Hen do troubles, feeling let down!
im im getting married this October abroad. I wanted to have my Hen do in August because I'm moving from Leeds to London at the start of September.
Anyway, I asked my sister 1 to plan my hen. She said yes but I found out she was organising her friends hen who is getting married the month before I am. My sister 1 was moaning to people that she was stressed and it was too much. So I asked my sister 2 to plan it. She said yes. So I gave her a list of names, numbers, dates that we're suitable and activities i would like to do so she wasn't stuck for ideas.
i asked her at Christmas how things were going. She said she's busy at the moment but is going to start organising the hen in January. my friends still hadn't heard from my sister in February so I asked sister 2 how she was getting on with planning. She moaned at me and felt like I was pestering her, she promised it was getting organised.
I called my mum up today and said im worried about the hen do. It's 4 1/2 months away now and nothing has been organised. My mum said she would speak to my sister, I didn't want to speak to her incase she felt like I was pestering her.
I got this text after my mum spoke to sister 2)
Charlene I said I'd organise your hen party and I meant it. I thought it would b nice for your sisters to organise it for you but you would obv prefer your friend to do it. It's 5months away which is plenty of time to organise something. Just get your friend to do it
im really upset about this. a friend of mine offered to organise the hen in January. I said no cos my sister is doing it. I don't know why she thinks I would prefer my friend to do it, I've never even mentioned it to my sister.
I'm worried about the time. Most of my friends are students and need time to get the money up for the hen. They're all going to be moving in July so have moving expenses. I've told my sister and mum that I'm juat going to forget the whole thing but this has really upset me. I feel really let down. I'm honestly not a bridezilla, I've only approached my sister 3 times about the hen including when my mum done it on my behalf today. I'm so laid back I even let my bridesmaids pick their dresses
i honestly don't know what to do and need to get over the fact I'm not going to have a hen and stop crying. It was more than a hen for me though, because I'm getting married abroad so many people won't be there for the wedding so this was the chance for everyone to get together. I'm from London, been living in Leeds for 3 years so have friends all over the country and need time flr costs to travel to the hen from where they live.