Alcohol issue with bridesmaid
I know that sometimes we are all guilty of having too much to drink and I've been there myself many a time - however - I have been detoxing since Jan this year for my wedding in June so I am hardly drinking at all, I am lucky that I can take or leave it really and as I work a lot of Sundays since I exhibit at wedding fayres, I can't go out on the town on a Saturday night, get leathered, go to bed and get up at 6.30am and do a wedding fayre so I guess I have become a bit boring!
Anyway, one of my adult bridesmaids has been hitting the town and hard near enough every Saturday night - quite a few people have noticed this and some comments have been made which she got really defensive about a few weeks ago. I didn't say anything at that stage but I have been worried about her lifestyle in general and have discussed it with my fiance too and he is in agreement with me.
So she went out for St Patricks Day as she is Irish - I didn't go out as we had been at a weeding fayre on Sunday and I was knackered and processing orders - she said she was going to meet some mutual friends of ours after work and then go home at 9pm when one of them was getting the train back home - only she didn't - she told me that she stayed out and didn't actually have a clue what time she got home and that she knew she got a taxi but really didn't know how she'd got home but then somehow she had got into an argument with the taxi driver and he called the police on her - she wasn't arrested and she did get home but she didn't really remember what had happened which really worried me.
I do know what her alcohol portions are like as we used to drink at her house when I was single when we didn't have the money to go out so it was cheaper to get a bottle of vodka and tonic and drink that but she can't afford vodka so nowadays she drinks wine and it is a couple of glasses a night. Her ex called her out on it quite a few times in the run ins they have had since they split up.....
So I just had to say something to her today as she drove to work and was still way over the limit, she also doesn't eat properly and her finances are rubbish so I am really worried she will also lose her house sooner than later - she has been to debt advice about it but I don't know what is going on, all I know is that she is quite behind on her mortgage payments.
She admitted that she was probably off the rails and needed to rein it in - unfortunately we couldn't really talk that much as she was in work (she works for my fiance) and her lad was with her too (she couldn't drive him to school today either) To be honest that really saddened me - I know she loves her kids but what sort of message is that giving them?
I feel like I lectured her like a mother today but it's out of concern and worry, she's not been herself since her last "relationship" ended. The guy was a total idiot and didn't treat her like a girlfriend but more like a friend with benefits. They kept falling out until one day she walked out on him and he didn't chase after her and then about a week later he was with someone else - she Facebook stalked him endlessly and seemed really intent on making a fool of herself - and she still Facebook stalks him using a fake profile.
So does anyone have any advice on how I can handle this please?