Am I behaving normally?
So, it is officially less than 5 months until the wedding (eee!) and we are starting to finalise everything.. My OH takes a fairly background role in the whole thing and generally lets me get on with everything.
The MIL on the other hand has kind of dictated throughout (despite not contributing much to the day). When we got engaged 2 years ago, MIL wasnt happy. She said she didnt want to know details as she wasnt that sort of person and to just let her know when we have made decisions. She came along to see various venues, came along with me when I bought my wedding dress, we took cake samples round to see her, have shown her various samples of invitations, let her pick the transport (dont ask!) and yet she still seems to have a hold over wha is happening.
For someone who doesnt like details, she has caused such a fuss if she doesnt know the ins and outs of everything - on numerous occasions fallen out with my OH over it (she threatens to never see him again and cut him out the family - this angers me more than anything!!!). When I took her a design of a wedding map I made personally she merely said "oh, I can do a better one for you" NO! When i told her the budget of the BM dresses (£100) she gasped and claimed how that was far too much and found me these awful cheap dresses online! When we told her about the flower designs she merely said "Why would you want that?" err.. because I do?? and FINALLY what has really, REALLY grated on me this week is that when we went to buy the wedding rings, I wasnt allowed to put it on facebook. I was SO excited but I wasnt allowed as OH hadnt told her yet and she would be really offended by that....
I just feel that every decision I make is questioned or poo - pooed by her. I feel I have to curb my excitement just incase it offends her. And then to top it off today, my OH went and picked the rings up without me... but took her. I know it sounds petty, but I would have liked to have seen it first - he is my H2B. I took a picture of it when he got home with it - this went into a big old argument whereby he claimed I let the whole world know our relationship and he wasnt happy with that. I was so upset.. I wasnt going to put the picture on facebook, I just wanted to have it on my phone.. but I cant help think that his mum is behind it all..
Sorry for the rant.. just so exhausting having to deal with MIL!