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Town Centre Barn Wedding - Kent, August 2019

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  • Don't know how I managed to miss your post about decorations as I'd read all the posts after it but just seen it and literally all of what you have planned is what I want to do so can't wait to see how it turns out! I've even pinned the same pallet order of the day! 

     

  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,934 New bride
    FutureMrsTomlin wrote (see post):

    Don't know how I managed to miss your post about decorations as I'd read all the posts after it but just seen it and literally all of what you have planned is what I want to do so can't wait to see how it turns out! I've even pinned the same pallet order of the day! 

     

    Thanks- my floristry skills are more keen amateur than seasoned professional so it will probably end up less impressive than I hope! My craft projects usually go a bit wrong!

    I'm also getting these balloons to spell out Mr & Mrs by the dancefloor - I love the big light up signs but we have neither the space or the budget for them.

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  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,934 New bride

    So slightly last minute but I'm going dress shopping for the first time tomorrow....eeeeek!!! I'm absolutely bricking it!

    A local bridal store I follow on Facebook has a Maggie Sottero plus size trunk show on today and tomorrow so I have an appointment in the morning. I'm only going to take my mum with me this time for 2 reasons, a) the first time I go I just want to try some dresses on and decide what I like and what suits me without loads of people throwing opinions at me, and b) it's short notice to ask my MIL and bridesmaids to come.

    Can anyone tell me what I should wear underwear wise?

    I don't know if I've mentioned this previously, but I do have a back up wedding dress at home in the wardrobe. It's a Monsoon tea length dress in my current size that I bought purely because it was dirt cheap in their sale. It definitely isn't my 'dream dress' but it's a fallback if I don't find anything. I'm only 5ft 2" so it comes up more ballerina length on me and would need adjusting, but I suspect I'll probably just end up selling it on eBay!

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  • When I went dress shopping I just wore pale underwear but honestly it really doesn't matter, I spent ages deliberating over underwear and it doesntd matter at all, I'd just avoid wearing something you really wouldn't want to be seen in! 

  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,934 New bride

    Thanks FMT! I'll just wear a plain white bra and my usual giant pants then ๐Ÿ˜‚

  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,934 New bride

    I'm such a doughnut - I've done what people warn you not to do and really liked a dress on the first visit that's more than I want to spend! 

    It is Maggie Sottero Laverna in ivory and gold, and here's the kicker - it's a sample so it's £800 instead of £1799....but another bride is thinking about buying it and may be going back next week so I really need to make a decision in the next couple of days.

    My original budget was £500ish (was thinking Wed2B) but with the straps and alterations this would end up coming in at £1200ish. We could afford it but it just seems such alot of money. Do Maggie Sottero dresses realistically have re-sale value? 

    I also only took my mum as it was too short notice for my bridesmaids, and I really want a day where we all go together and I try on dresses as I don't want to miss out on that experience! 

    I'd really welcome your opinions please!

  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,934 New bride

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  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,934 New bride

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    This is what it looks like on me...I'll take this down in a bit! Bearing in mind I'm a size 20-22 I feel it's quite slimming on me and I'm also worried I won't get such good corsetry in a cheaper dress.

  • MrsHowgateMrsHowgate Posts: 1,393 New bride
    MrsCToBee wrote (see post):

    I'm such a doughnut - I've done what people warn you not to do and really liked a dress on the first visit that's more than I want to spend! 

    It is Maggie Sottero Laverna in ivory and gold, and here's the kicker - it's a sample so it's £800 instead of £1799....but another bride is thinking about buying it and may be going back next week so I really need to make a decision in the next couple of days.

    My original budget was £500ish (was thinking Wed2B) but with the straps and alterations this would end up coming in at £1200ish. We could afford it but it just seems such alot of money. Do Maggie Sottero dresses realistically have re-sale value? 

    I also only took my mum as it was too short notice for my bridesmaids, and I really want a day where we all go together and I try on dresses as I don't want to miss out on that experience! 

