Town Centre Barn Wedding - Kent, August 2019

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  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,934 New bride

    Feeling frustrated :(

    Aargh -  why are suppliers so bloody slow at sending info through? Told my photographer we wanted to book over 2 weeks ago, he said he would send paperwork through so we could pay the deposit and despite chasing, we still haven't received it. He has been busy working abroad but if he just said that in the first place I wouldn't have been stressing.

    Equally, the make up lady I'm interested in booking takes about 5 days to reply to an email! 

    I've reached a point where I'm bored of the whole bloody wedding and just want to nip to the local registry office and be done with it (in fairness that's what I wanted in the first place!), or go abroad just the 3 of us and get married on a beach.

    It's so much money and I can't help but think we'd be better off just paying a chunk off our mortgage with it instead. A very well paying contract we thought OH was going to get has fallen through, and while we can still afford the wedding as we booked it a year ago, before this contract was even on the table, it would have helped us so much :(

    In other news, H2B spoke to FMIL about showing my dress pics to people and she told him she was sorry.....but then she saw me the next day for several hours and didn't mention it or apologise to me. I didn't bring it up as it was Father's Day and I didn't want to cause an atmosphere but I was pretty disappointed in her. I'll just leave it now though.

    Work is bloody stressful which isn't helping my mood, and I'm a bridesmaid for my friend and going on her hen weekend tomorrow. I'm dreading it, as some of the people going have just been so unreasonable & awful to me and the other bridesmaid throughout the planning, and are still being quite snide. I just can't be bothered with it.

  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,934 New bride

    My headband arrived and I love it so that has cheered me up a little 😀

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  • GinAndBlingGinAndBling Posts: 1,311 New bride

    Oh MrsC sorry to hear that! Although I do love your headband! 

    Suppliers are a pain in the arse, I don’t think they realise how annoying it is when they delay things. Although I do try and remind myself that most of them don’t tend to be in front of a laptop. 

    It is a lot of money, but you only get married once. You’ll have an amazing day and memories to last forever. 

    Your FMIL is probably a bit embarrassed! 

    Hope the hen do isn’t too stressful, have a few glasses of wine, sounds like you deserve it  💐  🍷 xx

    Our planning thread: We're completely winging it.
    Our report: A fun, classic May day in navy and blush
    My weightloss thread: Diet denial! 
  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,934 New bride

    Thanks GinAndBling.

    I really do veer all the time between wanting the wedding and just thinking we shouldn't bother....I guess because it wasn't my first choice of wedding.

    Off on hen do at lunchtime....I'm looking forward to the lay ins most, my toddler is up by 6 most mornings!

  • Sorry to hear about your FMIL's behaviour, I know that even though she was probably doing it out of excitement it is still annoying for you! 

    I completely understand about the hen do, I went on my cousin's hen do a few weeks ago and if I wasn't a bridesmaid I wouldn't have gone but felt I had no choice! In the end it wasn't so bad but I definitely wouldn't say I enjoyed it and the fact that it cost me nearly £1000 overall just annoyed me as it's the last thing I want to be spending that money on! I hope it ends up not being as bad as you fear, at least if it's awful you can vow to make yours a nicer experience! 

    On more positive news though your headband looks gorgeous! 

  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,934 New bride

    Thanks FMT!

    So, the hen do went quite well and everyone was well behaved in the main....feel absolutely ruined today and wish I'd booked the day off work but feeling a lot less stressed now it's over! But the bride had a fab time and that's all that matters :)

    I STILL haven't had the paperwork etc over from my photographer! I'm starting to wonder if he is hedging his bets - we are getting married on a popular date and have booked one of his cheaper packages - I wonder if he has someone interested in a more expensive package and is waiting to see if they sign up? That or he's just inept...either way he is getting on my nerves!

  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,934 New bride

    Thanks to a sale tip off from Georgina on here, I've bought my bridesmaid and flower girl gifts from Bloom Boutique.

    I bought 5 necklaces @ £8 each reduced from £16. You get 10% off your first order too (if you sign up to their newsletter) which was another £4 off so 5 gifts for £36 which I'm really pleased with 😁

    They have all got personalised heart necklaces with their initial on, in a box that says "Thank you for being my bridesmaid/flower girl".

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    I have already bought the 2 bridesmaids silver earrings from Next and an Azendi bracelet each to wear on the day but wanted a gift to give them all during the speeches too.

    In other non news....still no paperwork through from the photographer 😠 It's been 3 weeks, he's getting very close to being replaced at this rate!

  • MrsHowgateMrsHowgate Posts: 1,392 New bride

    I would find another photographer to be honest. He sounds like he is waiting for someone to take the more expensive option and if he’s unreliable now imagine what he would be like on your wedding day.

  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,934 New bride

    Yes MrsH I am thinking the same! I'm going to give him another few days without chasing and if I don't hear I'll start looking at other options.

  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,934 New bride

    Tomorrow morning we have our first planning meeting with our venue, to start deciding on menus, order of the day, iron out any questions etc we have.

