What would you do in my situation?
I'm looking for a bit of advice and suggestions as to what you would do in my situation please.
Basically, my Mum isn't interested in my wedding and she hates my fiance. Yeah, great eh! To cut a long story short, I was having a hard time with work/some friends a while ago and was pretty emotional/upset all of the time. My fiance suffers from an anxiety disorder which he has fought hard for years and is now on top of but my parents wrongly decided my mood was because of him. They literally came steaming over to our house to stage an intervention where they quizzed him on his illness, threatened to take me away from him and my Mum said she didn't like him. Now bear in mind my fiance had done nothing wrong - something I explained to my Mum and Dad and the reasons for me being upset, which have been sorted now. I was pretty insulted they would think what they did (quite ignorant without actually asking me what was wrong - even though I had told them friend and work problems were causing my upset on several occasions!) and my fiance was really hurt.
My Mum said some awful things to my fiance during this showdown (which was about four months ago) and she hasn't apologised, made any effort to patch things up, get to know him better etc. Also, at a later date when things had calmed down she told me that she wouldn't be able to help me do anything for the wedding as she lives "too far away". Now granted, my parents do live 100 miles away but that's not the end of the earth!
All of this has been preying on my mind and I've been trying to repair the damage with my parents and fiance's relationship ever since it happened but to little avail. You would hope after getting things so wrong (albeit with good intentions at the heart of it - my welfare) my Mum and Dad would make an effort to get everything back on track. There is five and a half months to go until the wedding now.
I decided to take matters into my own hands again today and ask my Mum if she is feeling left out of wedding planning as she lives so far away. I said I would love her to be involved as it's an exciting time and I want to do things with her. She said (and I quote): "we are here if you want our opinion" and "large scale weddings don't fall within our experiences and you seem to be doing ok up to now sorting the things for YOUR day." I replied saying whether they fall within their experience or not I would have hoped she would have shown a bit more excitement and interest in it seeing as it's her only daughter's wedding! She has not shown an interest in doing anything apart from visiting our venue once despite me asking her. I then reiterated I would like her to be involved in things. It's hardly a massive wedding as we are having 50 people. I feel like I can't talk about the wedding to her as she just isn't that interested.
She just seems so cold and now she is ignoring me. I'm pretty upset and angry to be honest. I think she is acting like a spoilt child and yet I seem to have to be the one to sort it out.
Apologies for the long post! What would you do in my situation? I want to get this resolved and the remaining bad atmosphere me, my Mum and Dad and my fiance (who they have not seen since the row) as I don't want it spoiling the wedding. Help!