    I'd really welcome your opinions please!

    my first dress was a Maggie Sottero and I’ve had no luck selling it despite it being new and unaltered :( my new dress is Mori Lee

  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,934 New bride

    Thanks for replying, that's good to know. I don't know if I'd sell it anyway as I'm quite sentimental. I think in general it's much harder to sell wedding dresses than people think as the market is so flooded. This dress would have to be altered to my 5ft 2" height too which would further limit it's saleability.

    I do love it, but it's 16 months until the wedding, and I've tried on 4 dresses, 2 of which I hated. I'm worried I'd change my mind and I just don't feel like I've looked or tried on enough dresses to commit....but then it's such a great deal for a great quality dress which I do love.

    Can I ask why you changed your mind?

  • MrsHowgateMrsHowgate Posts: 1,393 New bride
    MrsCToBee wrote (see post):

    Thanks for replying, that's good to know. I don't know if I'd sell it anyway as I'm quite sentimental. I think in general it's much harder to sell wedding dresses than people think as the market is so flooded. This dress would have to be altered to my 5ft 2" height too which would further limit it's saleability.

    I do love it, but it's 16 months until the wedding, and I've tried on 4 dresses, 2 of which I hated. I'm worried I'd change my mind and I just don't feel like I've looked or tried on enough dresses to commit....but then it's such a great deal for a great quality dress which I do love.

    Can I ask why you changed your mind?

    The dress no longer fitted me. I’d gained weight and the shop in fact ordered me the wrong size, I’m a 16 and they got a 12. I was treated really badly by the shop and they also ripped my dress. By that point I’d fallen out of love with it. I made the difficult decision to get a new dress. Completely messed up the wedding finances but I totally love it. 

    My other mistake was I got it 18 months before our wedding date. If i had waited until now I wouldnt have made the mistake I did, getting a dress I thought was the one so early. Take your time and don’t rush it, if it’s meant to be then it will be ๐Ÿ˜

  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,934 New bride

    That's terrible about the shop treating you like that, how awful. Sounds like they should have refunded you.

    I must admit that is partly the appeal of buying a sample - The dress I try on will be the one I get and as it's corset back and strapless it can be adjusted up or down 2 or 3 sizes quite easily. I have 3 friends who have bought dresses from the same shop too so I'm pretty happy that they are reputable. 

    I've just been looking through my Pinterest and all the dresses I had previously pinned are basically versions of this dress. Have had a nose on Wed2B too and similar dresses are only £100 or so cheaper there and I'm assuming won't be quite as good quality.

    Decisions decisions ๐Ÿค”๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜‚

  • britbirdbritbird Posts: 1,486 New bride

    I think it is gorgeous, and really suits you. However, it is a long way out.  If you are sure though, go for it

  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,934 New bride

    Thanks Britbird! The ladies in the shop indicated many of their dresses take 6-9 months to arrive plus alterations time so I was thinking about starting to look with a year to go....16 months out does seem early! 

    Gah I really wish I hadn't gone now, but as a bigger lady it's so rare to be able to see and try on dresses that actually fit and that swayed me.

  • britbirdbritbird Posts: 1,486 New bride
    MrsCToBee wrote (see post):

    Thanks Britbird! The ladies in the shop indicated many of their dresses take 6-9 months to arrive plus alterations time so I was thinking about starting to look with a year to go....16 months out does seem early! 

    Gah I really wish I hadn't gone now, but as a bigger lady it's so rare to be able to see and try on dresses that actually fit and that swayed me.

    I think a year out is a good time- I started looking earlier, but didn't have an actual trying on session until a year out.  I was fitted for mine yesterday.  I do totally know what you mean about being bigger- I had the same thing.  There are a lot of shops out there though that do have the bigger sizes now so I really wouldn't worry 

  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,934 New bride

    Thanks Britbird!

