Hen Do - more hassle than it's worth
I wasn't really fussed about a hen do, it's just something people do, isn't it? I just wanted dinner with friends and the Mums. I didn't want anything boozy, or over the top, or expensive, or nights away. The whole thing was worrying my fiancé, what if his mum didn't enjoy herself, what if she had no one to talk to, what if nobody liked her etc. There are only 7 of us, 8 including me. All his worrying made me feel like I was causing a problem for everyone (I have this awful fear of putting people out, to the point where I didn't want to celebrate my birthday, for fear of inconveniencing people) and very nearly cancelled the whole thing. My mum and a friend reassured me that it's just one evening, round a friend's house, and that all was good.
He is still worrying that his mum won't like anyone, that no one will like her, that no one will talk to her, that she won't enjoy herself. Oh and I didn't invite his brother's girlfriends, not because we don't get on, she's a very lovely girl, but we are not remotely close, and when accidently left alone at a table we struggle with small talk. I didn't even realise she would want to come. He has found out I didn't ask her, so he invited her (!). She said she wouldn't go as she feels like an afterthought.
I'm making him sound very controlling, but he's absolutely not. He's just worrying about everyone else, he's just trying to put out potential fires before they happen. He had good intentions, but this has just made it all worse. It led to an argument last night, 2nd one in 4 years. We're all patched up now but now I desperately don't want this hen do. It's just caused problem after problem, and I especially don't want it causing tension between us. It's not for another 3 weeks, I have three weeks of stressing about it, I just want it over with. I don't want people being upset because of me, I just wanted to be his wife.
I feel like it's consuming me and I've still got 3 weeks to get this night over with, it's 7 weeks to the wedding. All this other stuff is nawing at me and putting me off doing the exciting wedding stuff, as I'm worried I'm going to taint the good stuff with all this negative stuff.