Is it normal to feel like this?
My FH and j are getting married in less than 3 months and I can't wait for it to be over. I am so excited about marrying him, but I've hated wedding planning and find it all overwhelming and it makes me on edge.
From the word go, my parents have had far too much to say for themselves. I hate conflict so have gone along with some things for an easy ride, but we specifically didn't want children at our wedding, which my mum has overruled. On top of that, I have been guilt tripped into having my young cousin as a bridesmaid, who I don't know and haven't seen since 2010. I like my family, but my parents insist that it should be a 'family' day - despite the fact I'm not close to any of my cousins. As far as I'm concerned, I have my dad walking me down the aisle, my mum there and my two brothers as FH's ushers and that's all I need. My parents are intent on making me feel guilty about wanting a wedding with a lot of friends - despite the fact we're not excluding any family!
My parents have also invited people before the invitations went out. This has l
ed to some embarrassing situations, which my parents continue to bring up.
My mum has also told me she doesn't like one of my bridesmaids, and on the whole my FH and I are being made to feel guilty about our choices for our wedding. We wanted something informal and relaxed but our day seems to have kind of spiralled out of control.
On top of wedding planning, we are trying to rent out our house as FH's job is sending us overseas for 2 years, so work is being done on it for the purpose of making it more marketable. I'm finding the whole thing very stressful, don't seem to have a minute to myself, and am constantly having my opinions questioned. My FH's parents dont seem to care and although my partner is very supportive, I feel like I am bearing the burden of this edding. It is leading to disagreeements with my FH, as he is frustrated with my parents, and my parents get at me too. Even when my partner has calmly told them to back off, they bring up how upset/disappointed they are at certain decisions we've made
Am I being unreasonable?