Hey, I just thought I would post this as I figured there would be a few ladies who have big days without special people in their lives. Not just mothers and fathers but grandparents and siblings too. Created a thread where we could share our stories and discuss how to remember them on our day.
My Mum was diagnosed with a metastic carcinoid (a rare type of small tumour in the gut) in December 2007 with tumours spread to liver. We were told it was slow growing and there was lots of treatment options so we waited through January 2008 having tests and making mum confortable but Mum started to decline so in february Dad got her into a hospital and she had chemo. She started to get really ill in March and then I had a phone call from my Dad 'Your Mum is dying, her body is shutting down' so all the family rushed to be beside her. She passed away 15th of March 2008 after gripping my hand hours earlier saying 'It'll be alright just pray...My perfect 2:4 family had just been ripped to shreds
I miss her so much and although Dad and I are close (I live at home, Brother lives in Sheffield) it has caused a lot of emotional times for both of us. I am really close to my auntie who has no children so she has been like a sceond mum to me and i have a lil suprise for her at the wedding.
I have a few ideas of remembering her on my big day
-Using my parents wedding hymn and my mum's wedding ring for my right hand
-Flowers from mum's plants for the wedding
-a table dedicated to her (and my fiancee's grandad) at the reception
-I am have a vial of her perfume round my neck on the big day
- I am having a reading of her favourite psalm at my wedding