October 2018 - An Unconventional London Wedding

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  • Lexie2017 wrote (see post):

    I got married 2 months ago, Newbie2this - we chose St Pancras Station. Tower Bridge could be an option, or the Gherkin?

    Love the hairband, weatherwaxe, that is totally gorgeous and I'm very envious of your dark hair that shows off the sparkles. And the wedding rings - utterly gorgeous!

    Aww thank you Lexie, I hope you're enjoying married life!

  • VegasLouVegasLou Posts: 820 New bride

    The hotel stay sounds amazing! Wow to your honeymoon, I saw the giant tortoises in Mauritius, I love tortoises. The Seychelles will be beautiful. I love your wedding ring! Who is the Etsy seller please? 

  • VegasLou wrote (see post):

    The hotel stay sounds amazing! Wow to your honeymoon, I saw the giant tortoises in Mauritius, I love tortoises. The Seychelles will be beautiful. I love your wedding ring! Who is the Etsy seller please? 

    Hi VegasLou, the Etsy seller is AbhikaJewels.

  • So I bought my dress this weekend!

    This was considerably more dramatic than expected due to an evacuation alarm at Westfield. We had started looking around the shops as we were early when a siren started to sound. The siren had a pre-recorded message which told us we needed to evacuate., So we decided to specifically go to the outside bit where Davids Bridal was located. It was really confusing as the alarm was telling us to evacuate and follow instructions from people on the floor, but there were zero people directing anyone so people were getting scared and didn't know what they should be doing.

    As we were about to walk through the doors there was a massive crush of people running and screaming. We basically had to also run or we would have been trampled.

    I fell over a discarded buggy and I genuinely don't think I've ever been so frightened in my life.

    It turns out that there was a small fire, hence the sirens and evacuation message, and then I think someone stupidly let off a firework or something which made a loud bang which freaked everyone out and started a stampede. This was entirely the fault of Westfield - if they would have had someone directing people, or had a real person over the tannoy telling people there was a small fire and to make your way outside this wouldn't have happened. I think it happened because of the confusion, and the lack of direction from Westfield, which made me freak out and think there was a terror alert or something.

    We had basically ran to the Olympics stadium area by this point and we waited around half an hour then after checking twitter and hearing nothing from there we decided to investigate. By the time we got back they were just re-opening the shops. It was all slightly crazy and we were full of adrenaline.  

     

  • We were in two minds what to do, part of us wanted to just go home and get away, but my mum was really keen to see me in my dress as she had flown in for the day especially. So we went to a bar and had a stiff drink (which really helped) and I checked my bruises from my fall.

    We then went to my appointment. I tried on my dress again, I was a bit cross as the consultant gave the game away by saying what type of dress it was in front of my mum before I went into the changing room. I wanted it to be a complete surprise! But once I had my dress on again I knew it was definitely the one.

    I had brought my shoes and a petticoat and my headband so I could get a real picture of what it would look like all together. My mum loved it and kept saying 'its so you'.

    I then tried it with a mid-length veil which ended just below my dress and it was perfect. Stupidly I forgot to take a picture as I was too in the moment. The consultant then made me ring the bell and the whole shop cheered and then I got all emotional and started welling up. This made my mum start to cry and we were both weeping like losers.

    I swore I wouldn't cry over my dress and I did!  

  • We went to pay for my dress and veil and belt and when we got to the register we were told that there was a discount on this weekend and my dress was reduced to £600. Bargain! Considering my original budget was £1k more than that, I think I really lucked out.

    We then went for drinks and dinner to celebrate.

    When I got home I checked the item codes on the receipt with the items on the website (to check everything was correct) and I'm fairly sure the consultant ordered the wrong bloody veil! The veil which matched the item number was a short elbow length veil - it looked very similar but was miles too short). I'm a bit worried as the veil was special order and you have to sign the receipt saying that everything is correct.

    Although how I'm supposed to know that everything is correct when they only have the item number and not a item description I don't know! I gave them a call yesterday and the consultant is going to give me a ring today.

    Fingers crossed it will be sorted out easily. As I don't know the item number of the veil I tried on, I might go back this evening and sort it out in person. Not exactly ideal but I'd glad I'm super OTT and organised and actually checked before it was too late!

  • Good news, I went back to DB to sort out my veil issues and it turns out the veil I tried on had the wrong tag - it had the tag of the much shorter elbow length veil that has been ordered.

    The consultant tracked down the correct veil style and it was on discount - reduced from £165 to £64, so another bargain!

    This is my veil which at its longest point hits slightly lower than the hem of my dress:

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    and this is the veil they ordered for me originally:

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    Just a bit of difference! Glad I have it sorted though, it would have been awful to not have checked and then had it turn up and be completely wrong.

