Problems with father of the bride
Hi I am looking for advice i feel i am at my wits end with my own dad. To the point my fiance and him had a bit of an intense discussion yesterday. I feel i am on an emotional rollercoaster.
Since the engagement we havnt had his full backing no congratulations card and his non attendance at a little gathering we had. I suppose the background doesnt help my mum and dad divorced as mum had an affair with the man who is now my step dad. I get this is uncomfortable for my dad but it isnt fresh.. 12 years ago.
His whole attitude is really difficult. He says he is happy for us getting married but why at such a cost. It is expensive we chosen a stunning venue which we decided on as we are having help for my fiances parents who want to help and pay. Its very generous of them and i do feel guilty we are doing it this way constantly having to be reassured by them its fine. My dad doesnt like how we are happy to take it and it is a pride thing he can not match or contribute and we ate nit asking him to.
He got to the point he doesnt like the venue its too" flash" "who do i think i am some kind of celebrity" "valley people dont do it like this"
This was all very hurtful i get his point but it is not just my day and my partners family want to help.
I am just really stuck we have left it there he is not contributing but says he wants to give for the honeymoon...we didnt ask for this. His issue is with the day spending alot of money on one day.
I am really anxious i dont know if i even want to see him on the morning i dont want to get upset like i have been for the last year. Will he even behave on the day be happy and embrace it
I really just dont know what else to do..
Please any help