    I have pretty much chosen our menu from the options they sent me, so unless they have any new dishes that shouldn't take long. We eat there fairly often so I'm confident in the food. They don't do tastings as they are a 'budget' venue, but I've been to weddings there before and the food is ten times better than most grander venues I've been to. 

    I'm going to ask if they allow confetti, and also what decorations they will put up and what I'll need to do myself.

    Are there any obvious questions I should be asking at this stage? My mind has gone a bit blank!

     

  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,934 New bride

    I got the bridal party gifts from Bloom Boutique, and I'm really happy with them. They were super fast too, I only ordered them Wednesday night and they came this morning!

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  • MrsHowgateMrsHowgate Posts: 1,392 New bride
    MrsCToBee wrote (see post):

    Tomorrow morning we have our first planning meeting with our venue, to start deciding on menus, order of the day, iron out any questions etc we have.

    I have pretty much chosen our menu from the options they sent me, so unless they have any new dishes that shouldn't take long. We eat there fairly often so I'm confident in the food. They don't do tastings as they are a 'budget' venue, but I've been to weddings there before and the food is ten times better than most grander venues I've been to. 

    I'm going to ask if they allow confetti, and also what decorations they will put up and what I'll need to do myself.

    Are there any obvious questions I should be asking at this stage? My mind has gone a bit blank!

     

    Guest accommodation, fireworks if you want them, sparklers, real candles, wine tasting, if your having charged plates can all guests be seated on the tables, how many tables fit your reception room, cost of supplier meals, bridal room and somewhere for you to get ready if necessary.

  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,934 New bride
    MrsHowgate2B wrote (see post):
    MrsCToBee wrote (see post):

    Tomorrow morning we have our first planning meeting with our venue, to start deciding on menus, order of the day, iron out any questions etc we have.

    I have pretty much chosen our menu from the options they sent me, so unless they have any new dishes that shouldn't take long. We eat there fairly often so I'm confident in the food. They don't do tastings as they are a 'budget' venue, but I've been to weddings there before and the food is ten times better than most grander venues I've been to. 

    I'm going to ask if they allow confetti, and also what decorations they will put up and what I'll need to do myself.

    Are there any obvious questions I should be asking at this stage? My mind has gone a bit blank!

     

    Guest accommodation, fireworks if you want them, sparklers, real candles, wine tasting, if your having charged plates can all guests be seated on the tables, how many tables fit your reception room, cost of supplier meals, bridal room and somewhere for you to get ready if necessary.

    Thanks MrsH you have reminded me - I need to ask which hotels they get preferential rates with! OH's family & friends don't live locally so we'll be needing quite a few rooms. His parents want to stay for 2 or 3 nights as well.

    Candles/sparklers/meal for photographer also a good shout! Sadly we can't stretch to fireworks, plus one of my BMs is terrified of them so wouldn't put her through it.

    I know about the seating plan already as there is only one way to fit my numbers in but would like a template so I can roughly organise my rather complicated family's seating plan.

    It is a pub/restaurant so I'll be getting ready at home and OH will have a hotel room to get ready in.

  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,934 New bride

    Asked OH if he had any questions for the venue to add to my list.....he is insistent he wants to ask if he can have chips instead of roast/minted new potatoes at the wedding breakfast 🤔😩😂

  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,934 New bride

    ........and because our venue are chilled AF they said yes, he can have his own personal portion of chips. FFS 😂

  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,934 New bride

    So the meeting went really well, as I expected it to. I've known the manager for years and he and his team are just really efficient and helpful while being totally relaxed and fuss free....they just take all the worry out of everything!

    So in that vein;

    We are allowed candles

    We are allowed sparklers

    We are allowed confetti

    We are allowed a play area in the garden for the kids with giant garden games

    The venue will put all of our decorations up and even let me store all the flowers in their chilled cellar the night before to ensure they don't wilt.

    As above they are also totally happy to do a portion of chips for OH and to cook a completely plain chicken breast with no sauce for OH's nan!

    We discussed but shelved my plan of having bottled beers on the tables as well as wine as it would end up costing quite a bit more....but my dad's wedding present to all his kids has been to put a substantial amount behind the bar so I imagine he'll do the same for us, so guests can just get beers from the bar.

    They also take all the wine that is paid for but not drunk from the wedding breakfast, and put it in ice buckets on the bar for the evening reception, so none will go to waste. The other option was to take it home but we aren't big drinkers at home so no point.

