Sorry to annoy you with that, but Im so annoyed - and I cannot even talk about it to my best friend - because it is about her!!!
I know my best friend for more than 15 years and we have always been very close. Even when I left france to live in the UK 3 years ago, our friendship stayed the same. Two years ago her sister got married and she was disappointed not to be her bridesmaid - I then promised her that she would be mine! At that time, her being my best friend, it was the perfect choice!
However, things have changed since then. She met this guy a year ago (divorced with 2 kids and much older than her), and they felt both deeply in love. Since then, our relationship has changed - we are still reglarly in contact by emails, but we have different subjects of conversation (me going out and partying, and her looking after (his) children and staying at home). And, what annoys me even more, is that she doesnt make any efforts to meet me when I am back in france (she made up a story once because she just wanted to stay wit her bf). She doesnt have any interest in the wedding planning, we dont go out anymoe, she is just thinking about him - she became one of these friends that have only 1 priority in life: their bf!
2 weeks ago, she sent me a letter to tell me that she booked plane tickets to come & see me in London. She added that it could be a good opportunity for us to go and try dresses, for her to see the venue etc. A girly week-end ! I was so happy : she is making an effort and shows a little bit of interest!
But this morning, she sent me a very short email telling me that her boyfriend would like to come so they will book an hotel. Nothing else than that! no reference to the dresses fitting, nothing. Like she forgot everything....
Im very disappointed - I could answer to her saying that I would like her to come on her own, but I think it is a more general feeling of being fed-up and I dont even know if I really want her to be my bridesmaid.....
Would you keep a bridesmaid that doesnt care, just because she is supposed to be your "best friend"? Should I give her a chance?
Thank you for your help!!