The 'subtly us' wedding

As we have not yet booked a venue or set a date yet; due to a fussy bride and an arguably pickier groom, I've debated whether I was ready to start a 'planning thread'. But even without those things, set in stone...I am still definitely planning, so here goes!

 

The 'getting together' bit


I'd just moved to a new city, was all ready to be independent post University and do my thing...then I met a boy. I'll be honest, I didn't think he liked me 'like that' after a few dates and in order to save my overly proud face I told him I wasn't really interested in him 'like that' (LIES).

We carried on hanging out a bit, I made excuses sometimes in an effort not to sound too keen (apparently 'Eating ice cream with my housemate' was one of my finest) and a few more weeks went by. Then, one drunken Saturday night conversation revealed that he did like me, so much so that he'd been too shy to tell me.  After that he basically moved into my house share with me, ate me out of house and home, continuously took over the bed and stopped me eating garlic baguettes for dinner (I can't be the only person who hates cooking just for themselves?). 

A few more years and separate house shares later, we rented for a house together for a year, before buying our own in June 2015. Then he proposed in May 2017...

 

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  • MrsTraceyMrsTracey Posts: 802 New bride

    Yay a new thread! And yes totally hate cooking for just one person! in fact whenever my fiance goes away for work I sometimes just do a takeaway to save on the hassle! Can't wait to read more x

  • Laura349Laura349 Posts: 979

    Looking forward to reading a new thread! Yay! And I COMPLETLY understand about cooking for one person, when it's just me in the house I tend to eat rubbish just because I can't be bothered to cook for one!! Lol 

  • Sian91Sian91 Posts: 828 New bride

    The Proposal [PIC HEAVY SORRY]

    So my other half/partner in crime loves to put on a good surprise, from here on I'll call him 'R'. I am not the best at surprises, good or bad because I am definitely a planner.

    Lots of people told me we'd get engaged 'soon' after we bought the house.  A year and a bit later with no proposal in sight, we booked a holiday of a lifetime to Canada, Alaska and the Grand Canyon. Again, I was told how many people 'knew' we were going to get engaged while we were on holiday. Initially I dismissed this, as it was never going to be the 'big surprise' I'd always envisioned R would make (seriously I thought I'd have to be thrown out of a plane to earn a ring haha). But closer to the time, I thought maybe he might, after all when we were only together for a few weeks he said he imagined getting engaged to someone after being together for about 4 or 5 years. At the time we went on holiday it was 4 years, 5 months and 23 days...then we were off...

    So day 1 we were here...no proposal (it's okay, it wouldn't be surprise if he proposed immediately right)

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    Day 2...exploring the beautiful BC 

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    Day 3...driving and hiking through Jasper National Park (posing with my sandwich because no ring)

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    By day 4....I'd accepted it wasn't happening, but we were having the most amazing holiday 

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    Then on day 8 (seriously how did he wait so long) we spent 10 hours trekking through the snow to Black Tusk- this is me all smiles about 6 hours in...

    image

    And then down by Garibaldi Lake

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    Finally got my bling, exactly 4 and a half years since we officially got together (apparently this is pure coincidence than excellent planning)

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    The walk down didn't hurt anywhere near as the walk up!

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  • Ashley72Ashley72 Posts: 1,130 New bride

    Oh wow what a gorgeous setting for a proposal! Congratulations. Look forward to hearing more about your planning!

  • Laura349Laura349 Posts: 979

    Your ring is beautiful!! ❤️ 

  • Bunny87Bunny87 Posts: 180

    Congratulations! What a beautiful ring and looks like an amazing holiday. Looking forward to hearing more

  • Sian91Sian91 Posts: 828 New bride
    FutureMrsT123 wrote (see post):

    Yay a new thread! And yes totally hate cooking for just one person! in fact whenever my fiance goes away for work I sometimes just do a takeaway to save on the hassle! Can't wait to read more x

    I'm glad I'm not the only person who can't bare cooking for themselves- I'm trying my best to stay away from takeaway, I don't know when I'm aiming to feel confident in a dress by yet haha

  • Sian91Sian91 Posts: 828 New bride
    Ashley72 wrote (see post):

    Oh wow what a gorgeous setting for a proposal! Congratulations. Look forward to hearing more about your planning!

    Thank you- there were so many places which would have been incredible proposal locations, but being completely alone and not in our 'hometown' was important to me. He managed to tick both of those and some!

  • Sian91Sian91 Posts: 828 New bride
    Laura349 wrote (see post):

    Your ring is beautiful!! ❤️ 

    Thank you- i'll write some more about it and put up some better photos later on. Most people on here love a ring shot and I am very happy to share mine!

