Disappointed by my Hen Night
Just need a little space to rant and perhaps some reassurance that other people have had similar experiences on their hen nights. I think I may have 'new years eve syndrome' - by which I mean I loaded up the expectation for the night which was not reached.
I organised the day at a spa in a nearby hotel. It was fantastic and the girls treated me to a facial which was lovely of them. This set the tone and I thought I was in for a great day. However we over ran due to the BM who organised it having loads of treatments so when we got back to mine to get ready we only had an hour and a half....
An hour and a half later and my house was trashed and I was not ready due to fixing drinks and helping source straighteners, hair grips, bags etc for everyone. I then realised that only my mum had brought me something to dress me up. I had said to the BM before to just re-use the stuff she had upstairs from her hen (which I organised and was epic) - and she agreed, but alas no hen night regalia for me. In the end we took the 'hen night' bunting I had put up in the house down and decorated me with that. By the time we left the house, I had not drunk a single drink and the posh partybags I had put together were largely untouched.
We then got in to town and people were unhappy about the BM's choice of restaurent and the fact that there was a service charge. People whinged about the food and about the wine I had bought for the table. We then left the restaurent and, despite saying to the BM previously that I wanted her to plan where we would be going, she had no clue what to do. After 2 truely awful places (one where someoneput their hand fully up my mums skirt) we ended up in walkabout. By this time I had come to terms with the fact that there would be no games or similar for me.
Sadly, my mum is epileptic and I had asked the BM to confirm when organising where we would go that there were no strobes. It was strobe city and i spent the evening worrying about mum.
No one danced. One person bought me a drink and most people left at 1am without telling me they were going. After they left they text some of the remaining girls trying to persuade them to leave me and go back to their house.
Overall, I felt let down by my friends and upset that I missed out on this experience. All I would have liked would have been a bride to be sash, a couple of games and to have a few drinks bought for me. Am I being a perfectionist or is this unfair? I just feel like I spent over £300 on bankrolling a night out that I didnt really enjoy - and which certainly didnt feel about me. I just kept looking at other, better, hen nights durign the night and feeling left out
Rant over - sorry it is so long!!