Postpone the wedding??
........Maybe not postpone but change completely!
Due to the increasingly poor health of my dad it’s looking likely that he isn’t going to be able to travel for the wedding by the time it comes round. We’d rather make provisions sooner rather than later if this is the case as I just wouldn’t feel right not having my dad there when everyone else is. The last few days all H2B and I have done is discuss our options without having to cancel but it’s not looking good.
The only alternative we can come up with is if we just go and do it on our own somewhere. H2B’s family travelling to the UK was always going to be difficult due to finances and I don’t think our budget would allow to pay for them plus accommodation with the money we stand to lose on what we have already paid for the wedding in New York. It wouldn’t be fair to have my parents there and not his.
It really doesn’t bother me if it’s just us as long as that’s it. I would be far too upset if I felt my dad was missing out. My main concern though, is it selfish to go and do it on our own? Am I robbing H2Bs family seeing him get married for the sake of my dad or is it making the best of a bad situation and no one loses out. Both families have told us to do what makes us happy but to be honest it’s completely blindsided me as I just didn’t expect there to be any major issues. We already cancelled one wedding because I couldn’t handle the stress of a big UK wedding.
If we do it on our own we will probably do it a lot sooner maybe jan feb time in London or something as we will not spend anywhere near the amount we would have if it’s just us and we can go over to New York in july as planned to see his family then. H2B has been amazing through all of this and said he will make it the most romantic and special day of our lives and that if I’m unhappy without my dad then it isn’t worth it but most of all he just wants to be married. I just don’t know what to do.
Apologies for the essay and if it makes no sense. My head is spinning and needed some advice!