  • Sian91Sian91 Posts: 828 New bride
    Bunny87 wrote (see post):

    Congratulations! What a beautiful ring and looks like an amazing holiday. Looking forward to hearing more

    Thank you- it was an incredible holiday and Canada is now forever going to have an extra special piece of my heart! 

  • Sian91Sian91 Posts: 828 New bride

    Venue number 1...

    We (*cough* I) spent hours and hours browsing online directories for a venue- we don't go to church, so didn't want a church wedding and weren't keen on a stately home or barn wedding. 

    I am a little obsessed with light and R is a professional photographer (unfortunately not weddings...after seeing how pricey wedding photographers are, I am trying to convince him he should consider a change of subject haha) so we wanted somewhere light and bright where we could host everything in one place. 

    We found the Three Daggers Brewery in Somerset...

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    It was lovely and light, they're fully licensed for weddings (only brewery in England that is, I believe) and it was such excellent value for money. 

    We had a meal while we were there (if you're having a wedding here, try and incorporate their wood fired pizzas into the reception, I really really recommend them) and it was ace, their own beer was also ace...

    So why didn't we book...? We could not make the numbers work...their max capacity in the brewery is 32 (or was when we viewed) and we didn't want a marquee. We tried and tried but could not make it work. 

    If you want a smallish wedding in Somerset, at a reasonable price with excellent food, I really recommend you check them out- not an add...but drinks and food, dj and wedding for less than £100 per head!?

    http://www.threedaggers.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2017/08/three_daggers_wedding_brochure-updated-Aug-17.pdf

     

  • Sian91Sian91 Posts: 828 New bride

    We viewed a few more venues, but none of them were quite right for us or didn't really look like the photos/how we imagined. 

    We've carried on in earnest and broadened our search area with 2 venues booked for this weekend, in Cornwall (5 hours from our Midlands home) and Hereford. 

    Lack of venue hasn't stopped me playing with wedding ideas though...

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    We're probably not having origami dinosaurs...I do love succulents though and made this up for the guest bedroom at the weekend- could definitely work if I could find terrariums cheap enough!

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  • Sian91Sian91 Posts: 828 New bride

    The Cornwall venue was absolutely perfect! So so different to anything we've seen, even though it was throwing it down with rain. They don't run many weddings (5 a year) and have quite a few dates to choose from for next year. So so excited! 

    We are going to another venue late this afternoon (waited 6 weeks for a weekend viewing) but we've pretty much made our minds up...

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    It suddenly all feels real!

  • Sian91Sian91 Posts: 828 New bride

    We went to the Hereford venue Sunday and it was lovely but so so pricey- and there were some things I was surprised she couldn't tell me like drinks pricing, how the sound limiter worked etc aside from all the 'optional extras' that were left out our rough quote when I enquired....or was I naive to assume the fairy lights in all the photos in a £4.5k reception space would have been included? 

    Anyway...it means we've got our heart set even more firmly on the Cornwall venue, with just a few last queries to clear up. 

    I've emailed a few catering companies and our favourite photographer has one of our preferred dates available...just trying to make the stars align now haha- fingers crossed we can start booking things next week!

     

  • Wow your holiday pictures are amazing as is your ring. Where in Cornwall is your venue? Such a beautiful part of the country. 

  • Really enjoying your planning thread, where abouts in Hereford did you look? I'm getting married near there and found it difficult to find places!

  • Sian91Sian91 Posts: 828 New bride
    Venue is near Falmouth- 5 hours from our Derbyshire home, so fingers crossed we don't need too many trips haha!
    VegasLou wrote (see post):

    Wow your holiday pictures are amazing as is your ring. Where in Cornwall is your venue? Such a beautiful part of the country. 

     

  • Sian91Sian91 Posts: 828 New bride
    Rachel-41 wrote (see post):

    Really enjoying your planning thread, where abouts in Hereford did you look? I'm getting married near there and found it difficult to find places!

    Thank you- sometimes it feels like i'm just talking to myself- eek. we looked at Dewsall Court, don't get me wrong it was beautiful- but not beautiful enough for me to want to sacrifice moving house in a few years...

  • Sian91Sian91 Posts: 828 New bride

    IT'S OFFICIAL: WE'RE GETTING MARRIED IN CORNWALL 

    We've booked the venue and the photographer, have confirmation the band we prefer is available (just waiting to see if they're happy to learn our first dance) and our preferred catering drawing up some menus for us to browse. it's time to start drawing out some very extensive to do lists... 

    22nd September 2018- I'm going to be a Mrs! 

    (probably legally before as the venue isn't licensed)

    edit: the band messaged me as I was writing this post- so will be sorting a deposit for them this week. Everything is suddenly coming together- although i feel like all I've done this week is ping money haha. BUT- it's very nice to start setting things in stone, we mulled over venues for months and felt like we weren't getting anywhere. 

