Dream dress becomes a NIGHTMARE!

Hi!

So I'm a plus (plusplus) size bride (working on it!!), and quite honestly the idea of shopping for a wedding dress or any of that caper fills me with complete fear/dread/chest pain. 

I reluctantly started looking after realising that I'm going to have to start looking soon (wedding Nov 2019). None have ever made me feel anything other than dread that I know I'm going to look horrific. Until I spotted The Dream Dress. I spent all day online looking at it, sent it to my mum and BMs. 

The Dream Dress: http://www.bonny.com/1822

So I've spent all morning emailing stockists listed online to be told that NO ONE in the uk stocks Bonny Bridal any longer and the UK distribution centre closed last year. I am sooo upset!

Has anyone ever spotted any Bonny dresses in any shops, or know of any alternative? This is just my luck, haha.

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  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,540 New bride

    It's a lovely dress. If you can't find it you could achieve a similar look with a sweetheart strapless dress then a lace jacket over the top.

    Have you tried Wed2Be?

    I'm plus size and my dress is Maggie Sottero, the corsetry is amazing and really makes me look a lot slimmer.

  • MrsNH17MrsNH17 Posts: 524 New bride

    I assume you used the search function? As one of the shops that comes up still has Bonny bridal on their website?

    http://www.plussizebridal.co.uk/plus-size-gown-gallery/bonny-bridal.html

  • MrsNH17 wrote (see post):

    I assume you used the search function? As one of the shops that comes up still has Bonny bridal on their website?

    http://www.plussizebridal.co.uk/plus-size-gown-gallery/bonny-bridal.html

     

    Hi - yes I've already spoken to them :) 

  • MrsCToBee wrote (see post):

    It's a lovely dress. If you can't find it you could achieve a similar look with a sweetheart strapless dress then a lace jacket over the top.

    Have you tried Wed2Be?

    I'm plus size and my dress is Maggie Sottero, the corsetry is amazing and really makes me look a lot slimmer.

    Yes thats true. I've looked at Wed2Be but not been anywhere just yet (putting it off!)

  • MrsNH17MrsNH17 Posts: 524 New bride
    Cluurr wrote (see post):
    MrsNH17 wrote (see post):

    I assume you used the search function? As one of the shops that comes up still has Bonny bridal on their website?

    http://www.plussizebridal.co.uk/plus-size-gown-gallery/bonny-bridal.html

     

    Hi - yes I've already spoken to them :) 

    Oh how annoying that’s it’s on their site as that gets your hopes up! 

     

  • The skirt on this is different, but same vibe on the top?

    https://www.essensedesigns.com/essense-of-australia/wedding-dresses/d2186-plus/

  • The A-line illusion neckline is a very popular style right now, I'm sure you could find something very similar somewhere like Wed2Be or a specialist plus size shop. Try not to worry about being plus size, a designated plus size shop will know exactly how you are feeling and it's truly amazing how wedding dresses can give you the most fabulous shape!

  • Oh no that's so frustrating! If you can't find this exact dress maybe you will be able to find something very similar? I recall seeing lots of dresses in this style when I was dress hunting. It might be worth bringing a picture of this one to your dress appointments so they know what your dream dress looks like.

    I actually had the exact same problem with a dress I saw on Sottero and Midgley, I checked the stockists but it didn't say which shops stocked the dress it only said which shops stock Sottero and Midgley. I looked through them all until I finally found one shop that stocked it, but the week before my appointment the shop announced it was closing down and I couldn't order a new dress! So frustrating when you find a dress online that you love but can't find it in real life!

  • Don't let it get you down, you said in your post that you're working on it - I assume you mean working to lose weight, in that case I would wait until you're feeling more confident about the idea of shopping.

    I think you've still got plenty of time, my dress has an 8-month turnaround, so if you work on that basis, you could continue with your weight loss plan for another 3 months, spend 2 months shopping around and that still gives you enough time to have the dress made.

