Wedding or Career first?
My boyfriend and I got engaged over Xmas and quickly started to plan our wedding for 2016. We are both really looking forward to the wedding and 2016 already seems so far away but we decided to give ourselves 2 years for a few reasons. We live in Australia so logistically its difficult for us to get back to arrange things (we definitely want to get married in Europe and have decided on Italy). We also wanted enough time to save for everything as we will also be paying for everything ourselves.
Anyway before we got engaged we had both begun to study in Australia - my boyfriend decided to do a masters and my study is so that I can qualify as a lawyer in Australia (I already completed the study in the UK). Me qualifying as a lawyer is something that has been happening and in my sights for the last 5 years. It has been delayed partly due to my own decisions to travel and then partly due to money and a few other circumstances out of my control. The study is really expensive and is also time consuming along with working a full-time job. My boyfriend has been deferring his study for the last few semesters and doesn't have any plans to go back this semester until we have more money - this is his decision and I have tried to encourage him to go back.
We've managed to save a bit for the wedding but I keep lying awake at night going over the figures in my head and it would mean that if we were to pay for the wedding and study we would have no spare money at all and may still not be able to pay for everything when it came down to it. That freaks me out the most, the fact that we will have booked everything and not have the money to pay it all. The last year has been a struggle for us anyway as we have been setting up home in Australia and we are finally in a position where we can maybe enjoy our lifestyle a bit here but with saving for the wedding and study we once again have no spare money.
I am starting to realise that I can't do the wedding and study at the same time am really in a predicament about it all. My head says we should study and get qualified and then hopefully both be in a higher paid jobs so we can pay for the wedding but my heart says wedding. Our families and friends are all really excited as well about the wedding and part of me feels like I will be letting them down too.
I know nobody can tell me what to do but does anybody have any advice or is anybody in a similar position? I've spoken to my fiancé and he said he will do whatever makes me happy which although lovely isn't really helpful xxx