Literally never posted anything like this before but would really appreciate some advice. Even if it's to say that I'm being ridiculous! Also not sure if I've even posted this right but here goes nothing!
Really unsure whether or not I'm overreacting but it feels as though no matter how much we do or change, none of my family seem to be happy with our wedding plans!
Firstly, my fiancé and I got engaged pretty quick (well quicker than most people seem to) which caused some criticism which I guess is only natural.
As I am no longer in contact with my father, I had asked my uncle if he would 'give me away'. He does have a daughter but I spoke to her beforehand and she was 100% supportive and doesn't mind that I wanted to ask him (he's also my godfather). Luckily, he was delighted that I asked him and seemed genuinely touched that I did ask him.
However, another member of my family - who also agreed that I should have asked my uncle - then confronted my uncle and expressed their true feelings where they felt it was completely inapproriate and selfish of me to ask him and that he should never had agreed to walk me down the aisle before his own daughter. Don't get me wrong, this was similar to my initial thoughts and that's why I asked his daughter and sought advice before I went ahead and asked him.
I've also had bespoke shoes made which my mum kindly bought me as part of a Christmas gift seen as we are pretty much skint lol! This same family member basically turned their nose up at them and 'couldn't believe I was wearing those shoes to my wedding'. They also passed negative omments about them being a Christmas gift.
There have been other comments from this same person, some I know of and some I don't.
Our venue is quite intimate and has a special meaning to us both. It's not huge by any means and isn't a big fancy hall or hotel. I've just recently learned that my close cousins ventured out to see it and one of them informed me that the other had said that it 'looks like a pile of sh***'. Firstly I decided to forget it but it has been bugging the backside off of me. The more I thought about it the more annoyed I became. Anyway, I asked about this comment and they didn't deny it. Which I suppose some might think is a good thing - and I understand that everyone is entitled to their opinion - but we love this place and I think to refer to it as they have was just so rude! It's really hurt my feelings.
Now that I've opened my mouth about it it seems that neither of them are happy and can't believe that I would bring it up or ask about it.
Am I being ridiculous?
Thanks in advance for any replies and also if you take the time to read my big moan. Lol xxx