  • What a lovely setting for a proposal.....and how exciting you've booked your date! The pic in Cornwall looks stunning. Look forward to reading more 

  • Sian91 wrote (see post):
    Rachel-41 wrote (see post):

    Really enjoying your planning thread, where abouts in Hereford did you look? I'm getting married near there and found it difficult to find places!

    Thank you- sometimes it feels like i'm just talking to myself- eek. we looked at Dewsall Court, don't get me wrong it was beautiful- but not beautiful enough for me to want to sacrifice moving house in a few years...

    We had a quote from dewsall court, very confusing (and pricey!) so didn't carry on talking to them and they emailed me 3 times a week for about 2 months!

  • Sian91 wrote (see post):

    The Proposal [PIC HEAVY SORRY]

    So my other half/partner in crime loves to put on a good surprise, from here on I'll call him 'R'. I am not the best at surprises, good or bad because I am definitely a planner.

    Lots of people told me we'd get engaged 'soon' after we bought the house.  A year and a bit later with no proposal in sight, we booked a holiday of a lifetime to Canada, Alaska and the Grand Canyon. Again, I was told how many people 'knew' we were going to get engaged while we were on holiday. Initially I dismissed this, as it was never going to be the 'big surprise' I'd always envisioned R would make (seriously I thought I'd have to be thrown out of a plane to earn a ring haha). But closer to the time, I thought maybe he might, after all when we were only together for a few weeks he said he imagined getting engaged to someone after being together for about 4 or 5 years. At the time we went on holiday it was 4 years, 5 months and 23 days...then we were off...

    So day 1 we were here...no proposal (it's okay, it wouldn't be surprise if he proposed immediately right)

    image

    Day 2...exploring the beautiful BC 

    image

    Day 3...driving and hiking through Jasper National Park (posing with my sandwich because no ring)

    image

    By day 4....I'd accepted it wasn't happening, but we were having the most amazing holiday 

    image

    Then on day 8 (seriously how did he wait so long) we spent 10 hours trekking through the snow to Black Tusk- this is me all smiles about 6 hours in...

    image

    And then down by Garibaldi Lake

    image

    Finally got my bling, exactly 4 and a half years since we officially got together (apparently this is pure coincidence than excellent planning)

    image

    The walk down didn't hurt anywhere near as the walk up!

    image

     

    This is awesome! congratulations! x

  • Sian91Sian91 Posts: 828 New bride
    SarahNov17 wrote (see post):

    What a lovely setting for a proposal.....and how exciting you've booked your date! The pic in Cornwall looks stunning. Look forward to reading more 

    Thank you- it was lovely; I've always wanted a private proposal and 8 hours barely seeing a soul was exactly that! Also very happy to have booked a date, I feel like we (*cough* I ) have been looking for a venue almost constantly since we returned from holiday in May, so it feels like a huge weight off our shoulders and means we can get cracking!

    We're getting married about 20 minutes away from the beach in the photos, but are going to have an engagement shoot on a beach. Our photographer does 2 hour 'adventure' engagement shoots which we're looking forward too!

  • Sian91Sian91 Posts: 828 New bride
    Rachel-41 wrote (see post):
    Sian91 wrote (see post):
    Rachel-41 wrote (see post):

    Really enjoying your planning thread, where abouts in Hereford did you look? I'm getting married near there and found it difficult to find places!

    Thank you- sometimes it feels like i'm just talking to myself- eek. we looked at Dewsall Court, don't get me wrong it was beautiful- but not beautiful enough for me to want to sacrifice moving house in a few years...

    We had a quote from dewsall court, very confusing (and pricey!) so didn't carry on talking to them and they emailed me 3 times a week for about 2 months!

    It's funny you should say that- I got a follow up email today. I wouldn't mind it being on the expensive side, but like you said a little bit confusing. I think we'd end up overspending on 'extras' we didn't foresee. What venue have you chosen? Do you have a planning thread? 

  • Sian91Sian91 Posts: 828 New bride
    Carine Bea wrote (see post):
    Sian91 wrote (see post):

    The Proposal [PIC HEAVY SORRY]

    So my other half/partner in crime loves to put on a good surprise, from here on I'll call him 'R'. I am not the best at surprises, good or bad because I am definitely a planner.

    Lots of people told me we'd get engaged 'soon' after we bought the house.  A year and a bit later with no proposal in sight, we booked a holiday of a lifetime to Canada, Alaska and the Grand Canyon. Again, I was told how many people 'knew' we were going to get engaged while we were on holiday. Initially I dismissed this, as it was never going to be the 'big surprise' I'd always envisioned R would make (seriously I thought I'd have to be thrown out of a plane to earn a ring haha). But closer to the time, I thought maybe he might, after all when we were only together for a few weeks he said he imagined getting engaged to someone after being together for about 4 or 5 years. At the time we went on holiday it was 4 years, 5 months and 23 days...then we were off...

