Family Bereavements and Weddings
Have been umming and ahhing about whether to post on this issue for a while but have spent a lot of the weekend thinking about it and would appreciate some opinions. And in the event that you know me or even if you don't then all I can do is apologise if I am being insensitive on this issue.
My cousin died in completely tragic circumstances last August, he was 39 and left behind a widow and a 3 year old daughter. Naturally the family were absolutely destroyed and distraught. However in the time that has since passed, his widow, his parents and sister have not really made any progress at all. Not even sure anyone can really expect them to have done... Of course my wedding had been planned before any of this happened - RSVP date passed at the weekend and none of them are coming. They don't feel they can bear to be at a happy family event without him. I am really pretty upset to be honest, his absence will be missed on the day of course and I would cancel the whole thing if it would bring him back but it won't. I can wholly understand for his widow and even my Aunt and Uncle to a point but it is my other cousin - his sister - who I am struggling with. She is back to work, back socialising with her friends etc. and has two wee boys and I would have loved to have had them there... Just feel really so sad about the whole thing and would appreciate some views. Thanks xx