bridal inspiration

    Woodsy weddings call for wild bouquets | Image by Joel Allegretto

    Thistle buttonholes Daisy Lane Floral Design

    I'll never forget the expression on Adam's face as I walked down the aisle   towards him – it was one of my favourite parts of the day. The moment I saw   him I just couldn't stop smiling, I felt incredibly happy and so lucky.

  •  PREPARING FOR THE PROPOSAL

    One of the small advantages of knowing that your OH is going to propose is that you can make sure you look your best. I am definitely going to get my nails done before we leave to Japan.

    It's been a while since I got my haircut and we are visiting my family next weekend. My mum is always critical of my experience so I thought might as well get my haircut now. 

    For the last five years I got a blonde balayage. So when I told MrM I would be doing the same today he said he always pictured marrying a brunette.

    My hair turned out blinder than expected but I am really happy with it. I was a bit nervous to show him but MrM approves.

    Now I need to find a place to get eyebrows done.

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  • MrsJ2017MrsJ2017 Posts: 3,017

    Hair looks lovely!

    I looked at your flowers list, it does seem a lot for the money, but one thing I thought was that you could get the bouquet for the signing table and then reuse it later for throwing, no point buying 2!

    Im having a lot of foliage too, not the same shape bouquet, Im having handtied with tall bits and trailing bits, thats costing £110 apparently. £30 each for bridesmaids (although quotes for these varied massively), £75 for a top table display with long foliage, mixed flowers and candles. Corsages £15 each, buttonholes £5, h2bs buttonhole £15. I dont want too many flowers but the corsages and bottonholes for all the parents, steparents and ushers really add up!

  • WEDDING HAIR - INITIAL IDEAS

    In general, I prefer my air when it is hanging loose. It has become pretty long over the last few years. However keeping it undone for the wedding feels to informal. Not special enough if that makes sense?

    So I think I will have it pinned up in a loose braid or messed-up bun. Nothing too strict. I also want the hair to look good the whole day without having to use too much spray. I might even get some loose curls (as a teenager I always wished I had curls rather than flat hair.)

    Scowering Pinterest for ideas, I have come across some beautiful floral hairdos. I have never pictured myself as a bride with flowers in my hair. If anything I might have imagined a sparkly come. But actual flowers would go really well with the general concept of our wedding and I have fallen somewhat in love with the idea.

    Nordic Winter Wedding Inspiration Shoot With Claire Pettibone Bridal Gowns Flowers From Campbell's Flowers And Images From Ellie Grace Photography

    Toussled Bridal up do | Big Chief Tipis Magical Woodland Wedding | Styling by Nina Marika | Venue Turton Tower | Flowers by Petal & Twig | Ruth Milliam Couture Gowns | Stationery by Print for Love | Melissa Beattie | http://www.rockmywedding.co.uk/wedding-in-the-woods/

    Featured Hairstyle: Ulyana Aster; www.ulyanaaster.com; instagram.com/ulyana.aster.store; Wedding hairstyle idea.

  • MrsJ2017 wrote (see post):

    Hair looks lovely!

    I looked at your flowers list, it does seem a lot for the money, but one thing I thought was that you could get the bouquet for the signing table and then reuse it later for throwing, no point buying 2!

    Im having a lot of foliage too, not the same shape bouquet, Im having handtied with tall bits and trailing bits, thats costing £110 apparently. £30 each for bridesmaids (although quotes for these varied massively), £75 for a top table display with long foliage, mixed flowers and candles. Corsages £15 each, buttonholes £5, h2bs buttonhole £15. I dont want too many flowers but the corsages and bottonholes for all the parents, steparents and ushers really add up!

    Those prices sound really reasonable (who is doing them for you?) but I can imagine that it all adds up, especially if you are having quite a few people with corsages and buttonholes. I love the sound of your bridal bouquet by the way!

    I will probably need to reduce my expectations in terms of flowers or up the budget. If we go for one of the cheaper venues than maybe we can afford everything I want in term of decoration. That is always something to bear in mind.

    Thank you for the tip of reusing the bouquet of the signing table. That is a really good tip! I was also toying with the idea of splitting it in three and using it on the top table.

  • MrsJ2017MrsJ2017 Posts: 3,017

    I met with a venue dresser a few weeks ago and she was full of ideas for reusinh flowers. She said about putting bridesmaid bouquets along the top table, and later in vases on the windows, bridal bouquet on the cake table etc, so even though Im not having floral centrepieces the bouquets will be around and earning their keep!

    Ive booked a florist called Lula flower shop in liverpool, I had a nightmare with florists though the ones I went to meet with were all useless apart from Lula.

    If youre flexible on the types of flowers you have, like me, then you could probably really push the budget. The foliage is good for the bank account too compared to flowers so Im sure youll find what you need.

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