    So day 1 we were here...no proposal (it's okay, it wouldn't be surprise if he proposed immediately right)

    image

    Day 2...exploring the beautiful BC 

    image

    Day 3...driving and hiking through Jasper National Park (posing with my sandwich because no ring)

    image

    By day 4....I'd accepted it wasn't happening, but we were having the most amazing holiday 

    image

    Then on day 8 (seriously how did he wait so long) we spent 10 hours trekking through the snow to Black Tusk- this is me all smiles about 6 hours in...

    image

    And then down by Garibaldi Lake

    image

    Finally got my bling, exactly 4 and a half years since we officially got together (apparently this is pure coincidence than excellent planning)

    image

    The walk down didn't hurt anywhere near as the walk up!

    image

     

    This is awesome! congratulations! x

    Thank you- still over the moon! Also still terrible at keeping my nails nice and painted 

  • MoggleMoggle Posts: 556

    How have I managed to miss your thread?! Absolutely love your engagement story, your pics are amazing. 

    I'll no doubt be popping back on here after my wedding, so looking forward to reading more about your planning!

  • Sian91 wrote (see post):
    Rachel-41 wrote (see post):
    Sian91 wrote (see post):
    Rachel-41 wrote (see post):

    Really enjoying your planning thread, where abouts in Hereford did you look? I'm getting married near there and found it difficult to find places!

    Thank you- sometimes it feels like i'm just talking to myself- eek. we looked at Dewsall Court, don't get me wrong it was beautiful- but not beautiful enough for me to want to sacrifice moving house in a few years...

    We had a quote from dewsall court, very confusing (and pricey!) so didn't carry on talking to them and they emailed me 3 times a week for about 2 months!

    It's funny you should say that- I got a follow up email today. I wouldn't mind it being on the expensive side, but like you said a little bit confusing. I think we'd end up overspending on 'extras' we didn't foresee. What venue have you chosen? Do you have a planning thread? 

    Yeah I think the quote they sent me was around £20,000 all in :O 

    I don't have a planning thread unfortunately but I'm getting married at the black mountain barns, they do hardly any weddings and other than tables and chairs it's very much a DIY venue!

  • Sian91Sian91 Posts: 828 New bride
    Moggle wrote (see post):

    How have I managed to miss your thread?! Absolutely love your engagement story, your pics are amazing. 

    I'll no doubt be popping back on here after my wedding, so looking forward to reading more about your planning!

    Thank you- I am lucky to have a professional photographer fiancée, although he despises my demands for him to take a photo of us/me/ the view all the time. We went to New York and he took 8 photos...said it was a bus man's holiday

    Hope you enjoy your wedding week- I can't wait for your report! Our wedding is 364 days after yours so I will need as many tips as I can get!

  • Sian91Sian91 Posts: 828 New bride

    EXACTLY A YEAR TO GO: I AM SO EXCITED AND STARTING TO FEEL MORE PREPARED 

    I'm thinking of going dress shopping in November; does this sound about right? How did you all find which designers you liked/what shops to go to? 

    My parents' neighbour of over 20 years is making our cake (naked cake I expect), she's a professional cake maker. 

    R's Mum is doing the flowers- she's a trained florist

    R will be doing the Save the Dates (I can't write STDs- except just there in relation to our wedding haha) when he's back from a work trip...he's a Graphic Designer/Photographer...I won't pretend I know how to use illustrator; I just have 'the vision' haha

    Band is lined up just waiting for the venue to answer a few more questions and give guidance of what's needed. They have PLI and PAT tested equipment, has anyone's venues asked for anything else? The temptation to just book them is real!

    Catering will be discussed with R as soon as he gets back, but the menu looks perfect for us- Middle Eastern style sharing and nice and casual

    Current headache is sourcing furniture when we don't 100% know how many guests (as it's in Cornwall, I have a feeling we will get more no's than we would of elsewhere)...how late can I leave this do we think? 

     

  • Wow. Sounds like you have booked quite a lot already. And how lucky are you to know do many people who can do things for the wedding.

    I am a planner just like you. Must have been difficukt yo wait. But R did so well. What a beautiful spot for a proposal. I really want to visit Canada at some point.

    We went to Cornwall this year. Such a pretty part of the country. I am sure your venue is fab. And it's great you found a photographer who will do a session on the beach.

    We are hoping to get married in September 2018. So we might end up as date twins. Although seeing how much you have got done already is giving me anxiety.

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