Hello Ladies, i am after some advise on how to tackle this..
On organising my Hen Party i contacted all the ladies including this bridesmaid to see who was comnig etc etc as the overall cost was going to be £120.00 in total, now not all my bridesmaids could afford to come and were very honest with me, which is fine but this one maid said she couldnt wait but didnt have the deposit money, so i offered to pay the deposit for her until she was next paid - not a problem, so i thought!
Over the months i was collecting installments for the hen party from everyone but this maid kept saying she couldnt afford it that month but would pay me next time she was paid, it came to crunch time mid january as i had to pay Butlins and the bus company as we are going in three weeks, again the maid said she couldnt afford it becuase xmas had wiped her out so yet again i offered to pay hers in full £120.00 but i would need the money back at the end of january as this would be some of my spending money, again nothing has been forthcoming, i have mentioned it a couple of times and all i get is she is skint.
Now i am skint, im paying for a wedding but i budget my money to ensure that i pay people i owe, im really upset with her i cant possibly see how she can afford to pay me 120.00 and also her spending money for the weekend away in the begin of March, she only has 1 more pay day.
Im not sure now to tackle her again about it, when she got married two years ago aboard we shelled out a lot of money in not only attending, but i paid for my own dress, hair etc paid for loads of extras on her hen party (limo transfer), i just feel that after everything i did for her she would have at least paid me back. I have a feeling that she will turn around and say well she wont come now as she cant afford it, which leaves me £120.00 down.