After All This Time.... Our June 2019 wedding
After reading lots of planning threads ive decided to start my own, im putting all of my waffle into this first post, so feel free to skim read haha
How we met
It was 2006 and I was in my first year at college, our friendship groups joined when J started dating one of my friends and I started dating one of his. Over the next two years we became very close and I regarded him as one of my best friends. Unfortunately he had a fall out with my then boyfriend G and we stopped talking for six years.
In that time I married G and had 2 daughters. Fast forward to 2015 and due to many reasons my relationship with G was breaking down due to his personal issues and my PND after our second daughter. I ended my relationship and marriage with G and he moved out.
A few months later J and I bumped into each other in a bar one night and the rest as they say is history, we’ve subsequently realised that we have loved each other for many years, we were just never in the right place until now.
The non-propsal proposal
From us first getting together, J and I had both said we wouldn’t get married, something along the line things changed a lot and we found ourselves talking about doing it maybe 2021-2022, we wanted to live a little, have some big holidays, buy a house, spoil the girls etc
2016 ended amazingly with my divorce coming through on December 23<sup>rd</sup>, just in time for Christmas however 2017 didn’t start off very well for us due to a few reasons, the main one being, I have a couple of gynaecological problems and I had a check up early in January and the general consensus from my new consultant is that my old consultant has pretty much ruined things and if I want any more children it needs to be sooner rather than later. I rang J after my appointment in floods of tears and after calming me down I went off to work (im a dance teacher) and after work I had a text message saying, lets bump everything up, lets move in together asap, get engaged in 2018 and married in 2019 then we can start trying for a baby straight away.
I was very dubious as I felt this was only because I wanted a baby with him, and his ‘old fashioned’ values mean he needs/wants to ‘do it right’ many chats and discussions happened and he explained its not just about that, he wants to marry me and doesn’t want to wait. The only reason he was waiting was because we planned to go to NYC for my 30<sup>th</sup> in 2019 and he planned to propose there, fancy meal, carriage ride around central park and then up the Empire State Building to propose while a violinist payed Van Morrison’s Have I Told You Lately That I Love You…………… talk about dangling a carrot! Haha!
So it was decided we’d rather not wait, and we’d get married in 2019 and have our Honeymoon in NYC.
One lazy Sunday afternoon we were talking weddings and he said ‘maybe we should start actually planning, find a venue and everything….. but im not actually proposing until next year’
So theres my non proposal proposal and the wedding planning started…
Choosing a date
So we had the year, and we knew we wanted to do it in the late spring/early Summer so that we could be back from honeymoon before the girls started school again in September.
We have a lot of birthdays and anniversaries around July & August, but we didn’t really want to do May as that’s Js birthday, so June it was, and June 8<sup>th</sup> was subsequently chosen as W DAY.