I dont have many girlfriends so I have only asked one girl who i went to uni with to be a bridesmaid - we dont see each other much (we went to uni in scotland but i live in cardiff now and she lives in london so we only really see each other if we're both visiting family on the same weekend) and in all honestly over the last few weeks ive been doubting why i asked her and that it was a bit weird.
anyway ive stuck with it and was planning to order her dress this weekend - the multiway bhs one since they have 25% off til tomorrow. I asked her if i should order it and she was like "yeh whatever you want" she said she'd have a look in bhs store which she has and they didnt have any. so she said i could order it if i wanted. I asked her if it would be a small shed need (bearing in mind the small is a 6-10) and she replied saying whatever i thought, maybe a small maybe a medium and starting going on about how she was going out with friends today and how much she was looking forward to it. All she had to do was tell me what size - but i feel like shes maybe feeling a bit the same as i do, not sure why i asked etc?
The other thing thats bothering me now is as costs have escalated we cant really afford to have any flowergirls/paigeboys at the moment (thankfully we hadnt asked them yet) but as time goes on i feel more and more guilty that i have an uninterested bridesmaid where as on the other hand the kids (who are family/god children) would be so exicted.
I'm seriously considering telling the girl the financial situation and asking if she would be offended not being part of the bridal party.
i really dont know what to do, my head is banging from tying to work it out!!