Family problems - what do I do?
I'm getting married next year and I'm hating the build up so much because of family drama.
Basically I have an uncle and aunt (mums brother) who I have nothing to do with. When I go and visit they are rude and have made nasty snide comments about me to my other siblings and I'm not entirely sure what I've ever done. I'm in my early 20's and as far as I can remember they've never made an effort.
Anyway, when I got engaged me and my partner agreed we didn't want them there. My brother got married a year or so ago and they caused so much stress and agro on the day that it cemented it for us that we didn't want the same at ours especially with it being abroad it would mean longer time spent with them. When I finally told my mum she was in pieces and kept crying and arguing with me and making me feel awful. In the end I sent the uncle and aunt a save the date because I didn't want to upset my mum.
Fast forward to this year and it has been shit. We found out my dad had been cheating on my mum after everything my parents have decided to try and move forward and remain together. Since then the family problems have started again with the uncle and aunt. As I was worrying mum said that her and dad would meet with them and try and calm everything before the wedding which they've refused. Then they've started with the nasty comments to my siblings about the wedding and how they will start a fight if my dads there.
I sent out the invites last week and said to mum I wouldn't be sending there's until they'd all met and sorted things out because I'm not having the first time everyone being in a room together be at my wedding. Mum agreed and said that was fair.
Anyway today the uncle has been on the phone to my sister saying they're booking their villa and now my sister and mum are kicking off at me again for not inviting them. I really don't know what to do. On one hand I really don't want my mum to be upset but on the other I know they will be difficult on the day and can just tell its all going to go wrong especially with everyone being on holiday beforehand as well. What would you suggest?
Sorry for the long post but please be nice I don't want anymore arguments haha x