Bridesmaid from hell and she's my New Sister in law
When my fh asked me to marry him for some reason I naively decided it would be great to build a relationship with his 2 sisters by asking them to by bridesmaids ( the maid of honor is my best friend). They are very different girls ( I now know). Bridesmaid A- The eldest sister was bossy from the start. They have religious requirements for the dresses which I always knew about and was totally happy to chose the dresses with them and make it top priority (apart from the colour) that the dresses made them feel totally comfortable I'm this way. My MOH who is not religious (I'm not and neither is fh) was also totally happy to wear the same dress. I organised to have special non alcoholic grape juice at the reception and hot chocolate instead of tea and coffee for them ( again religious reasons) to make them feel comfortable. I ended up with dresses nothing like I would have chosen and didn't care as I just wanted everyone to be happy. They were cheap as the two sisters are stay at home mums- $130. bridesmaid A was the last to do her measurements. She did source and order the shoes but when they came hers didn't fit as she wanted so she took the MOHs saying they fit her better and sent the other shoes back telling my MOH she would have to order her own.
She was grumpy when the MOH tried to involve her in hens night planning. When the dresses arrived she refused to try them on then as she 'didnt have time'. At that time I tried to give her a large crystal brooch and gold leaf bad crystal head piece (not cheap) but she said the head piece would 'hurt her head' (before the had tried it) and waved it all away saying ' you bring it for me' so my MOH jumped in and said she found them fine and adjustable and she would look after them.
That's when the problems really started. I gave her the dress saying to try it on and call me as I was happy to make any changes people wanted. I asked her to ring and let me know how it went 3 times. I also emphasised I was totally flexible about changing the dresses.... I didn't hear from her for a week. Then I had another family member over for dinner who let slip that she had 'told bridesmaid A that there had been worse bridesmaid dresses at other people in the families weddings' and that bridesmaid A had been making changes to the dress ( taking out the boning altering the neck line). I was surprised and a little hurt she hadn't called me and I said so. The family member said if I felt I needed to be heard I should call her and talk about it. I called bridesmaid B to see if she had any issues with the dress and she said bridesmaid A ( her sister) had told her to bring it over and she would 'rip it up' but that she wasn't sure she wanted any changes so she hadn't. She was considering changing the material on the sleeves.
I said ok that would be fine I had other material in the same colours I just wanted to be involved so I could coordinate with the MOHs dress ( up until this point the dresses were ordered to be the same but I didn't mind having them all different. I just wanted to know and be involved. So I bit the bullet and rang Bridesmaid A. I asked her how the dress had gone and said I heard she'shad to make some changes. she said it wasnt sitting right on her and she removed the boning. I asked if that had helped and she said yes. I said great could you come over and show me, she then said 'oh and I also changed the kneckline. I said I felt a little hurt and disappointed that she hadn't included me or rung me bit did she like the dress better? She said yes. I said well that's the important thing. I got off the phone and a few hours later got an annoyed text saying she doesn't appreciate what just happened and felt i had no right to 'tell her off'. I ignored it and hoped she would come the next day with a positive attitude and we