How involved should my bridesmaids be?
I have 2 bridesmaids, one is my partners sister and the other is my cousin. My cousin was super excited when I asked her, then when I asked what dress size she wanted ordering she said a dress size lower than what she is, I told her that id rather get her a dress in her size which we could take in but she insisted on the lower size. The dress came and she's told a member of the family that she hasnt actually bothered trying to lose the weight so the dress won't fit. I love her whatever size she is and would just rather she was comfortable, I told her this when I ordered her dress but she insisted. I've now managed to find another dress that is her size but feel annoyed that Ive had to do this. She hasn't asked about the wedding, hasn't offered to help with anything and really doesn't seem that interested.
My partners sister was amazing when we first got engaged. Sharing ideas, offering help and advice and seemed really pleased with organising my hen do but thats all seemed to have worn off now the excitement seems to have gone. I also don't know if she's trying to purposely wind me up but shes sent me pictures of blow up willy costumes that apparently she's wearing and all sorts of other things she knows I won't like. I'm no prude but I also saw my hen do as being really fun and something I could remember, I don't really drink and hate nursing hangovers the next day so a night out really isnt for me and she knows this. She's not easily confronted as she can get her back up very easily, and my partner said he would talk to her but didn't.
I feel like I'm banging my head against a wall with both of them, I've tried to involve them, sent txts but nothing seems to work. I'm at the end of my tether with my hen do too. I didn't have my best friend because at the time I couldn't afford to have three so we decided that she would just do a reading but now I'm wishing I'd asked her instead of my cousin, especially as i now have a spare dress! She would have been so much more helpful and forthcoming with her support