Hen do woes
Just need a bit of a vent here, so please excuse me for having a good old moan.
Getting married in October, most things are sorted now. We only got engaged in April so it's all happened quite quickly, but I've really enjoyed the wedding planning and haven't found it too stressful at all.
So I'm pretty suprised that the hen do is the thing which has caused me the most upset and stress out of everything.
I have moved around quite a bit so have never been lucky enough to have a large group of friends who I've grown up with (I'm also not great at keeping in touch). When it came to arranging my hen I wanted something to keep everyone happy and not too expensive. I originally wanted a wild weekend in Blackpool or Manchester, but thought that would be too costly and may alienate some of my friends who aren't into that scene. So I decided to keep it local, with a meal near my house, a few drinks back at mine before heading into town (Preston). I invited 16 people in total, booked it for 15th September. Was originally going to be fancy dress, but I changed this again to hopefully include more people (not everyone likes fancy dress).
A few people can't come because they're on holiday - fair enough. A few just haven't bothered to respond, which I think is a bit rude. 2 people who I thought of as good friends have said they don't want to come to the meal but "might try" to come out to town after (call me cynical but I'd put money on them not showing up).
So right now I have a grand total of 7, including me. I'm sure I'll have a nice time with those who are coming, but just feel really hurt and let down by the others. It sounds mean and bitchy but I'm almost wishing I hadn't invited some to the full wedding day, and just to the evening do instead if they can't make the effort for me. I always make the effort to see them, and am going out for one of their 30th birthday parties the weekend after the hen do, even though I'm very short on money at the moment.
Feels like they'll come to the wedding cos they don't need to spend any money, but not the hen do if it means paying for their own meal!!! (I can't afford to pay for everyone at the hen do, facing redundancy at the moment whilst paying for a wedding - not good!)
It's also not exactly helping my confidence right now, feeling like a bit of a loser with no friends to be honest.
Rahhhh sorry for the big long essay but just needed to let it out!!!