Evening ladies, This may be a long one but I'd just like to talk and get things off my chest! It's a hard one because I don't really talk about this to anyone as its very personal. H2b is brilliant but he doesn't know what to do to help me. My dad is an alcoholic - not the ones you see unkept drinking out of a brown paper bag but a functioning alcoholic. He gets up every day to go to work and when he leaves work goes to the pub, drinks, goes to bed and repeats the cycle. Everyday involves alcohol and without it he can't function. He doesn't see this as a problem and gets aggressive towards me when I try and tell him how upsetting it is. You see when he drinks he becomes one of two people - a nasty, spiteful horrible person, or a broken hearted man who just cries. And this happens every time I see him! A few years ago my mother gave him the ultimatum - stop drinking or she would leave him! He didn't believe it was his problem and started to 'hide' the drinking .....nipping in for a quick pint on his way to get the morning papers etc. she left him and is now remarried to a fantastic man who would do anything for us. My worries are with the wedding coming up - this will be the first time that my families have been together in years, my dads family I'm sure understand why my mum had to leave him for her own sanity and my mums family feel desperately sorry for my dad who is broken hearted after his wife of 30 years left him and cannot see his own part in why that happened! I want my dad to be able to enjoy the day and his drinking not be an issue but I'm just not sure he will be able to relax and will end up either becoming aggressive to my mother or just crying in a corner, I don't want their relationship issues to overshadow our day. If I try and talk to him about my worries or even just ask him to get help with the drinking in general he thinks I'm having a go at him and whilst I am being a little selfish with it being my wedding day I'm sick of being embarrassed by him when he's drunk. I'm worried about his health, I'm worried about his relationships with his friends and family ( they have all been in the receiving end ) and just don't know what to do! Sorry for the long post - it just helped a little to write this all down!