Families who needs them??
My fiancé and I are having a really intimate wedding in September with a blessing from a very close mutual friend. We have a tight guest limit a large friend network and I have a very large family so the invitation process has been proving to be a bit of a hardship. We've been very selective of our guest as we are inviting them all to the whole day. No ceremony and added guest for reception (space does not allow), it's an all day affair for us. It's important to us that the guest there all want to see us make this important commitment, then celebrate into the night.
With that being said one of my bridesmaids (my cousin) has just assumed that her new partner is invited. She also has her step sisters wedding the day before and has arrange for her partner to bring her from one wedding in Shropshire over to Suffolk for our wedding on the Saturday morning.
We had not allowed for him on our guest list as A: we have never met and B: we had to be so selective and eliminate people that we would love to be there but are not that important to us i.e work colleagues.
It's now causing a bit of a feud between my own Mother and me. She doesn't seem to understand my upset over this and is not willing to speak to my aunt or cousin and explain the situation. She just expects us to roll over and accept that he is coming.
I feel so betrayed at this point in time that my own Mum would rather upset her own daughter just to keep the peace.
Am I expecting to much? This has really effected me, I am quiet close with my cousin but I'm afraid this is going to cause tension between us now. Hence why I would find it easier for my Mum to say something than it come from me. But shouldn't my mum want to help with situations like this? Instead she would just rather see me get deeper and deeper into stress.
I wish now my H2B and i had just disappeared off and found two witnesses and got married in secret, but we wanted to share this moment with our nearest and dearest, how has it come to this? I did not expect any of this especially from my Mum.