Too upset over bridesmaid choices
Hello, I'm jodie I am new to the site I did post a topic same as this last night but I have no clue what happend to it, so let's see if this works. Ya may wanna sit down its long winded but I'll try keep it short.
you have probably heard this dilemma a thousand times and I have looked online for answers from what others have wrote but it doesn't help
i got engaged in New York in January and I won't be getting married until 2016 so I am trying to look at it as that I still have a long time and anything can happen with friendships, but my dilemma is two of my friends assumed they would be bridesmaids which if I'm honest wound me up because my sister and cousin are also going to be bridesmaids so that was always a given but for these two to assume meant the fun of me been able to ask people went straight out the window but also it is not for them to assume, so after thinking about it I told them I was just having my sister and cousin because it was too hard deciding who I wanted up there with me as I have 2 other friends who I would have liked aswell but I didn't want 6 bridesmaids. Now friend 1 was fine with me and said that's fine it's your choice I respect that if you still want help just call, which was lovely to hear. Friend 2 said right fine whatever it's your day, sounded abit put out to me.
After worrying about it for a while and getting upset and speaking to finace and sister they have said I have who I want it is my day and not there choice or there place to make me feel like crap about my decision, but I was speaking to friend 2 the other day she mentioned in passing that if I picked friend 1 and not her she would be pissed off. This has made things worse in my little brain now because I really want friend 1 to be my bridesmaid as I know I can count on her not to make catty remarks about my choices or who else I have chosen where as friend 2 might.
i have known friend 2 longer but that doesn't mean anything does it? I don't see her as often anymore and we only talk on txts once a week n it's usually for her to moan about the new dog her bf just bought or moan about the bf.
i don't want to hurt anyone's feelings which is why I decided just my sister and cousin but the I got really upset n thought I don't want to just have them two to make others happy it's my day but how on earth do I let this girl know she won't be one when she has always assumed we would be each other's from day dot.
someone please help me coz this is upsetting me way more that it should I'm sure.
thanks in advance Jodie x x x x