The non-wedding wedding
Well, I don't normally put anything out there about me, but my friends are sick of the wedding talk (already!) so I need to say something, to someone, if you'd care to read.
Our story: we met online 4 years ago, and after our first date I thought "He's fab, and handsome, but I'm definitely not his type", and he thought, "She's smart, and fun, but definitely not my type". Fast forward a few months of hanging out as friends, and he asks me when I'm going to realise he's in love with me and wants me to be his girlfriend.
So, that was unexpected.
We moved in together sooner than we would have liked, for financial reasons. Then bought a house to do up a couple of years ago. In those two years we've had poor luck when it comes to jobs, and have been living off one (very modest) income the entire time as redundancies abounded time and again. Things are on the up, though, finally.
We'd talked about getting married before. In that we both agreed we didn't want to get married. Ever. We hate weddings.
We were out walking the dog on a Sunday morning. It was a gorgeous day, but we were just taking our normal route through the pretty fields near our house. I thought he'd bent down to tie his lace, so just kept walking til he grabbed my hand and told me to wait. Before he could say anything else I said yes.
So, that was also unexpected.
Then we called the family. I told my friends on Whatsapp. None of them believed us. When they realised we weren't joking, they were happy for us.
It's time for us. We never said we hated marriage. We said we don't like weddings - so we're not having a massive do. Both of us don't want to be the centre of attention, and we have many sceptical family members we don't want to spend our day appeasing. We're not fancypants people either, and neither of us dreamed all of our lives about having a big white wedding. We want to be married, to have a marriage, so that's what we're doing.
Initially, we wanted to do it quickly, and elope somewhere. Part of this is because we've not been on holiday in nearly 4 years and were desperate to just get away.
We've taken a step back, however, and are now thinking summer 2018. We're taking the holiday in January anyway, and will do all the big planning when we return. Which gives us about 5 months to save up and book everything in.
Here's the kicker: the budget is £1,500 all in, including a ceremony at an Anglican church (which is a minimum £500 as set by the state).
DIY'd on instantprint.co.uk for the princely sum of £19.
The ceremony:We're having only about 20 guests (plus any of the congregation who insist on turning up at the church - they're a lovely bunch who're excited at the idea of a wedding in our little local chapel, to which only 12 of us regularly attend on a Sunday and hasn't seen a wedding in years as I understand), and will have a small reception at our house (a 3 minute walk from the church) afterwards. The plan is to set a time limit on the reception (state it on the invites), a 'cocktails and cupcakes' type thing, and then we can go on honeymoon in the evening.
The wedding party:
None! I'm doing it all myself because there are so few guests it would be strange to single some of them out. It's such a small wedding there's no need to be asking anyone to do anything, really.
I ordered it today. It was £20 from Amazon and I sent it to my friend's house so will try it on at the weekend. I might need to return it, if it's too short.