I was wondering how you guys approach you h2b's stag do. Do you just wash your hands of the whole thing and trust that nothing too outrageous will happen? Or do you speak with the best man beforehand at all to outline any concerns? Or your h2b? Or do you just not care?
I'm not really thinking about the stag do yet as it's likely to be a long way off, but I'm not sure how I should be approaching it. The best man probably won't be organising the stag do (although I hope he attends as he is fun but responsible), and it will probably be organised by h2b's friends that live in our area. H2B isn't going to be included at all in the planning - it will be a surprise.
Since h2b is the first in his group of friends to get married, there have been jokes about it being the biggest and wildest stag do of the lot. This doesn't really bother me, but I know in the past that some of the guys in this friend group have gone to strip clubs on big nights out together (even when their girlfriends have got really mad about it).
I would have a huge problem with strippers being involved in the stag do - not only because I personally feel it's in incredibly poor taste to go and ogle naked women just before you get married, but also, and mainly,because I have worked with people who were forcibly trafficked into the sex industry, and because of that I have extremely strong views on not supporting it.
On the one hand I don't want to be "that" fianceé who is super controlling and annoying, but at the same time this isn't the 1950's and I feel it would be ridiculous to just expect the wife to be to simply shut up and put up.
So I'm not sure how I should be approaching this AT ALL.