Do I invite my N.Z family?
Hi Ladies, so here's my problem...
About 9 years ago I found out I had another Auntie living in New Zealand. My Nan had given a baby up for adoption when she was unmarried and still refuses to acknowledge it. I took this woman in to my life with no questions asked...she is an amazing lady and spent decades searching for her family.
My Mum stood by Nan and wouldn't accept her into the family. A couple of years later my Uncle did DNA testing with her and she is 100% my Auntie. Sadly by this time my Mum had committed suicide and so never got a chance to meet her only sister.
My cousin that is bridesmaid also accepted her straight away and we have both been out to visit on separate occasions (My Aunt even paid my air fare...that's how nice she is) My sister that is bridesmaid wants to meet her but my other 2 sisters will not accept her as family. I asked my sisters yesterday how they would feel about me inviting my family from N.Z and they said I could invite who I want but not to expect them them to talk to her and regard her as their Aunt. Having spoken to my cousin, she said she'd love to see them but she's worried that I would be stressed out on my big day about a family conflict ruining everything. She also pointed out that if someone gets drunk and says something it could get very out of hand. I wouldn't be inviting my Nan to the wedding so that eliminates one problem. I haven't seen her since my Mum's funeral and have some issues with things she said to my Mum before she died which I feel contributed to an already unstable mindset.
I'm really sorry for waffling but don't know where else to turn and hope this makes sense