I am looking for some sensitive advice please. I am a regular poster on here but wish to remain anonymous for this post. My H2B and I are getting married this summer, and as I am sure we all are on this forum, we are in a stable relationship filled with "soon-to-be-married" love and excitement.
We lead fairly straightforward lives, no children, live together in harmony, good jobs etc. We have never really had any problems in our relationship to overcome either.
But I have accidently discovered something that I did not expect. I made an order for something for our wedding off the amazon prime account that we both use. It happens to be registered to his email address so when I ordered something he was at work I logged on to his email to check the confirmation email had come through. I always do this but I'm not sure my H2B knows that, it didn't occur to me that it would ever cause an issue...
The email that came in a couple of hours prior (which he had read) was part of a thread from a recruitment lady for jobs abroad. Moving abroad is something we had always considered for our future and we had actually discussed it just 2 or 3 days earlier as he said he had been approached by a recruiter. I was a bit naughty and scrolled down the thread (nothing suspicious I just was interested in where it was etc) and saw that he has told her his salary...
Some background, H2B has been propelled up the career track since moving to London and in 6 years he has gone from £20,000 to £80,000 yearly salary. The most recent promotion was at Christmas time from £60,000 which he was informed of (and immediately told me about) whilst on holiday.
However, he told her that his current salary is £67,500. I thought hmm odd but put it to the back of my mind. Later that day I was sorting out my desk and found some of his papers, I took them to put on his side of the bed (where we dump stuff of each others that we find in the house without a "home") but on the way, I saw it was his promotion letter, dated 1st Jan 2017, with a salary increase from £60,000 to £67,500, backing up the email I had found. When he got home, I told him I'd seen the letter, he laughed it off and said "you know I am on more then that, this was a mistake by my boss, I have the corrected version on my desk...".
Funnily enough, I don't believe him. But didn't know how to bring up the email as really, I shouldn't have been on his account even though it was completely innocent.
Now, I must say, before anyone judges..... I honestly don't give two hoots about how much my H2B earns. We started our relationship with me earning more then him, lending money etc. And now he earns a lot more then me but this is irrelevant to our relationship and we keep our finances separate and pay 50% for everything (except dinners out etc. where he treats me like normal people in serious relationships). My concern is not about the money, I am questioning why he is not being truthful, and beginning to have tiny niggling doubts about my trust in him. He has no reason to lie, he knows I love him and am proud of him no matter what the salary.
I feel I need to bring it up with him as we are due to be married and don't see the way I feel now as a good way to feel just months before tying the knot, but I am worried that he will be angry at me for being on his emails.
Thanks in advance.