I do not know if anyone else has gone through anything similar to this, either way here goes.
It all started with the invites, at the time my stepsister( who i dont really like or see) was living with an on/off boyfriend, I asked my parents what to put on the invite as i told them i didnt want just `anyone` coming to the wedding, they said to put a plus one at the time as i think my stepsister was on an `off` patch but they always seemed to make up almost straight away, so i did, I assumed this would be the end of it.....
Just before Christmas they broke up for good, i assumed she would not be bringing a plus one, i spoke to my parents and they said the same.
Time went by and no matter how hard i tried my parents didn't help with anything, i couldn't talk to them regarding wedding planning. They haven't contributed a single penny either, no interest what so ever.
Anyway, about 3 months ago, my dad phones me and says stepsister has a new bf, I said at this point he couldnt come to the ceremony and wedding breakfast as its only close friends and family, however he was welcome to evening disco.
My dad agreed to start, then he spoke to my stepmother, who quite frankly is a troublemaker anyway and we have never got on(she kicked me out of their house on my last GCSE exam day for no reason), then it caused my dad to think i was being totally unreasonable etc. He is totally brainwashed by this woman.
I had constant phonecalls and discussions with them about the saga, not just about that, but also about the fact they were not interested at all and that they feel like they can tell me who i have to invite etc. Even though i told them i didnt want a stranger at the wedding.
In the end i contacted my stepsister, told her we were short of spaces, which was true and that i assumed she wouldnt be bringing a guest, i did say the new bf was more than welcome to the evening do. I received a message back saying she wouldnt be attending and neither would her children who were supposed to be my page boy and bridesmaid. I left it at that.
Caused a massive issue with my parents it seems, the next time i saw my stepmother she was like a rottie, saying i had upset her daughter etc, which i havent as she uninvited herself because she couldnt get her own way and trying to cause trouble when it didnt involved her. It resulted in me telling her i didnt want her there as she was never a mother to me, alwayys causing trouble between my dad and i and how my dad is too scared to stand up to her.
Anyway, I havent spoke to anyone since bt my dad, who still doesnt give a hooter about wedding and not contributed a penny.
He made me go to my dress fitting alone, showed him picture and just said i look ideal, aparently his only role is to just walk me down aisle, he has now said he wont do a speech and also said, your mum has been dead for 21 years, what can i say...(its actually 24 years)
He is not bothered at all about the suit, and said to the guy, id rather watch the football( than go to wedding)
I spoke to him about how it made me feel that he wont make a speech and he isnt bothered, says to me, under the circumstances i cant (meaning my stepmother is not coming) what will people say, i told him no one will ask as not many people know her as the majority are friends and HTB family.
I have now told him not to come, its been going on for too long and making me ill. He is not bothered and didnt try and salvage at all. In fact he said, what will people say if he isnt there, i said i will think of something, I told him i do want him there but if he iisnt willing to be proud dad dont bother. HE wont do that for me.
There are a lot more things to this story but too much to even put into words.
Now i have no one at all to wal