It’s not about the money , I want to marry him , I am 27 and he is 29 , sohow long did you lot wait and I’m sure you had some sort of date like if he hasn’t proposed by this date then ..... if a women wants to get married she ain’t gonna wait 10 years , and I don’t understand some of your comments because I don’t see what else I can do , even if we was to get to a good place like we was before I’m not waiting 8 or more years , so being in a good place with your partner doesn’t make the proposal any quicker , Everyone’s time is different for waiting round for a man to marry her . How many more conversations do I have to have with him untill he decides to marry me , and I’ve only ever brought it up like 3/4 times ,I have only started talking about it and bringing it up to him since August 2018
@Hullass1972 , not trying to crash this thread, but WOW, it's is strange how much we have in common! I too married my childhood sweetheart (he was 20 I was 21) and thought it was forever. We split up when I was 27 and realized I felt more like a friend/ family member to him than a partner/ lover. I too remarried quickly 2 years later and that was a HUGE mistake. We divorced after 2 years. THAT relationship learned me, big time. I always felt like with my second husband that I was struggling to "hang onto" him, that marriage would cement us and make him mine. IT DOESN'T. I was struggling to "hang onto" him because he didn't really love and didn't want to be there. He had his moments of commitment, but they were fleeting, and that doesn't make for a happy, long-lasting relationship. It makes for a constant battle and a living hell. I went into this one, my third, with a completely different attitude. My attitude was if it's meant to be, it will be. I will NOT try to force anything to happen. I cannot make someone love me. I cannot make someone stay. And I will NOT try and be a different person for the sake of someone else. And go figure, I met my OH and he ended up proposing faster than I think I was even ready for it! What's meant to happen will happen. There is no perfect timeframe. Once both people in the relationship feel settled and comfortable, it will happen. I think it's great and completely agree with your OH that getting things like jobs, residence, etc., all settled are absolutely first steps before worrying about a proposal and a wedding. Once everyday life matters are settled, if both people are still very much in love and in sync with their life goals, getting married will become a natural topic of conversation, not a forced one.
I’m not willing to wait for another 8 years so how long would you expect me to wait untill I revisit this again with him
"for now we are good and everything is going fine I’m still waiting but it is hard as I get annoyed when I see everyone else getting engaged"