Should I backtrack on the ring thing?
So a bit of background.
Me and my OH have been together 9 years; we have 2 children together. I was feeling more and more fed up waiting for him to propose, so in 2014 I took the plunge, arranged it and did it, which can I say is bloody terrifying! (He had previously proposed to an ex and broken it off a matter of weeks later, which I know still haunts him so figured this may be a reason for his lack of proposing to me. Or, you know, maybe he just doesn’t like me haha.) He said yes. I really wanted an engagement ring just as something symbolic to show we were engaged; I brought it up a few times over the coming months (hopefully not in a nagging way, as obviously I was the one who proposed.) I was a bit disappointed that he kept kind of putting it off; his parents were excited about it and offered to have our daughter while we went shopping But it never happened. Eventually I went ring shopping with my daughter and chose a ring I really love (£75 in an antique shop.) OH transferred me back the money as he felt he should pay.
im not going to lie - the fact that I proposed, then went and chose myself a ring in such a matter of fact way with zero input from him has kind of bothered me over the years. I know people will say that I should have just waited for him to do it in his own time but - it’s 2018! (Or 2014..)
anyway,we are now full on into wedding planning. a month or so ago he randomly said that he thought he should buy me an engagement ring, something he had chosen because maybe he hadn’t done the right thing before. This meant sooo much to me. I don’t care if it costs a fiver, just wearing something he chose would be amazing. HOWEVER. I do love my original engagement ring. And when he asked me, I just sort of went ‘oh you don’t need to worry about that!’ I have no idea why I said that whatsoever.
Can/should I backtrack and ask him to buy me a new ring?! This is so ridiculous!