    My budget doesn't really extend to most of the plus size ranges around in bridal stores though so I am limited...this dress is £800 and that has already blown my budget. My budget was originally around £500 but having done a lot of research I'm not going to get the dress I want for that money. This is an £1800 dress for £800, so I would be getting that amazing corsetry which you just don't get at the lower price points. I have tried on a few high street wedding dresses also, in Monsoon and Debenhams, and to be honest because they don't have any internal structure I looked like a sack of spuds in all of them!

    I've spent the weekend scouring the internet for similar dresses available within my size and budget and I still think this dress blows them all out of the water. My mum and friends all love it so I think I'm going to buy it, subject to the store answering a few questions.

    Frustratingly they aren't open on Mondays so I've emailed them and asked them to contact me as soon as possible. I'm now panicking that someone might have bought it on Saturday afternoon!

  • britbirdbritbird Posts: 1,486 New bride
    MrsCToBee wrote (see post):

    Thanks Britbird!

    My budget doesn't really extend to most of the plus size ranges around in bridal stores though so I am limited...this dress is £800 and that has already blown my budget. My budget was originally around £500 but having done a lot of research I'm not going to get the dress I want for that money. This is an £1800 dress for £800, so I would be getting that amazing corsetry which you just don't get at the lower price points. I have tried on a few high street wedding dresses also, in Monsoon and Debenhams, and to be honest because they don't have any internal structure I looked like a sack of spuds in all of them!

    I've spent the weekend scouring the internet for similar dresses available within my size and budget and I still think this dress blows them all out of the water. My mum and friends all love it so I think I'm going to buy it, subject to the store answering a few questions.

    Frustratingly they aren't open on Mondays so I've emailed them and asked them to contact me as soon as possible. I'm now panicking that someone might have bought it on Saturday afternoon!

    You seem to be taking quite a sensible approach to it- if it is the perfect one for you, then you will know it, and if it works out, then the way I see it, is that it was meant to be :-) 

  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,934 New bride

    I hope so! 

    I am a very logical, practical person...even when it comes to buying my wedding dress it seems!

  • Sian91Sian91 Posts: 829 New bride

    Fingers crossed the dress works out! I'm only 5'1 so like you tried on some very long dresses!

    Like others have said, I wouldn't rely on selling it- I think people want the dress shopping experience and to walk out with 'their dress'.

  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,934 New bride

    Yes Sian, that is the thing that will bump the price of this dress up - because it has applique and a scalloped hem, it all has to be unpicked by hand, the dress shortened then sewn back on again! 

    I think in reality I won't want to part with it anyway, but I've noticed second hand dresses on eBay either don't sell or take a long time. In fact there are second hand dresses the same style as mine on both eBay and Still White and they are all up for £1000 or more, whereas this sample is £800 (and I'm hoping to knock them down a bit).

  • Your dress looks stunning on you! Literally can't believe you're a 22, you look nothing like it! 

    I think you've made the right decision going for the dress, its such a good deal and if it's like all the ones you've been pinning then that's obviously what you want! I don't get married until next September and was planning to start looking for dresses about a year out but have actually just chosen mine, I really didn't want to get one so early but I think when you know then you know! 

  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,934 New bride

    Thanks FMT that's reassuring! I've got a quite small waist for my size but a big bum and tummy, this just seems to skim over them miraculously!

    Can't talk to the bridal shop until the morning as they close on Mondays so desperately hoping it's still available ๐Ÿคž I wish I'd bought it there and then but I had to discuss finances with OH then they close on Sunday & Monday!

  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,934 New bride

    EEEEEK.....I SAID YES TO THE DRESS!!!!

    I'm a Maggie Sottero Laverna bride! 

     

    Firstly, I apologise profusely for my incessant wittering about this dress for the last few days!

    So I spoke to the dress shop this morning about THE dress. The dress originally was £1795 plus extra for the straps, and since the dress is an ex sample they had it on sale for £800 plus I was quoted £75-100 for the straps. Alterations would be between £200-300.

    My original budget for a dress was £500 or less plus alterations.

