Do brides still return to their parent's home to marry?
My folks are putting pressure on me to get married at their home as 'this is the traditional thing to do', and I was wondering how normal it is to get married at a the girl's parents these days?
In the spirit of having a rant: basically, I left home at 18 and have lived independently two hours away from them for the last 14 years, finally moving in with my h2b a year ago. Since getting engaged my parents have ignored every wedding conversation I've had with other people, my Farther physically turning his back or leaving the room on more than one occasion. The only conversation we had started and ended with 'if I do the traditional thing and get married at home, they'll do the traditional thing and pay for it.' To me this translates to 'have the wedding we want and we'll pay for it, have the wedding you want and we won't even mention it.'
They know we want to get married where we live; it's our home, we're central to all families/guests and can invite local friends to the evening do to reduce day numbers (and expense). My parents live 1.5 hours away from the next nearest guest and my future in laws would have to travel 4.5 hours to get to my parents, including my h2bs parents with ill health and his over 80s grandparents. Am I being unreasonable saying that a venue where I grew up means less to me than picking a venue where I'm actually close by to organise things? I'd never ruled out getting married near them until they started dictating their terms of support.