Sorry, just needing a place to vent about this. Today we had our engagement party and as expected, everyone was asking about the wedding, what we've planned, etc. I'm so over-the-top excited about everything that I've been happy to share everything we've planned so far. My aunt was asking me about my bridesmaids and asked if I had any ideas of their dresses and colour, etc. Without even thinking (because it's no big secret and she's my family) I told her that they are going to be red. Then she said, 'Oh, that's great, I wanted to know to make sure J (her granddaughter) gets the same colour dress so that she can match and blend in with them. I've been looking at dresses already but didn't want to buy one until I knew the colour to get' ??! My other aunt then asked her if J was going to be a flowergirl and she said no, but she wants to make sure she blends in and looks like one!
I spoke to my mum and brother later who said that last time they saw my aunt, she had been dropping big hints about her granddaughter being a flowergirl or bridesmaid. This has never even been a possibility or consideration- H2B's niece is our flowergirl and we've got 6 adult bridesmaids and I have met her granddaughter once. When my aunt's daughter (J's mum) got married she was horrible to me, came up to my room the night before the wedding demanding to see what I planned to wear and saying that I better not try to upstage her (I'm not that type of person at all so I don't get how she would even think that). During the actual wedding the photographer suggested to my sister that she should consider going into modelling, so my aunt's daughter refused to speak to her the rest of the day!? We've got over it all now but I just don't see any reason why J would be part of my wedding. I've nothing against the wee girl and none of this is her fault but she's not part of my life in any way really, she doesn't even live in the same country and I haven't seen her since she was a baby.
Am I being unreasonable in thinking that this is really out of order?? Don't get me wrong, if someone turns up in red without knowing or realising that that's what the bridesmaids are wearing then that wouldn't bother me, but actually making the point of getting a dress the same colour so they look like they are in the wedding party?? It's actually made me really angry. I'm going to try to maybe try to slip something in next time I see her, like make a point of saying that I don't want other people to wear the same colour as the bridesmaids but make out as if I'm saying it about other people who might be thinking about it. I'm hoping that will be enough but she seems so set on making her granddaughter part of the wedding that I'm not sure if it will be. Here's hoping...