     

  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,934 New bride

    Confirmed menus 😁

    Canapes & welcome drinks

    Vegetable spring rolls, smoked salmon blinis, various mini tartlets

    Pimms, orange juice, water

    Starters

    Prawn cocktail salad

    Crispy duck & mango salad

    Chicken liver & brandy pate, toast, tomato & red onion chutney

    Cherry tomato & buffalo mozzarella bruschetta

    Mains

    Italian style chicken - topped with ham & mozzarella with a tomato & basil sauce (OH's choice), roast potatoes

    Rack of lamb, pistachio crust, redcurrant reduction, roast potatoes

    Fillet of sea bass, lime, ginger & prawn butter, new potatoes

    Roasted vegetable enchilada, new potatoes

    All served with carrots, sugar snaps & baby corn

    Desserts

    Eton mess

    Raspberry & white chocolate mascarpone cheesecake 

    Sticky toffee pudding served with vanilla ice cream & butterscotch sauce

    Cheese plate with mini port

    Followed by coffee & Mints

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    Children's menu

    Starter - garlic bread

    Mains - chicken breast with new potatoes & veg OR sausages & chips with veg OR scampi with chips and salad

    Desserts - chocolate brownie & vanilla ice cream OR melon & strawberries

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    Evening BBQ

    Cheeseburgers in buns

    Kentish sausages in rolls with onions

    Grilled halloumi burgers

    Tomato & onion salad / coleslaw/ new potato salad/ mixed leaf salad. 

    Our wedding cake and doughnut tower will be served with the BBQ.

    No one should starve 😂

  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,934 New bride

    So finally heard back from the photographer and all sorted thankfully! He actually has a new deal so we can choose one of the following as part of our package - no idea which to choose, what do you ladies think?

    1) Engagement shoot - I'm really unphotogenic so this might help the wedding pics be less hideous?!?

    2) 20 thank you cards and a large print in silver frame

  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,934 New bride

    I've been looking around at invitation suites and there are so many really nice ones available as free downloads that I think we'll go down that route. I originally was going to use one from Weddingchicks.com which have some lovely ones, but now have found a design I like which is much more flexible and matches our colours on cardsandpockets.com so going to use that as can make matching signs etc for the venue. Will just change the text colour to navy.

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    Popped to Hobbycraft at lunch today and got 50 plain white folded invites with matching envelopes to print them on once we have the design sorted - on offer reduced to £2.50 in the size I needed! I can't be arsed with pocketfolds etc so I just want it as a folded 4 page booklet.

    Also bought a plain white scrapbook to use as a guest book - whether we end up doing the Polaroid guest book or just have people sign it it will work, and I'll print a matching front page for it.

  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,934 New bride

    I've also ordered a couple of cheap veils off eBay.....one cathedral and one fingertip length.

    I don't want to wear a cathedral veil all day but really want one of those cool pics with a long veil billlowing in the wind behind me 😂

  • MrsCToBee wrote (see post):

    I've also ordered a couple of cheap veils off eBay.....one cathedral and one fingertip length.

    I don't want to wear a cathedral veil all day but really want one of those cool pics with a long veil billlowing in the wind behind me 😂

    Excited to hear how the veils are! 

  • GinAndBlingGinAndBling Posts: 1,311 New bride

    Oh please let us know! I want to order a shorter one for the evening but dont Want to spend £££

    Our planning thread: We're completely winging it.
    Our report: A fun, classic May day in navy and blush
    My weightloss thread: Diet denial! 
  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,934 New bride

    I will keep you updated! The delivery time is quite long so won't be very soon.

  • Sian91Sian91 Posts: 829 New bride

    Also looking forward to seeing how the veils turn up- how many tiers have you gone for?

  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,934 New bride

    The cathedral length veil is single tier and the fingertip one 2 tier. Here are the pics from the listings, probably too good to be true as they really were very very cheap - worst case scenario is I give them to my son's preschool for the dressing up box!

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  • Ashley72Ashley72 Posts: 1,137 New bride

    That long veil is gorgeous! I hope it’s as nice in real lif, it looks so soft and flowy! Love the idea of changing in to a shorter one after the ceremony too, never seen that done but great idea.

  • Sian91Sian91 Posts: 829 New bride

    My vote is on cathedral- such a sucker for the length and flow. Are they ivory?

    You'll have to share links if they're any good :) are they coming from a UK seller or China/similar?

  • MrsHowgateMrsHowgate Posts: 1,392 New bride

    I had elbow length the first time and this time I have a one tier fully laced edge veil which i had made to match my dress. I never dreamed I’d wear a cathedral length veil but I absolutely love it. There is something about that length and wedding dresses. I also have a two tier cathedral veil as a back up but doubt I’ll wear it.

    This is my veil:

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  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,934 New bride

    They are both ivory cut edge. 

    That's stunning MrsH but sadly my budget can't stretch to Blossom & Bluebird.

    I do have a gorgeous chapel length ivory veil with silver embroidery I bought in Monsoon ages ago but the length looks odd with my dress, so going to eBay it.

    The reason I don't want cathedral all day is that my venue is quite compact. My friend had her reception there and people kept treading on her veil so she took it off quite quickly!

  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,934 New bride
    Sian91 wrote (see post):

    My vote is on cathedral- such a sucker for the length and flow. Are they ivory?

    You'll have to share links if they're any good :) are they coming from a UK seller or China/similar?

    They are both from China hence long delivery time.

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