    I know they have a sample sale coming up soon and they are famous locally as they sell all their samples for £500 or less twice a year, for decent brands like Enzoani, Sottero & Midgley, Pronovias, Maggie Sottero, Justin Alexander, Ian Stuart etc.

    I'm a buyer by profession, so asking for a discount comes naturally to me.....so after a bit of negotiation I have bought the dress for £500 including the matching straps!

    I hadn't stopped thinking about the dress all weekend and I'm really happy - with my budget and most samples being quite small I had resigned myself to a high street dress so I'm really pleased to have got such a good quality dress within my budget :)

    They have also agreed I can go back with my mum, MIL and bridesmaids and try it on to show them so they get a mini dress shopping experience which is lovely of them.

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  • ruthie1979ruthie1979 Posts: 794

    YAYYYY congratulations - it is an absolutely stunning dress and what a bargain!! xxx

  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,934 New bride

    Thank you Ruthie :)

  • MrsCToBee wrote (see post):

    EEEEEK.....I SAID YES TO THE DRESS!!!!

    I'm a Maggie Sottero Laverna bride! 

     

    Firstly, I apologise profusely for my incessant wittering about this dress for the last few days!

    So I spoke to the dress shop this morning about THE dress. The dress originally was £1795 plus extra for the straps, and since the dress is an ex sample they had it on sale for £800 plus I was quoted £75-100 for the straps. Alterations would be between £200-300.

    My original budget for a dress was £500 or less plus alterations.

    I know they have a sample sale coming up soon and they are famous locally as they sell all their samples for £500 or less twice a year, for decent brands like Enzoani, Sottero & Midgley, Pronovias, Maggie Sottero, Justin Alexander, Ian Stuart etc.

    I'm a buyer by profession, so asking for a discount comes naturally to me.....so after a bit of negotiation I have bought the dress for £500 including the matching straps!

    I hadn't stopped thinking about the dress all weekend and I'm really happy - with my budget and most samples being quite small I had resigned myself to a high street dress so I'm really pleased to have got such a good quality dress within my budget :)

    They have also agreed I can go back with my mum, MIL and bridesmaids and try it on to show them so they get a mini dress shopping experience which is lovely of them.

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    Love the dress! Where is the shop may I ask? :)

  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,934 New bride

    Hi Cupcakes, it's Go Bridal in Tunbridge Wells. They have an outlet section on their website if you want a bargain but there are lots more dresses in the shop than online.

  • MrsCToBee wrote (see post):

    Hi Cupcakes, it's Go Bridal in Tunbridge Wells. They have an outlet section on their website if you want a bargain but there are lots more dresses in the shop than online.

     

    Amazing! Thank you!! It's not too far from London either :)

     

  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,934 New bride
    Cupcakes2019 wrote (see post):
    MrsCToBee wrote (see post):

    Hi Cupcakes, it's Go Bridal in Tunbridge Wells. They have an outlet section on their website if you want a bargain but there are lots more dresses in the shop than online.

     

    Amazing! Thank you!! It's not too far from London either :)

     Yes, 45 mins on the train. They have a sister shop in the same town called The Pantiles Bride who sell higher end designers, but also do a sample sale. The lady who helped me actually works at Pantiles Bride normally and used to work at Browns Bridal so she knows her stuff ๐Ÿ˜€

    TW also has Isabella Grace which is amazing and award winning but out of my budget sadly.

     

  • Emma624Emma624 Posts: 137

    Hi

    I am following this thread - so excited to read as I got married in Tunbridge Wells (The High Rocks) back in Feb 2017 - as you can see I'm still obsessed with weddings. A couple of months after our friends got married at your venue. It was such a lovely day and everything went well - they also topped up wine bottles on tables when we run out for the sit down meal. They had a black taxi photobooth outside and a magician. We had a lovely time.

    I am taking my husband back to Tunbridge one weekend in June for his birthday so that we can have a meal in High Rocks and go back to the Barn with our friends who got married there (they live in Tunbridge) for a few drinks and maybe a meal depending on what day. 

     

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