Mumzilla doesn't even cut it!
I've finally had enough of my mum's behaviour. She has consistently and constantly undermined me, patronised me, made me feel like crap and verbally bullied me all my life (I'm in my 40's) and it just has to stop otherwise I am going to have to tell her she's no longer invited to our wedding and also that I don't want her in my life at all, that's how bad she has made me feel!
She created a scene at Easter Sunday dinner which she ate at OUR house which I cooked. My FMIL and FMIL's partner were also there - all she kept going on about in front of them was that she didn't like any of our decisions for the wedding, she didn't have one good word to say about it at all despite the fact that we have considered her in ALL our decisions, a fact that my fiance made clear as regards getting a venue which is on ground level all the way, easy access to toilets, transport etc.
What started the whole day on the wrong foot was that she rang me at 1pm when I was in final preps for dinner prior to my fiance going to fetch her and told me that I ought to be ashamed of myself because I hadn't rang her up to wish her a happy Easter - er, that's because I'd been in the kitchen cooking the dinner and er I was going to be seeing her face to face in half an hour!
Then she swept in the house like nothing had happened - she criticised about 5/6 things about the wedding and the last straw was her telling everyone that she had asked me to change the date of OUR wedding which we had already planned around both our jobs and honeymoon as we found out that my 2nd cousin was getting married on the same day - the feedback from her mum was that she couldn't change her date as her venue had limited availability in the summer and that she didn't want to get married in Autumn so fair enough, it was just one of those things but my mum made it into a big deal.
I have to say that my FMIL was an absolute love to me as I was very upset at my mum trashing our wedding like that but there was worse to come!
My mum told us that one of her friends wouldn't be coming to our wedding as she had told my mum that she'd already been to one of my weddings (we've both been married before in any case) and made it sound like she was being nasty and judgemental or whether my mum wanted me to think that, God only knows! The reason I am saying this was the way my mum said it... she told my fiance first in the car driving to our house and told him not to tell me anything and then she proceeded to tell me it anyway!
So I said to my mum what did you say back to her as regards that comment as my view is my mum should have told her where to get off but it looks very much like my mum didn't come to my defence at all. That doesn't surprise me.
I told my mum that I found her friend's comment offensive and insulting not only to me but to my fiance as well and that I wouldn't feel comfortable in going to her daughter's wedding thinking that her mother clearly thinks that we're something that scummy so that we are going to pull out at unfortunately a late hour but I really don't think they will care whether we are there or not. My mother is also not attending citing ill health.
It just seems to be that my mum's special mission in life is to fall out with everyone and cause upset within the family and with family friends and it is always everyone else's fault but not hers.
She caused a massive upset in the family when her niece and god daughter married a man 25 years older than herself and made it sound like she hasn't known her own mind when she married him as apparently she wanted kids and he was too old etc - she didn't keep these comments to herself, she told them to her sister who in turn told her daughter who of course was greatly offended by it all as was her husband who basically wrote my mum a letter telling her to do one! My