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    Really pleased with this random purchase. I bought some sixpence shoe clips from Etsy for £8, figuring if I didn't like them I hadn't wasted much money. They arrived yesterday and they're really pretty. 

    My veil also arrived today but I can't for the life of me get a decent picture of it. So have this really crap one instead. It is also really pretty, although you cannot tell from the atrocious photo. 

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  • LizzieBHLizzieBH Posts: 196

    Gorgeous! I just can't believe the shop had got it wrong... It scares me that it really does pay to be that vigilant.

  • LizzieBH wrote (see post):

    Gorgeous! I just can't believe the shop had got it wrong... It scares me that it really does pay to be that vigilant.

    I know! If I hadn't paid attention I would have ended up with a bright white veil literally a third of the size. It clearly pays to be OTT about these sort of orders! 

  • My wedding ring(s) arrived and it is AMAZING! It is very OTT but still very delicate looking, I've in love. 

    The bands are only 1mm thick as I have stubby short fingers and didn't want too much weight and finger coverage. I love both bands and I am so happy.

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    It only took three days to reach me from India, which is amazing. I'm even happier that for some unknown reason, I didn't get charged import taxes and fees on it. I had estimated around £130 in fees on top of the ring price, but no, zero fees to pay. 

    I also got the most lovely personal note from the jewellery designer which really touched me.

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    I would massively recommend Abhika Jewels on Etsy, as the level of service I received from design to delivery was just brilliant. 

  • VegasLouVegasLou Posts: 820 New bride

    Love your wedding rings, they fit perfectly with your er. Thanks for the link, they have some beautiful jewellery. 

    Your little shoe charms are So cute and what a bargain! Yay to ordering your dress and for noticing the veil error, good spot. 

  • LizzieBHLizzieBH Posts: 196

    Your rings are stunning! How did they make them to fit so perfectly, without having your engagement ring to work around? And how are you planning to do the ceremony, will you use just one or both?

  • LizzieBH wrote (see post):

    Your rings are stunning! How did they make them to fit so perfectly, without having your engagement ring to work around? And how are you planning to do the ceremony, will you use just one or both?

    I gave her the measurements of my stone and the band width and sent her a picture of my e-ring on my finger and she figured it out from there. She was completely amazing and I can't get over how well she did.

    For the ceremony I was just going to put the lower one on (which also looks great by itself), but my h2b is quite keen on putting the whole lot together. Might take him about ten years though! 

  • I picked up my wedding jewellery this weekend. I knew I wanted to go relatively simple and unfussy. I also wanted blue earrings to compliment my shoes. 

    My mum has bought me a pair of platinum/sapphire earrings as a Christmas present and they are beautiful: 

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    and I grabbed a simple silver and freshwater pearl bracelet from Azendi at House of Fraser during the Black Friday sale: 

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    I wanted something that wouldn't catch on my dress and this fits the bill perfectly. I only need underwear and then that's my outfit pretty much sorted! Well, until I decide that I hate everything in about six months time and change the whole lot up. 

  • VegasLouVegasLou Posts: 820 New bride

    Your earrings are beautiful. Wish I could decide on jewellery. 

  • VegasLou wrote (see post):

    Your earrings are beautiful. Wish I could decide on jewellery. 

    I thought you had decided on the Trollbeads VegasLou, or have you changed your mind?

  • I'm currently freaking out about our wedding budget. Costs just keep spiralling and spiralling.

    Originally we had planned to fund the wedding entirely ourselves and we had a £12k budget not including honeymoon. Then A's dad stepped in and agreed to pay for the majority of our wedding and my mum said she would pay for my dress and accessories.

    This meant that we picked a much more expensive wedding venue than we would have originally had. Our venue is very expensive per head and A's dad keeps adding more and more people to the guest list. We're now spending more than our original budget on just our reception venue and even though we're not paying for it, I keep freaking out. A's dad is entirely unconcerned but I can't help but feel awful that we're spending so much money on a single day!

    I know this is a really nice problem to have (oh no my future father-in-law is spending lots of money on us!) but I can't shake the guilt. It's really getting to me.

  • VegasLouVegasLou Posts: 820 New bride
    weatherwaxe wrote (see post):
    VegasLou wrote (see post):

    Your earrings are beautiful. Wish I could decide on jewellery. 

    I thought you had decided on the Trollbeads VegasLou, or have you changed your mind?

    I had but I didn’t like them when they arrived, I thought they looked a bit cheap! Not their normal quality so back to the drawing board! 

  • VegasLouVegasLou Posts: 820 New bride
    weatherwaxe wrote (see post):

    I'm currently freaking out about our wedding budget. Costs just keep spiralling and spiralling.

