Dealing with awkward bridesmaid situations
I got married last summer in my hometown & asked my best friend Jane of 13 years to be my maid of honour. She currently lives in Australia where her & I went backpacking together a few years ago - she just never came home as she met a guy out there during our travels! She did however come back home to be my maid of honour last summer & for that I will be eternally grateful.
The problem I have now Is that she has just got engaged & will be having her wedding in the UK next summer! My husband & I however are emigrating to Australia after Christmas & will be starting from scratch with no home & no jobs so it's going to be difficult to commit to coming back home for her wedding only 6 months after leaving the UK.
She's a very laid back person & has told me she's going to start planning 'properly' this summer when her & her fiancé relocate back to the UK, which I can quite believe, however she's yet to tell me who she is having as her bridesmaids / ushers etc. she has a best friend from home who she's been friends with since primary school who I think she will ask to be her maid of honour, she also has a new best friend in Australia who ironically is English & who I presume she will also ask to be a bridesmaid, or perhaps she already has because she is posting a lot of photos on Facebook of them browsing through wedding magazines etc.
I don't expect to be asked to be one of her bridesmaids, it would actually save my husband & I a lot of financial worry if she didn't ask me due to our pending move to Australia, but either way I feel like she must have selected her bridal party members by now & either way I'd really like to know if I'm one of them.
Am I right to presume that if I've not been selected as one of her bridesmaids she should at least tell me, bearing in mind she was my maid of honour only 6 months ago? It's such a tricky situation because I obviously don't want to ask her.
How would other people expect to be treated in a situation like this & how would you handle it?