    There's nothing worse than trying something on when you're not in the right mindset, as you're already battling with yourself.  My biggest advise would be to wait until you're excited about trying dresses on.  Also, don't be put off my dresses that don't already have sleeves, my MofH is having sleeves added to her dress and there's all sorts of amazing jackets / things that can be done to make your dream dress.

    Good luck!

  • It's a lovely dress - the good news is, that that style is not so unique that you won't be able to find something very, very similar by a different designer. Have a look at a few other designers, like Mori Lee, I'm sure you'll find something very similar.

    And I would hesitate to call something your "dream dress" when you haven't even tried the dress on, haven't even felt the fabric, saw the detail in person, etc. Dresses in pictures and on models often look extremely different on your own body. Almost no one ends up buying the dress that they thought was their "dream dress" based upon pictures they saved (at least not on this forum!)

  • OmRumOmRum Posts: 661 New bride

    I also found my dream dress - tried it on, loved it! It was perfect. The price, alas, was not perfect! I got very depressed because I thought that was it - my dress would always be second best to the dream dress.

    But I was wrong! I found a very similar dress that I love even more than the first one - and I could afford it!

    I imagine it is quite common when they first start hunting for brides to think they have found their dress and then found they can't have it for whatever reason, who have then gone on to find another dress they love just as much.

    There's plenty more dresses in the sea!

  • ahh you're all wonderful - thank you! I feel much better. You're right, its not super unique I just loved the illusion top with the organza printed skirt as opposed to tulle which I haven't seen much of yet - but I will definitely take a picture with me when I start to look. 

  • Jessica336 wrote (see post):

    Don't let it get you down, you said in your post that you're working on it - I assume you mean working to lose weight, in that case I would wait until you're feeling more confident about the idea of shopping.

    I think you've still got plenty of time, my dress has an 8-month turnaround, so if you work on that basis, you could continue with your weight loss plan for another 3 months, spend 2 months shopping around and that still gives you enough time to have the dress made.

    There's nothing worse than trying something on when you're not in the right mindset, as you're already battling with yourself.  My biggest advise would be to wait until you're excited about trying dresses on.  Also, don't be put off my dresses that don't already have sleeves, my MofH is having sleeves added to her dress and there's all sorts of amazing jackets / things that can be done to make your dream dress.

    Good luck!

    This is my plan - my family are pushing me to get started but I just know if I was to go now it'd be a disaster, I'd end up hating it and I dont want the first time I look for my wedding dress to end in tears and me feeling like an elephant. Planning on starting to look around end of Jan. One stone down so its heading in the right direction. Thank you for your kind words! xxx

  • Cluurr wrote (see post):
    This is my plan - my family are pushing me to get started but I just know if I was to go now it'd be a disaster, I'd end up hating it and I dont want the first time I look for my wedding dress to end in tears and me feeling like an elephant. Planning on starting to look around end of Jan. One stone down so its heading in the right direction. Thank you for your kind words! xxx

     

    Sounds like you're on the right track, well done!  Maybe find a bridal shop that you really like the look of and book an appointment for January and invite your key people along, hopefully knowing that something is booked in will stop them from pestering you.  I usually only took one person on my bridal appointments, I took 3 people to one and that was my worst appointment, they were all trying to convince me on dresses that I just didn't like.  My best appointment was actually when I went on my own, just me and the consultant, it was great.  I know my taste best and the consultant knows their job, great combination.  Luckily though, my dream dress was the first one I tried on, but I still tried on 30 more over a month or so, just to make sure.

    Enjoy it, when you find you're dream dress, you'll feel fabulous!

  • Hi Clurr,

    If I was in your shoes I would search out the specialist plus size bridal boutiques, they have absolutely tons of dresses for the curvier figure and also you will feel more confident in the fact that you will be able to try on almost all of there stock (this will give you such a boost) rather than just one or two dresses.

    Wedding dress shopping is daunting for everyone but you your dress is out there and you will know when you find it. X

     

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