    Originally we had planned to fund the wedding entirely ourselves and we had a £12k budget not including honeymoon. Then A's dad stepped in and agreed to pay for the majority of our wedding and my mum said she would pay for my dress and accessories.

    This meant that we picked a much more expensive wedding venue than we would have originally had. Our venue is very expensive per head and A's dad keeps adding more and more people to the guest list. We're now spending more than our original budget on just our reception venue and even though we're not paying for it, I keep freaking out. A's dad is entirely unconcerned but I can't help but feel awful that we're spending so much money on a single day!

    I know this is a really nice problem to have (oh no my future father-in-law is spending lots of money on us!) but I can't shake the guilt. It's really getting to me.

    It’s a tricky one because if the costs are escalating due to fil inviting more people and he’s footing the bill then there’s not a lot you can do. He’s obviously happy to do it, I guess you just have to try and get your head round it. I understand your worry though,  weddings are such a big expense whatever size your budget! 

  • LizzieBHLizzieBH Posts: 196

    Also, in a way, finding that you feel this way about such big spending is a good thing :) It IS a lot of money, and it's not to be taken lightly. It's the brides who spend without freaking out who should be worried! The good news is that it's once in a lifetime, you CAN manage it financially, and you have the rest of your life to be sensible. Try to enjoy this one moment of total not-sensibleness!

  • I felt like this for such a long time - my FIL paid our venue cost and the money side of things literally sickened me (we spent a lot too!). Having got married last month and it being the most insanely incredible day of our lives I can tell you it's worth it and you won't miss the money

  • MrsLMTMrsLMT Posts: 3,830

    Love your jewellery! Very pretty! 

    I feel guilty about the money we are spending on the wedding. My parents are paying for the venue and I hate informing them of the current balance. Not that they have complained! 

  • SadieeeSadieee Posts: 1,781 New bride

    Your ER/WR combo is amazing!! Reminds me of Princess Diana's/Kate Middletons ring :)

  • Just caught up on your thread. Your shoes are really stunninh and I like the idea of the sixpence clip ons. And that ring! It is so unique! That's what I love about your thread. You really know who you are.

  • maria211017 wrote (see post):

    I felt like this for such a long time - my FIL paid our venue cost and the money side of things literally sickened me (we spent a lot too!). Having got married last month and it being the most insanely incredible day of our lives I can tell you it's worth it and you won't miss the money

    This is hugely reassuring! My biggest fear was that we would spend all that money and I would resent it on the day somehow.

  • Thanks for the lovely comments about my ring guys. I've been having a bit of a wobble recently so took some time away from this forum, but these comments have really cheered me up again :)

  • SadieeeSadieee Posts: 1,781 New bride

    Everyone has wobbles! I have days I regret booking a reception venue where I have to bring everything in myself and wont have someone to 'take charge' like hotels and other venues have, but then I go walk part my venue, fall in love again and all is good :) (until the next time I wobble haha)

  • Budget (and cake)

    So in my last post I was bemoaning how expensive our wedding was getting. Even though my future FiL was like 'meh' about the cost, A and I decided that we did want to try and make some savings anyway, to make ourselves feel better.

    When we were looking at costs we realised that the cost between two courses and three courses was quite a significant difference (£25 pp!). As we're looking at around 100 people, that means having dessert would cost £2500! Nope, no way, not happening.

    No dessert is worth £25 extra per head unless its literally made of gold, so we've decided that we're going to get a very nice cake and serve that as dessert, and ask the venue to provide some fresh berries and cream to go along with it.  

    Me being me, I definitely didn't want a boring-ass white cake, so started looking for bakers who specialised in bright colourful alternative wedding cakes.

    I originally found the most amazing and ridiculous cakes from a baker based in Hackney called Fondant Fox.

    Here are some examples of their work:

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    Amazing, right? Sadly, I contacted them and they never bothered to get back to me. Pet peeve of mine is when suppliers take an age to respond to emails. Quick response times and good customer service is hugely important to me so they were nixed from the potential suppliers list and I started looking for alternatives.

    I then found another baker much closer to home in Ealing, whose work is similar but not quite as OTT. The bakery is called Jen's Cakery and they have a review from Mel from GBBO on the front of their website, which made me smile :)

    They do the most amazing Penguin book cake where she has even managed to make the pages look well-thumbed:

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    I really wanted a round cake though, and this one called 'Tootsie' is my current favourite:

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    I think this is so pretty. The communication was great and the price was reasonable (£600 for a 5 tier cake that will serve 110 dessert sized portions), and we now have a tasting booked for Sunday this weekend! Hopefully the cakes taste as good as they look.

     

     

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