Close to giving up
Im really hoping somebody might have some advie to help me get back on track with my planning as im gettin gto the point where i would rather call the whole thing off
Basically me and my h2b got engaged in october 2009 and originally planned a 2012 wedding. I've never liked the idea of long engagments however 2 1/2 years didnt seem too bad. At the time we lived up in Leicester and started scouting local venues. In mid 2010 we moved to London and started new jobs etc so the planning went on hold.
As h2b's parents live in America and are ona Visa that doesnt allow them to leave the US for holidays etc we decided to put off the wedding agin untill 2013/14 as they mentioned they were planningon moving back around then and we of course would rather have them at our big day. This also worked better for us as we bought a house in 2012 which took a fair chunk form our savings.
So once again we started looking at Kent/London venues for a big wedding (120 guests) and narrowed our choices down. Then last week his parents called to say they dont know when they will be back so we should jsut get maried this year without them!!
I was so annoyed at first as getting married without them isnt an option for me and i want all our close family there. We have looked at US weddings but i feel like you loose out on so many things like a first dance and having friends there (most of ours couldnt afford to come to a USA wedding).
So i really dont know what to do? Wait untill who knows when and his family are back in the UK, get married in the US and have a wedding without my gradparents etc or just call the whole thing off?
To make matters worse we have waited so long that now my gradparents wont be well enough to travel to a London wedding (they live in north yorkshire) and a number of relatives on my mums side wont be bale to attend as tragically my cousin passed away last year the day before his wedding and understandably attaending another family wedding would bring up sad memories.