Invites and my mother
So my other half and I are getting married next August in santorini. We are just ordering our santorini invites.
My mother has been lovely and supportive but she's...overbearing. I'm her only daughter and I get that she and my Dad are really excited I'm getting married and want to be involved. They are paying for the food in Santorini and the UK reception (buffet style not a sit down) and my dress and I am massively grateful. However I feel that because of this I can't say no to her when it comes to input on my wedding.
I stupidly played her the song we were considering for a first dance (I know we have loads of time but we heard it and thought it was nice) and she was all "oh you can't possibly have that" and now we can't because if we chose it I'd know that she didn't like it and that's all I'd be thinking about.
Anyway, the invites. We picked and ordered our Santorini invites ourselves and I deliberately didn't ask for her input until we got the proofs which was today. The wording we have chosen is along the lines of me and my other half invite such and such to celebrate our wedding". I didn't do together with their parents because my fiancés parents are both sadly deceased and to put that my parents invited people I felt was a bit too traditional (it brought to mind country house American weddings planned by the parents for some reason) and my mum is a bit bummed out by this.
I emailed her the proofs to check for spelling errors etc and she replied and said that they'd like it if the UK reception invites could be from them as she felt that people would think my parents weren't bothered about me getting married if we sent it from us and then said "i understand if you want it to be from you" which is a loaded statement coming from her.
So my question is do I just say yes and when it comes to our evening invites let it be from them or do I stick to my guns? To stick to my guns would invite more hassle but to say yes feels a bit like giving in and if I say yes on this what else do I have to say yes to?
We arent massively bothered about having a grand traditional wedding and wanted it to be stress free but I think mum has other ideas!!