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nats2013
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didnt want to put in emotional support as not sure if youl all understand and was worried about responses
we were cleaning out the hamster cages and picking things to go on the gift list this evening and we knew that our last male was coming to the end but having a look at him tonight we have decided to get him put down tomo. its ok because hes had a tumour for months and went his little friend died two weeks ago we wondered how hed cope and it turns out he just isnt.
what makes this most unpleasant is that because the man is working all day and im working all evening tmo so hes asked if i can d during the day on my own. im terrified, im not very good with death, ive only just got to grips with living the last couple of years, i dont know how im going to cope-i know the vets is good with crying from when i got my eldest dog spaid but its just so hard to make that decision and have to deal with it on my own. its going to sound silly but it makes me think of my eldest dog and how il cope when its her time-shes the reason im here
sorry im in a bit of a state, i would have written on the pet forum but i havent been there in ages so thought id pop it here
its horrible when youre surrounded by all the fantasy of a wedding and real life rears its nasty little head
we were cleaning out the hamster cages and picking things to go on the gift list this evening and we knew that our last male was coming to the end but having a look at him tonight we have decided to get him put down tomo. its ok because hes had a tumour for months and went his little friend died two weeks ago we wondered how hed cope and it turns out he just isnt.
what makes this most unpleasant is that because the man is working all day and im working all evening tmo so hes asked if i can d during the day on my own. im terrified, im not very good with death, ive only just got to grips with living the last couple of years, i dont know how im going to cope-i know the vets is good with crying from when i got my eldest dog spaid but its just so hard to make that decision and have to deal with it on my own. its going to sound silly but it makes me think of my eldest dog and how il cope when its her time-shes the reason im here
sorry im in a bit of a state, i would have written on the pet forum but i havent been there in ages so thought id pop it here
its horrible when youre surrounded by all the fantasy of a wedding and real life rears its nasty little head
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I get very emotional about animals - my dog that is with my parents is really old and I get all sad when I think about when I saw him at Christmas as he's got arthritis and can't see very well.
They're like part of your family so it's completely understandable. It's surely emotional support that you need now - hope you're not feeling too bad. If it's any consolation I've had a few little cries about my dog for no other reason than I know the inevitable will probably happen soon
I won't say keep your chin up or any of that rubbish as I know from experience it won't help but you know your hamster will be in less pain and had a great life with you.
It is the best thing and so much kinder and easier to deal with than leaving your little man to suffer for your own benefit. When my cat got poorly with FIV i really struggeled afterwards with the feeling that i let him suffer for too long before making the decision. If anything making that decision and taking him to the vets is a very selfless thing to do on your part - you have given him a brilliant home during his time here and are doing what's best.
Hugs honey, I know how you feel, but take comfort from the fact that he had a lovely home and was loved and won't be suffering xxx
I think all we can ever do is to try to think about the happy times and remember we have always done what is best for them, right up until the end. Know it's not much comfort at the moment and it doesn't really help, but at least you will have chance to be prepared and have a proper goodbye, give him a big cuddle and tell him how much you love him.
Don't be worried about coming on here for support, we understand, they are so much more than pets. Hugs.x x x x
when the hamsters die we pop them in the compost bins partly so the dogs cant dig them up and partly so their bodies can stay with us making my garden look nice. itl be nice when hes tucked up in there
ETA good luck xx
thanks, i dont think there will be anyone free to help me but i can distract myself with my work in the evening.
i didnt mean you CBW just in case you think because of your 'before you post' thread. i just dont like to post in emotional support, there are bigger things in the world than a hamster but he was our first boy. we're naming the tables at the wedding after the hamsters and i think we'l be sitting on his table 'Titchy' (because they are dwarf hamsters)
thanks CBW, means a lot
The table name idea is lovely!!
thank you again to everyone, i felt much better once it was done
lots of love to everyone's furbabies
Sending you hugs for you losing your little guy. I've had several hamsters so I know how attached you get to them.
I honestly can't bear the thought of losing my kitty. I'm living abroad atm and by the time I go home it'll have been 12 months since I properly lived at home with her and I just can't think about her not being there
I always have nightmares about my tortoises dying too - the good thing with them however, is that we got them as little tiny things so they will outlive us
And totally understand how you feel. We rescued a pigeon about 3 years ago, we nursed it, I in particular got really close to it, and it seemed to not be in any pain, but deteriorating, and when she died, I cried for two hours! We only had her a week...
We also looked after 3 baby blue tits last year - baby birds are almost impossible to raise and I advise against it. Of the 3, one lived to be released, but when the other two died it was just so sad.
Well done for getting through today x x