How to decide?
Would love opinions on how to decide where to get married. I was never one for dreaming about my big day.
For a bit of background, myself and H2B have been together for 9 years and have two kids (6,1). Mortgage and car. Im a SAHM so not loads of spare income but we have some savings we are happy to use and getting £5k from my dad
So we have a guest list of around 80-90 people day guests and then 40 evening guests (but really difficult to judge).
I'm in a real muddle about what venue to pick and what time of year as there is such a massive difference in price. Perhaps if I explain each one someone could help to give their opinion?
Venue 1- 1 hour away (buses costing £1k would be provided)
Includes venue, drinks x3, evening guest arrival drink, canapes, LED dancefloor, honeymoon suite
Saturday November 2019 £8k (100 day guests, 40 night)
Saturday May 2020 £11k
Saturday October 2020 £7k
This venue is our dream venue. Overlooks a loch, lots of Windows, decor is exactly to our taste. Such a lovely place.
They also have lodges and we planned on hiring 1, possibly 2, for the night before for the girls/guys to get ready. They have hot tubs and are stunning but cost £650 a night and I think would add to the experience.
Downside is the cost for the summer 2020 wedding as that is ideally the date we would love although being in Scotland we are in no way guaranteed good weather. But October and November I worry it'll be too close to Christmas and October 2020 seems miles away.
Venue 2 - 20 mins away
Includes venue, food, drinks x 3, evening guest arrival drink, cake, LED dancefloor, honeymoon suite, ppiper
Bank holiday May Sunday 2020 - £7.5k (100 day guests, 40 night)
This venue is nice, modern but just not as amazing as venue 1. Its close to no issues for people travelling.
Venue 3 - 40 mins away (£1k buses provided)
Includes venue, food, drinks x 4, dj, cars, Led dancefloor, honeymoon suite
Saturday April 13th 2019 - £6750 (80 day guests plus 40 at night)
This is a wedding venue only so not a hotel and quite like the idea of people being able to stay over if they want.
Honestly im not sure what to do. Keep looking? Any advice?
Something doesn't sit right with me with spending £11k on the venue alone (and food ect) then everything else when we have two kids and I feel guilty. However we have our house and car ect and could afford it (although would be saving every month and using about £5k from savings). But its such a huge amount im not sure if ill regret spending so much money