Wedding in Las Vegas - upsetting my mother
I have never been one for the big 'look at me' weddings. I don't have money going spare, i have a mortgage. Our family Friend got married at a wonderful stately home 4 years ago and ever since then i have said i want to get married in Las Vegas. I have now found a lovely guy and we are getting married in las vegas in four weeks!
The issue is my mother, literally everyone else i know have said i am doing the right thing, doing what i want, being sensible. But my mother has constantly blocked the discussions of weddings since i booked it in march. Her and my dad have given us some money which we are very, very grateful for but she has been so upset and so not interested that there is the wierd void in conversations. Every other conversation is fine - she just shuts down when i talk about weddings. I think this comes from my elder sister who has never got married (so perhaps i am my mums only chance to be mother of the bride) and the fact my cousin, got married in a massive expensive do in May. Which means my mums sister has done nothing but wedding talk for two years and my mum cannot do the same.
mum cannot come to my dress fittings as she works and couldnt get there in time. She just is so un-interested and feels 'hurt' that i didnt come to her to discuss it - even though i have been saying for 4 years its what i want. And i couldn't afford to get married in this country.
Today she has told me she has booked herself a holiday to Spain that week i am in Las Vegas as she 'didnt want to be at work and didnt what her colleagues to know her daughter is getting married and not inviting her'
I realise in 4 weeks this will all be over as i will be on a plane. But i feel the emotional damage done to my mum, for an extortionate day i cannot afford, that i dont want - will last forever.
I really dont know how to make my mum forgive me - for doing what i want on my wedding day.
it is just me and my guy going to vegas. We dont want a do after as there is only three weekends until Christmas, and his mothers birthday so there really isnt time and plus we dont want one.
any advice? thanks