Husband left after 3 months of marriage.
I really need people to chat to...I'd been with my partner for 8 years. We got married in August and after 3 months of marriage, he kind of just ran off and left me.
I'd been unhappy for the last month...stressful class that I teach, an Ofsted inspection, had a dodgy lung and also felt really lonely. My husband worked very late and he often came home at 8, would eat and then work until gone 10. I'd tried telling him I was unhappy and started getting so frustrated when he just didn't seem to do anything about it. I guess I just wanted him to make proper quality time for us in the evenings and start planning things for our future...holidays, things for the house etc. He said he could change etc but I guess nothing really happened and I continued to get more and more frustrated.
Half term came along and we were both supposed to go on holiday with his parents, who I really don't get on with as they have zero interest in me. We didn't go as I had a dodgy lung (pleurisy). I told him to go but he didn't. So, along comes the half term and I guess I have been so wound up at his lack of sympathy for my unhappiness that I just absolutely lost it. I told him I couldn't deal with being so lonely and bored ever single evening. It was really getting me down. He just didn't seem interested in anyway. He then decided to tell me how unhappy, miserable, sad and empty he is...which he hadn't told me before, probably because he has been so engrossed in his work!
We went back to my parents house during the half term for a few days and he was being miserable but I was trying to be more positive, saying how we would make an effort the next week by actually setting aside proper quality time to spend together in the evenings when he wasn't working till 10. We had a nice day on the Thursday, went for walks, to the pub and had lots of chats, so I felt more positive. The next morning we went into town as I was having my haircut so he was going to wait for me in town. I text after a bit to check he was ok and he responded by saying his auntie had picked him up and he was with her for the day. I was a little upset as we had made plans. Ever since that text he refused to see or speak to me. He text to say he needed space as he was so unhappy and couldn't face me. On Sunday he TEXT me to say the relationship wasn't working and he wanted to separate. This whole time he was refusing to communicate with me. He is still being awkward and isn't bothering with me. He wants to buy me out of the house as soon as possible so he can move on. He refuses to talk to me about his decision, only about the house. He has been so cold and emotionless towards me like the last 8 years have meant nothing. He then tells me that he has been unhappy for years. Why marry me then?????
I feel devastated and heartbroken. I know that this is probably for the best in the long term as I don't want to be with someone who does that to me and treats me with such little respect. But I'm finding it so difficult to cope with. My family, best friends and colleagues have been so amazing and supportive but it just feels like it won't ever get better and I just don't know how to deal with it.
I feel so hurt with the way he dealt with it and the way he is refusing to speak to me on the phone or face to face. He has been such a coward. I just don't understand. Only the other week he was sending me texts saying how much he loved and cared for me. I'm just so confused and shocked.
I know we had our problems but we've only been married 3 months and he didn't even want to support me when I was stressed and unhappy. I've sacrificed so much for him, I've left several jobs in order to move around for his work and moved away from my family. I've always supported him when he has been down and made sure he got help. He couldn't do the same for me. I am gutted.